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Anybody know how I could go about finding a great roommate? I have never shared my townhouse before, but I am thinking now would be a good time to save on some expenses... Thanks!

After my ex and I broke up, I put an ad up on Craigslist. I had low hopes, since I was looking for a roommate ASAP during an off-season time (mid-November). However, I just so happened to find someone in my same predicament, and she moved in within two weeks of coming to look at the place. Since then, it's been an ideal arrangement. We've helped each other through the healing process and have become very close friends. I will be the first to warn that my situation may have been sheer luck/serendipity; however, it's definitely worth a shot. Just be sure to trust your intuitions when you meet the potential roommate.

Good luck!
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About a year ago I used Craigslist to find a roommate situation but everybody either wanted sex, a roommate with benefits, or was on disability. I don't mind someone being on disability but I also would not like someone being there ALLLL the time.

You should check to see if there is a roommate service in your area. Some actually have a questionnaire to match up gay people as roommates or other types of roommates.

My advice is to meet them first. A talk over a cup of coffee could save you a ton of trouble.

Good luck.

I have used roommates.com before, and have found the people I lived with from there are some of my closest friends. Good luck.

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I used Craigslist to search for a new place a few months after my breakup and ended up with a straight couple around my age. It was probably the smartest decision I've made since the end of the relationship. We all get along so well and talk about all sorts of things. The guy even gave me a BJJ lesson over the holidays and his girlfriend was mad that she was out of the country and couldn't see it.

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Best advice I could offer is to sit down and have a discussion with him or her - clarifying matters of importance to you, such as: Smoking or no; loud music or no; guests overnight; cleanliness (oh God, how important that one is - if you are clean and he is not, you've got trouble!). If you don't discuss some of these things beforehand, you could end up going through Hell for awhile, and looking for a new roommate all over again. If you do this right, you will end up with someone good and it will last a long time.

Hey thanks everyone! Hoping to find a cool roomie soon...

UVaRob9 saidI used Craigslist to search for a new place a few months after my breakup and ended up with a straight couple around my age. It was probably the smartest decision I've made since the end of the relationship. We all get along so well and talk about all sorts of things. The guy even gave me a BJJ lesson over the holidays and his girlfriend was mad that she was out of the country and couldn't see it.

BJJ lesson?

I've had at least one new roommate every semester for the last two years (mostly due to graduations, exchanges, etc.) and I've had great luck on craigslist. If you interview the people who are interested you can't really go wrong. Don't settle for a mediocre person just to save some money on the bills, wait until you find someone who you actually get along with who won't screw you over. Good luck!

I've always used Craigslist.

From experience going through people you know doesn't seem to pan out in the long run. I love my friends but living with someone you know on a personal level seems to brew trouble.

Living with people who share a few interests or living habits yet have their own lives and social circles has worked out the best in my experience.

m59254 said

UVaRob9 saidI used Craigslist to search for a new place a few months after my breakup and ended up with a straight couple around my age. It was probably the smartest decision I've made since the end of the relationship. We all get along so well and talk about all sorts of things. The guy even gave me a BJJ lesson over the holidays and his girlfriend was mad that she was out of the country and couldn't see it.

BJJ lesson?

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, not anything involving blowjobs. I don't have that fantasy about straight guys. I really was trying to learn how to grapple, I swear.

yeah... and you were totally detached the whole time hahaha