I'm falling for this guy

  • joethick

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    Feb 20, 2015 5:10 AM GMT
    so I've recently accepted that I'm bi, maybe a bit on the gay side. i found this guy and we have a lot in common, scruffy face, great smile and i look forward to our conversations. I'm starting to really like him, we've been on two dates and havnt gotten to any physical part what so ever.

    is there a certain number of dates any of you go on before becoming physical?
    any advise on dating?

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    Feb 20, 2015 11:56 AM GMT
    joethick saidso I've recently accepted that I'm bi, maybe a bit on the gay side. i found this guy and we have a lot in common, scruffy face, great smile and i look forward to our conversations. I'm starting to really like him, we've been on two dates and havnt gotten to any physical part what so ever.

    is there a certain number of dates any of you go on before becoming physical?
    any advise on dating?



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  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 20, 2015 2:53 PM GMT
    Nope. Don't play games. Don't be afraid to say how you feel. Don't be afraid to do what your body wants. You won't get pregnant. He will respect you in the morning. You may find love. But stay safe until you feel comfortable having a conversation about testing. And have fun! Laugh and be honest with him about how you're doing. Most good guys won't mind going slow with a newbie. Good luck!
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    Feb 20, 2015 2:57 PM GMT
    Pretty sure you're not gay--two dates nothing physical?
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    Feb 20, 2015 3:38 PM GMT
    joethick said
    is there a certain number of dates any of you go on before becoming physical?
    any advise on dating?

    Yah kinda go by instinct, where it leads the 2 of you. It's almost an art.

    Most of the time I was in bed with the guy first time we met, but then I sensed that's what he wanted, too. I wasn't wrong. The relationships with both my partners (the first until he died, the current at 8 years this month) and both my LTR BFs, each of 2 years, began with bedding him the first night.

    There's no text book answer. It may be longer, or immediate. And I don't know how to advise you the way you'll know it. Because naturally he's part of the equation, too.
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    Feb 20, 2015 4:39 PM GMT
    When both of you will feel comfortable to do so ...Communication is very important in any kind or relationship .
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    Feb 20, 2015 4:41 PM GMT
    Everyone is different. Personally, the more I like the guy the longer I prefer to wait before having sex because I think it can cloud judgement. It's certainly not going to hurt anything to hold off but it (can) complicate things if you have sex too soon. But that doesn't hold true for everyone. Just do what you feel is right.
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    Feb 21, 2015 4:01 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidPretty sure you're not gay--two dates nothing physical?



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    Dude, don't listen to that guy. Take your time. If he likes you, he will respect you and support you till you are ready to have sex.
  • Marko89

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    Feb 21, 2015 5:47 PM GMT
    Chase646 said
    dustin_K_tx saidPretty sure you're not gay--two dates nothing physical?



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    Dude, don't listen to that guy. Take your time. If he likes you, he will respect you and support you till you are ready to have sex.


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  • flahotstuff

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    Feb 21, 2015 9:16 PM GMT
    Jump on him!!
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    Feb 21, 2015 10:42 PM GMT
    joethick, keep your heart safe. icon_redface.gif Don't fall for him!icon_evil.gif Let him chase and show interest first. You can go ahead and have sex with him if you want, but don't invest too much emotionally too soon, it is not worth it!icon_neutral.gif I hope that you are the exception to the rule and that everything will be fantastic between the two of you, but just don't invest more than you get.
  • mybud

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    Feb 22, 2015 4:28 AM GMT
    GameOverPaladin saidjoethick, keep your heart safe. icon_redface.gif Don't fall for him!icon_evil.gif Let him chase and show interest first. You can go ahead and have sex with him if you want, but don't invest too much emotionally too soon, it is not worth it!icon_neutral.gif I hope that you are the exception to the rule and that everything will be fantastic between the two of you, but just don't invest more than you get.
    If I become jaded like this guy..Take me out and shoot me.
  • joethick

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    Feb 23, 2015 4:36 AM GMT
    thanks guys! I'm taking it slow and he's being patient! its looking good icon_smile.gif