My biggest problem with me.

  • bradleyDean

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    Feb 22, 2015 3:39 PM GMT
    So i guess the biggest problem i have with me is my inability to ask a guy out. I always seem too wary that he is probably straight or out of my league. This is probably an issue many people face, but nobody seems to talk about it.
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    Feb 22, 2015 4:09 PM GMT
    "Out of my league" has got to be the most egomaniacal phrase of the 2010's. It's the most disgusting when someone says it to someone else. But for you to internalize that horseshit, well, just stop it. Look at you. You are out of nobody's league. Nobody who matters, anyway.

    I have a copyrighted phrase for anyone who doesn't want me: "they can go fuck themselvesĀ©". You are welcomed to use it free and liberally whenever you find it applicable.

    Here, let's practice:

    I want to date you. You don't want to date me? Aw, go fuck yourself. See, it feels good. Now you try it.

    On a more serious note, as to not knowing, yeah, that's the mysterious gaydar and that's an issue for all of us. Welcome to our world. You are now officially a gay man (who's having trouble finding a date). Welcome to normal.
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    Feb 22, 2015 5:11 PM GMT
    Look at yourself, your definitely not out of anybody's league. If you wanna ask someone out you should go for it. I mean it kills to wonder if someone is straight or not and usually drives some people , like me, insane. Some research shows that some straight guys are flattered when they are asked out by gays. So you really got nothing to worry about.
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    Feb 22, 2015 5:59 PM GMT
    You are slammin' hot! Go for it!
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    Feb 22, 2015 7:02 PM GMT
    You have NOTHING to worry about as far as physical appearance goes. It will take a little time for You to really own that - but eventually You won't even give it a second thought...and TRULY You don't have to.

    Confidence too comes with time.

    Just be Yourself, let go of fears and expectations and they will all come to You anyway!!!

    As far as Gaydar goes...it can be very subtle. A look dead in the eye that lasts a second longer than usual. A handshake that is slightly more firm than expected with just an extra moment of contact. If coupled with the aforementioned lingering eye contact -- Yer in ( so to speak). If his attention is focused on You even in a group and he seems more interested in Your input than everyone else's, Yer good.

    Of course if He buys dinner, gives You a Philippe Patek and insists on making You breakfast the morning after - it's almost a dead give away...

    Just be the best You can be and everyone else will want to know You!!!

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  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 22, 2015 7:41 PM GMT
    I've asked straight guys out for a drink and have become good friends with them. Don't ever shy away from making friends, one of them might turn out to be the one.
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    Feb 22, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI've asked straight guys out for a drink and have become good friends with them. Don't ever shy away from making friends, one of them might turn out to be the one.


    I can't tell You how many times I have given the "raised eyebrow over heavily hooded eyes with a cocky crooked smirk" look to a Hot Dude across the room only to discover it was a Lesbian who looks better in a t-shirt than I do...

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    Feb 22, 2015 11:43 PM GMT
    You have nothing to worry about in looks department. icon_cool.gif
    Have more confidence in yourself icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 22, 2015 11:48 PM GMT
    Cash said
    AMoonHawk saidI've asked straight guys out for a drink and have become good friends with them. Don't ever shy away from making friends, one of them might turn out to be the one.


    I can't tell You how many times I have given the "raised eyebrow over heavily hooded eyes with a cocky crooked smirk" look to a Hot Dude across the room only to discover it was a Lesbian who looks better in a t-shirt than I do...

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    Glad I'm not the only one... it'd probably happen to me less if I wore my glasses...