Straight dads with gay sons read from book titled I Think I'm a Poof

  • metta

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    Feb 21, 2015 5:16 AM GMT
    Straight dads with gay sons read from book titled I Think I'm a Poof
  • bobbobbob

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    Feb 21, 2015 6:46 AM GMT
    Thanks for finding and posting this Metta.

    This is part of my #1 charitable activity. Last year alone I believe I met and worked with at least a dozen new fathers of gay teens through my association with PFLAG and word of mouth referrals.

    One of the first things these fathers have to move past is the remorse they are in some way responsible for their sons being gay. That's quick to remedy when I tell them I raised a son and step son who turned out straight. Seven years ago my stepson even went through it when his youngest son came out at fifteen. Today they're inseparable and work together five, six and seven days a week.

    The toughest cases to deal with are the ones where the boys come out after high school and have given their parents false illusions of heterosexuality either by intentionally covering it up or by lack of honest communication between the parents and boy. They have a valid reason to feel they've been deceived, cut out of their sons' lives and have a great deal of work to do in order to create a positive relationship.

    But I've not yet one father or mother yet who hasn't eventually get around to admitting suspicions about their sons during their younger years.
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    Feb 22, 2015 12:12 AM GMT
    I would imagine most parents in the West would deal with it a lot easier than 20 years ago, where most straight people have gay friends, in some cases I think it would be easier for a Son to come out as gay, than to say he was Muslim, in general I find there is a lot more hostility towards people of a different religion than to what peoples sexual orientation is.