Does Anyone Else Think This Way?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 22, 2015 2:43 AM GMT
    Does anyone else NOT have FWB? I don't believe in having sex with friends or having a continuous sexual relationship with someone deemed as a friend. Also is that really different than an open relationship? I just feel like the lines have been blurred so much that traditional monogamous relationships are left in the dark.

    So do people just hookup until they find a connection or actually go on dates and get to know someone first? When they say they are "open" or looking for relationship but having fun along the way are they really ready for a relationship when it comes since it's supposed to be an unexpected thing? I feel like I am the only one who thinks that you should say what you really want and not worry about what it may be perceived as by anyone else.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Feb 22, 2015 3:08 AM GMT
    Well first if your not seeing anyone and have a fwb then it's not an open relationship because you're not in one. And if you state that you should date and get to know someone and make a choice to have a relationship as a result of those experiences how can you then say it is supposed to be an unexpected thing?
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    Feb 22, 2015 4:04 AM GMT
    I think FWB is a misnomer; I prefer the old term, fuck buddy.

    A fuck buddy wasn't a friend but someone you had good sex with. One of you went to the other guy's place and had hot steamy sex and then went home. No cuddling or sleeping over, just fucking. And you've gotten to know the guy to know that he's not your type emotionally, or doesn't have similar tastes and interests, or whatever, so you know he can't be your boyfriend, but the sex is still enjoyable.
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    Feb 22, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidWell first if your not seeing anyone and have a fwb then it's not an open relationship because you're not in one. And if you state that you should date and get to know someone and make a choice to have a relationship as a result of those experiences how can you then say it is supposed to be an unexpected thing?

    I'm guessing that he means that you're having sex with the same guy because it's good and you may be doing other stuff together and then you unexpectedly realize that you're in a relationship because you're starting to have stronger feelings for him. But again, that's not what I'd call a fuck buddy, and the term FWB is confusing.
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    Feb 22, 2015 8:56 PM GMT
    " you should say what you really want and not worry about what it may be perceived as by anyone else."

    Good words to live by, OP, not matter what your goals.

    "Intention" is everything.

    Know that your goal is to find a mate, and don't be shy about expressing it.

    But at the same time, don't pressure every date into committing.

    You still have to date, have fun with each other, before you can decide on a future together.
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    Feb 23, 2015 12:50 AM GMT
    SamRising said" you should say what you really want and not worry about what it may be perceived as by anyone else."

    Good words to live by, OP, not matter what your goals.

    "Intention" is everything.

    Know that your goal is to find a mate, and don't be shy about expressing it.

    But at the same time, don't pressure every date into committing.

    You still have to date, have fun with each other, before you can decide on a future together.


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  • Beeftastic

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    Feb 23, 2015 3:41 AM GMT
    Well around here the guys I know that have FWB, usually don't have just one, but several. So that kind of takes the relationship/special thing out of the equation.
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    Feb 23, 2015 8:56 AM GMT
    I don't have a Fuck buddy/friend with benefit, whatever you call it. Actually, there were 2 guys in my past that wanted this and I didn't. ONe guy had strong feelings for me and I didn't feel him... and I had strong feelings for the other guy, he broke my heart and chased after someone else. Honestly, I'd be too jealous to have sex casually and see the man I like to be banging or hitting on another dude. So yeah, I'm kinda old-fashioned. I'm not going to sleep or fuck you if I'm not into you both physically and emotionally.