All my small and average guys

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    Feb 17, 2015 10:55 PM GMT
    Hey Guys. A couple questions for my brothers with small to average endowments. Has your size ever been a factor in the bedroom? Do you find yourself not engaging other guys as much as you would like because of your size?

    I'm 29. Came out pretty late by today's standards at 26. I'm text book average in the package department, so there shouldn't be a problem, but I can't help feeling a deep sense of inadequacy. So much is made of big penises, and due to some weird twist of fate, I've encountered enough of them to be really skeptical about the "average rates". I mean, I can't tell you how many of my friends are packing atleast 7". I'm decent looking, I work hard to keep in very good shape, and I've had some beautiful men seem to be very interested in me. But by the time a guy I'm introduced to at a bar or lunch with friends is flirting with me, I've already had to endure a conversation about so and so's great huge cock, and knowing that I can't measure up, I've physically pushed off guys with movie stars looks/bodies, because I'm so uncomfortable.

    Any of you been able to overcome insecurity? Do you find that even in all the noise about big ol' dicks that size really doesn't matter? I'd really love to put myself out there and have some fun, but I just keep stopping myself.

    *Please no added quips from the size queen department. We already know how you feel.
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    Feb 18, 2015 12:29 AM GMT
    Either you suck it up, or you keep feeling insecure. Other option is to lie how hung you are. That's how it is, especially if you're hooking up with some random stranger. That is pretty much the solution. Guys would beat around the bush, but once guys have made up their mind in terms of "preferences", you can't do much about it. Yes, size matters, ask any size queen.
  • NeuralShock

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    Feb 18, 2015 12:37 AM GMT
    Size has rarely been a consideration of mine, but that is just me. I much rather care if you have an awesome set of glutes so that when that pickaxe comes down it comes down hard.

    Do your deadlifts.

    Edit: I've actually seen many TOO BIG and had to reject the guy because that would cause some serious damage to me. icon_lol.gif

    Personally I do not understand the fascination with such large size... it would seriously damage me, some of those guys out there.

    Aaaand... I have been rejected in return (by different guys of course) because of my large size in return. It's a sort of... two way street. Not that I exactly care about my size.
  • tazzari

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    Feb 18, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    Never been an issue with me. The guys who sit around and bang on about cock size aren't the sort of person I'd want for a friend or lover. People matter. Character matters. The rest is insecurity.
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    Feb 18, 2015 7:25 AM GMT
    tazzari saidNever been an issue with me. The guys who sit around and bang on about cock size aren't the sort of person I'd want for a friend or lover. People matter. Character matters. The rest is insecurity.


    I'm searching for groups to hang out with and lovers to enjoy for whom it isn't always such a damn sticking point (no pun intended). It drives me nuts, because I get how seeing a huge one is visually hot, but damn man, that shit hurts. I'm all about my average dudes.
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    Feb 18, 2015 7:48 AM GMT
    It's a biological fact that nerve density is greater in small penises. From personal field research I've found this to be seemingly true. icon_wink.gif Go down hard on a teeny weenie and the dude's trembling with pleasure and all but screaming! I lust after the horse hung like all the guys, on the one hand. OTOH if somebody drops trou to reveal no more than 3-5 inches it's like winning on a scratch ticket. It's that much easier to run through your entire bj skill set & he LOVES it.

    Small AND uncut is a win-win!
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    Feb 18, 2015 7:52 AM GMT
    __morphic__ saidEither you suck it up, or you keep feeling insecure. Other option is to lie how hung you are. That's how it is, especially if you're hooking up with some random stranger. That is pretty much the solution. Guys would beat around the bush, but once guys have made up their mind in terms of "preferences", you can't do much about it. Yes, size matters, ask any size queen.


    So what does that mean when you say that size matters? Are all small and average guys supposed to just close up shop and not seek sex, cause they don't have the equipment to please a partner?
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    Feb 18, 2015 2:02 PM GMT
    nitroman5 said
    __morphic__ saidEither you suck it up, or you keep feeling insecure. Other option is to lie how hung you are. That's how it is, especially if you're hooking up with some random stranger. That is pretty much the solution. Guys would beat around the bush, but once guys have made up their mind in terms of "preferences", you can't do much about it. Yes, size matters, ask any size queen.


