PSI's - (Personal Space Invaders)

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    Feb 22, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
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    I've always noticed that some people have no concept of personal space. You know.....the type who stand very very close while talking to you? It's not been a big issue in my life because up until now it's always been just acquaintances or strangers who do this, but now I have someone in my life that I must see on a daily basis and I'm not sure what to do about it.

    We were having a conversation on the sidewalk yesterday and I swear his face was about six inches from mine. I kept backing up the entire time and finally maneuvered a lamp post between us. I figured that should be pretty obvious but no, he just kept on talking and moved around the lamp post to get all up in my grill again. Finally I ended up backing up to the point I almost fell off the curb and into oncoming traffic. This is a very sensitive person so I can't think of a way to tell him without him freaking out and being hurt. But I know if I don't do something soon I'm going to reach my breaking point and blurt out something horribly rude like "back the fuck up!" icon_eek.gif

    Any of you guys have any experience dealing with people like this? What do I do? And where did they learn this is acceptable? And before you say he's got a crush on me, that's not the case because I've seen him do it to other people as well. Advice please.
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    Feb 22, 2015 3:34 PM GMT
    I have always used the, "I'm sorry...I'm not trying to be offensive, but I'm just one of those people with serious personal space issues...do you mind stepping back a couple of steps? Nothing personal, it's just one of my many neurosis."
    Then I usually laugh it off and make a joke about needing to see a therapist or something.
    This usually works for me.
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    Feb 22, 2015 3:36 PM GMT
    Yea, i've just said "Hey back up a bit you're crowding me" and then continue on the conversation before they get a chance to get upset or offended.
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    Feb 22, 2015 6:07 PM GMT
    Put your hand on their chest to keep them in place, step back and and say this is close enough. Happens again and you help them back up.
  • Marko89

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    Feb 22, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
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    I've always noticed that some people have no concept of personal space. You know.....the type who stand very very close while talking to you? It's not been a big issue in my life because up until now it's always been just acquaintances or strangers who do this, but now I have someone in my life that I must see on a daily basis and I'm not sure what to do about it.

    We were having a conversation on the sidewalk yesterday and I swear his face was about six inches from mine. I kept backing up the entire time and finally maneuvered a lamp post between us. I figured that should be pretty obvious but no, he just kept on talking and moved around the lamp post to get all up in my grill again. Finally I ended up backing up to the point I almost fell off the curb and into oncoming traffic. This is a very sensitive person so I can't think of a way to tell him without him freaking out and being hurt. But I know if I don't do something soon I'm going to reach my breaking point and blurt out something horribly rude like "back the fuck up!" icon_eek.gif

    Any of you guys have any experience dealing with people like this? What do I do? And where did they learn this is acceptable? And before you say he's got a crush on me, that's not the case because I've seen him do it to other people as well. Advice please.


    I've had this happen before too, but in my case I'm certain he was interested in me. He also kept shouting, I swear I wound up half deaf at the end of the night. On top of that he kept spitting all over me. It was fucking annoying to say the least man.
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    Feb 22, 2015 10:22 PM GMT
    I dealt with this last Friday, not once, but twice.
    One was a temp worker that stood too close while I checked his work, and the other was a female boss lady that loves the way I smell.. go figure.
    Both times, I actually walked around them and kept *silently* spacing myself from both till they got the message.
    I have yes, seen the chronic offenders that keep following you up close, no matter how many times you make a move.
    One time I tried to talk louder to see if they would move back since I pretended they couldn't hear me (hard of hearing) Try that...icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 22, 2015 11:21 PM GMT
    LOL. I work with people from different cultures/countries. Personal space seems to be an American thing. I really don't care anymore. As long as the other person doesn't spit while he talks or has foul odors coming from his mouth or body, that is.
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    Feb 23, 2015 12:44 AM GMT
    Or how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!
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    Feb 23, 2015 1:29 AM GMT
    TheBaise saidOr how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!


    Oh I hate this! They get so close that you can literally feel them breathing on you!
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    Feb 23, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
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    TheBaise saidOr how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!


    Oh I hate this! They get so close that you can literally feel them breathing on you!


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    Well, sometimes it depends on who's breathing on your neck. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 23, 2015 1:51 AM GMT
    Personal space is definitely cultural. even within the USA I always found Latin people (to include Italians) would talk very close.
    Back when I was a good church boy my parents pastor was a very close talker (Italian...) I used to stand with one foot in front of the other. He couldn't get within a foot of me without humping my leg.

