willular saidI call lots of my guy friends (both gay and straight) my buds or buddies. I refer to my husband as "my guy".
For my first relationship starting in the 1970s the term "lovers" were applied to us but neither of us liked it. He died in 1995. Shortly afterward I was involved with a 2nd man. I never referred to him as my lover and even corrected people who did. I just said he was in a relationship with me.
Rid of him in 1998, and two recuperative years later, I began my 3rd relationship. He referred to me as 'his guy'... and It had a nice feel to it. The idea of referring to a man as my husband or myself as his husband just does not feel right. It implies a feminine role for one or the other of us.
I like hearing gay men in relationships referring to their mates as their guys.
Keep it up.