    So what does that mean when you say that size matters? Are all small and average guys supposed to just close up shop and not seek sex, cause they don't have the equipment to please a partner?

    Apply the same logic to average looking guys, not muscled/fit guys. How do you think they are surviving? Yeah, small or average guys don't have the equipment to satisy size queens. An average looking guy with better endowment can get laid easily in comparison to a good looking guy on the smaller side. That's how it works in hook-up world. Would you date/hook-up with some fat or unattractive guy??
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    Feb 18, 2015 7:51 PM GMT

    Apply the same logic to average looking guys, not muscled/fit guys. How do you think they are surviving? Yeah, small or average guys don't have the equipment to satisy size queens. An average looking guy with better endowment can get laid easily in comparison to a good looking guy on the smaller side. That's how it works in hook-up world. Would you date/hook-up with some fat or unattractive guy?? [/quote]

    According to your logic is doesn't matter if I would hook up with some fat or unattractive guy. If he's got a big dick, he's the one who wouldn't hook up with me.
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    Feb 18, 2015 11:49 PM GMT
    nitroman5 said

    According to your logic is doesn't matter if I would hook up with some fat or unattractive guy. If he's got a big dick, he's the one who wouldn't hook up with me.

    If he is a size queen, most probably, he won't. I don't know how long you've been in the scene, but that's how it goes.
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    Feb 19, 2015 12:02 AM GMT
    It's so much better to bottom for someone who isn't hung.
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    Feb 19, 2015 5:38 PM GMT
    __morphic__ said
    nitroman5 said

    According to your logic is doesn't matter if I would hook up with some fat or unattractive guy. If he's got a big dick, he's the one who wouldn't hook up with me.

    If he is a size queen, most probably, he won't. I don't know how long you've been in the scene, but that's how it goes.


    Thanks for your help. I guess I'll just chopped the dick off that I have (since its seemingly worthless) and join a convent.
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    Feb 19, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    nitroman5 said

    Thanks for your help. I guess I'll just chopped the dick off that I have (since its seemingly worthless) and join a convent.

    Well, if your life is centered around your dick and fucking the hottest guy, may be, you should try something less drastic instead of chopping off your dick. Just one thing, which is out of your control, is making you feel so insecure and worthless. Only thing I can say is not every gay is a size queen. You just have to get over the fact that every walking piece of hot ass isn't accessible for you.
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    Feb 19, 2015 9:24 PM GMT
    It's all relative. I'm a chub 7.5 X 6, uncut. It's not so much the length as the volume. I've met a few guys who put me to 'shame' (not really) they were just bigger. You just have to be better at what you do!

    Intimacy and passion trumps size. Kissing, rimming, massage, finesse, desire and ability can easily make up for 1/2 an inch. lol

    Speaking of 'relative' some guys are into HUGE toys and FFing. No one can realistically compare to that! It's sort of reverse intimidation by the bottom....."I can take 14!!!" I eschew that sort of extreme.
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    Feb 19, 2015 9:49 PM GMT
    nitroman5 saidI've already had to endure a conversation about so and so's great huge cock, and knowing that I can't measure up, I've physically pushed off guys with movie stars looks/bodies, because I'm so uncomfortable.

    Sounds to me like it's in the OP's head. I don't see anywhere in his post where he says that he's been queried about his dick size, or that people have declined to continue dating him and he suspects it's because of his dick size. Seems like some guys just like to set themselves up for failure.
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    Feb 19, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
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    nitroman5 saidI've already had to endure a conversation about so and so's great huge cock, and knowing that I can't measure up, I've physically pushed off guys with movie stars looks/bodies, because I'm so uncomfortable.

    Sounds to me like it's in the OP's head. I don't see anywhere in his post where he says that he's been queried about his dick size, or that people have declined to continue dating him and he suspects it's because of his dick size. Seems like some guys just like to set themselves up for failure.


    You're probably right man. That's part of the reason I was hoping to hear some other guys experiences, for some sense of solidarity I guess. I'm still relatively inexperienced when it comes to guys. And yeah man, I'm 6'2 200 pound muscular afro-american guy, so I'm queried about my size relentlessly. Grindr is basically a mine field.

    I was hoping this might be more than a "does size matter" thread. I was just curious what regular guys go through in a culture obsessed with size.