    ^that muscle bear can hump my leg (all three) all he wants...
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    Feb 23, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    Radd said
    belovedpath said
    TheBaise saidOr how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!


    Oh I hate this! They get so close that you can literally feel them breathing on you!


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    Well, sometimes it depends on who's breathing on your neck. icon_redface.gif


    icon_lol.gif I might make an exception for him...if he's bo and halitosis free. icon_wink.gif
  • bro4bro

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    Feb 23, 2015 3:55 AM GMT
    I work with a lot of Asians (from Asia, not US born). The restroom on my floor has six urinals in a row. If I walk up and use the first one, an Asian guy will more often than not choose the one right beside me - instead of one of the other four empty ones!

    I always feel like saying, "What the FUCK is wrong with you???" but it would only cause confusion and fear.

    Thankfully there are dividers between the urinals. Whoever invented those deserves a Nobel prize.
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    Feb 23, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    If you've been in the military or played team sports, the urinal thing isn't a big deal. But I respect the personal spaces and insecurities of others. So I choose a urinal stall far away. icon_lol.gif

  • bro4bro

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    Feb 23, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    It's not a "big deal", it's just something you don't fucking do unless you're completely clueless about personal space or you're trying to get a look at a guy's dick.

    For most of my life, dividers didn't exist. And college dorms, locker rooms, etc usually had just two, side by side. Another guy steps up beside me and whips his dick out - no problem.

    But choosing the one right beside me when there are four others to choose from - that's just fucking creepy.
  • Apparition

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    Feb 23, 2015 5:00 AM GMT
    Talk with your hands more
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    Feb 23, 2015 5:14 AM GMT
    Or just walk around with one of these. icon_lol.gif

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    Feb 23, 2015 5:40 AM GMT
    I always thought personal space invaders were passé:

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  • NeuralShock

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    Feb 23, 2015 5:49 AM GMT
    Yeah I actively move all the time away.

    Like I need to be in a certain range or else I feel awkward talking, but if you get too close then I feel awkward and want to shrivel up and die.


    So just the perfect range... like water temperature in a shower or bath... too cold? Yick. Too hot? Gahh?!
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    Feb 23, 2015 6:00 AM GMT
    I also value personal space. But if it's a hot guy (like the pic above), he can invade my personal space all he wants. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Feb 23, 2015 7:48 AM GMT
    Radd said
    belovedpath said
    TheBaise saidOr how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!


    Oh I hate this! They get so close that you can literally feel them breathing on you!


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    Well, sometimes it depends on who's breathing on your neck. icon_redface.gif




    OMG, that guy is hawt, perfect man beast, husband material, add him to hot hairy thread icon_razz.gif


    Yeah, hate it when people stand right behind me when im using the ATM. A few times, checking out at the counter at CVS, putting my items on the counter, some people will stand right behind me, close enough to see my transaction on the POS, instead of waiting in line a few feet back when they call "next in line" . icon_mad.gif
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    Feb 23, 2015 8:10 AM GMT
    TheBaise saidOr how about the ones who / while in a line / get so close to the back of you that they give you a 'flat tire'. I mean they step on the back of your shoe. I feel like elbowing them / especially at a market. What's the hurry? Not going to get to the register one bit faster that way, buddy!

    I have experienced this a lot, especially in grocery stores, with immigrants from China. It's terribly annoying. There really ought to be mandatory classes for immigrants in which they are taught that it in the USA, you just don't stand close to people, and you don't push or cut in line.
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    Feb 23, 2015 1:59 PM GMT
    polfsky saidI also value personal space. But if it's a hot guy (like the pic above), he can invade my personal space all he wants. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif


    I bet you'd let him invade other spaces too. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 24, 2015 12:27 AM GMT
    It doesn't bother me at all , what bothers me is someone who has bad breath .
    I have spent 35 years sharing airplane galleys and believe me they aren't large , forget about having your personal space not stepped on ..lol...
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    Feb 24, 2015 1:19 AM GMT
    Radd said
    polfsky saidI also value personal space. But if it's a hot guy (like the pic above), he can invade my personal space all he wants. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif


    I bet you'd let him invade other spaces too. icon_lol.gif


    Of course I would. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif