Straight guy that's only but immensely attracted to fit men

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    Feb 22, 2015 7:46 PM GMT
    for the last four years I've carried a deep dark secret. One of the main reasons I selected the gym that I frequent multiple times a week is due to the high concentration of very attractive, very fit, gay men.
    I've played the "shower scenario" so many times in my head that it's impossible for me to be naked without getting hard around guys.
    It makes me feel guilty to hide this from my girlfriend whom I love very much and have a strong emotionally solid relationship with.
    I never suspected that I would desire gay sex so strongly. It's all very scary but at the same time I'm excited to explore New sexual avenues.

    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? If so I am that! lol
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    Feb 22, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    Str8ish saidfor the last four years I've carried a deep dark secret. One of the main reasons I selected the gym that I frequent multiple times a week is due to the high concentration of very attractive, very fit, gay men.
    I've played the "shower scenario" so many times in my head that it's impossible for me to be naked without getting hard around guys.
    It makes me feel guilty to hide this from my girlfriend whom I love very much and have a strong emotionally solid relationship with.
    I never suspected that I would desire gay sex so strongly. It's all very scary but at the same time I'm excited to explore New sexual avenues.

    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? If so I am that! lol


    Never heard of that one before @@ couldn't you just be bisexual but picky? (Sorry if this was offensive) Are you not attracted to D then unless they're on a fit guy?

    I'm sadly quite picky and am not attracted to men unless they keep fit and don't have much fat on them, if they do then meh.
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    Feb 22, 2015 8:39 PM GMT
    Str8ish saidfor the last four years I've carried a deep dark secret. One of the main reasons I selected the gym that I frequent multiple times a week is due to the high concentration of very attractive, very fit, gay men.
    I've played the "shower scenario" so many times in my head that it's impossible for me to be naked without getting hard around guys.
    It makes me feel guilty to hide this from my girlfriend whom I love very much and have a strong emotionally solid relationship with.
    I never suspected that I would desire gay sex so strongly. It's all very scary but at the same time I'm excited to explore New sexual avenues.

    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? If so I am that! lol


    Enjoy both, but recommend you share with GF, so she can stay with you if she wants. Many Gay men have been through this, often been married and had kids. Will save you a lot of grief, financial burdens and others to, if you work this out before you get entangled in a marriage, and have kids. Hope your practicing good birth control while your getting this worked out in your head. Who knows you might end up being totally gay, totally hetro or totally bi!
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    Feb 22, 2015 11:58 PM GMT
    You would be considered bi. I'm bi too and very picky. I only really want other muscular guys.
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    Feb 26, 2015 5:10 AM GMT
    Shoot, 'most every gay man is so "selective" it's ridiculous. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Got no time for switch hitters hiding behind their bitches & moaning about how harsh their life in the mainstream of society is. Sorry! icon_razz.gif (Nobody else catches the reek of troll?)
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 27, 2015 6:35 PM GMT
    GoCardinalsGo saidShoot, 'most every gay man is so "selective" it's ridiculous. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Got no time for switch hitters hiding behind their bitches & moaning about how harsh their life in the mainstream of society is. Sorry! icon_razz.gif (Nobody else catches the reek of troll?)


    Thank you. Bingo.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 27, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    Str8ish saidfor the last four years I've carried a deep dark secret. One of the main reasons I selected the gym that I frequent multiple times a week is due to the high concentration of very attractive, very fit, gay men.
    I've played the "shower scenario" so many times in my head that it's impossible for me to be naked without getting hard around guys.
    It makes me feel guilty to hide this from my girlfriend whom I love very much and have a strong emotionally solid relationship with.
    I never suspected that I would desire gay sex so strongly. It's all very scary but at the same time I'm excited to explore New sexual avenues.

    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? If so I am that! lol

    I've heard those words so many times it has become nothing more than a cliche to legitimize not coming out of the closet. Anybody that loves anybody so much actually finds it easy not to imagine themselves with anyone else.
  • iconoclast

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    Feb 27, 2015 10:39 PM GMT
    Well I think it's definitely possible to be hetero-amorous but homo- or bi-sexual... meaning you want a romantic relationship with a woman but desire sex with men or men and women.

    This is pretty much how I am too... I am married to a woman and happy with that, can't imagine a life partnership with a man and I enjoy sex with my wife... BUT sometimes when I see hot men (especially at the gym) I want to try that type of sex too, just for the physical experience. Based on the number of married men I see at the gym and their behavior in the showers (not all of them but surprisingly many) I'd say this isn't as uncommon as you might think. Of course some of them could be closet cases, and I suspect lots of guys on here would contend that we're all closet cases.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 27, 2015 10:56 PM GMT
    I think it usually means you're gay but culturally have been conditioned to want women. The situation you're in is quite common and can be maintained only so long. Usually, you get married and punch out some kids and everything is good because you do love your wife and the kids are, well, they're your kids and you love them more than anything. But it unravels when the kids start getting older, say 4 or 5, and your wife recovers from the exhaustion of having and raising babies. Her sexual drive returns and you've just had a nice, long period when your sexual disinterest is not only un-noticed, it is appreciated. And suddenly, everything is not so good for her. And then it is a nightmare for you.

    Trust me, I've been there. And like you, I truly loved her and the sex was good for a long, long while.

    The only way you can know, is to find a guy you like an awful lot and develop a sexual relationship and give it an honest go. Only then will you know if you need to be with a man or a woman. But understand, finding the right guy is just as important as finding the right girl. It takes a while and a lot of luck. Be honest with everyone.
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    Feb 28, 2015 12:29 AM GMT
    Let's be honest here. How good is your relationship with your girlfriend if you are keeping deep dark secrets? Be compassionate to her and to yourself, tell her what you're going through, and break up. Then explore the world of men for a while. Eventually, you'll find a guy that you really like. That's how a lot of people do it.
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    Feb 28, 2015 1:39 AM GMT
    Sweetie, you're gay.

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  • mystery905

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    Feb 28, 2015 1:50 AM GMT
    You're just gay period. Just because you have taste like most of us do doesn't make you special.
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    Feb 28, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidSweetie, you're gay.

    /thread.

    This. So many men have hard time accepting their homosexuality. For a young gay man, I can understand it could be confusing. But these middle aged man still struggling with their sexuality is depressing. I wish you find happiness in your life sooner, picky or not.
  • mybud

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    Feb 28, 2015 3:59 AM GMT
    Str8ish saidfor the last four years I've carried a deep dark secret. One of the main reasons I selected the gym that I frequent multiple times a week is due to the high concentration of very attractive, very fit, gay men.
    I've played the "shower scenario" so many times in my head that it's impossible for me to be naked without getting hard around guys.
    It makes me feel guilty to hide this from my girlfriend whom I love very much and have a strong emotionally solid relationship with.
    I never suspected that I would desire gay sex so strongly. It's all very scary but at the same time I'm excited to explore New sexual avenues.

    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? If so I am that! lol
    Ya you're str8..Straight until our cocks touch...
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    Feb 28, 2015 5:32 AM GMT

    Just sayin'


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    Feb 28, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
    Str8ish said...
    Is it possible to be straight and selectively gay? ...
    Almost...

    It's called pansexual, where you're attracted to a certain body type or personality. That body type or personality may be present in men or women.

    Personally, I'm also only attracted to a certain body type, or certain range of body types (fit, athletic, defined, etc). There have been a few women who have that body type, but not many.

    This doesn't mean you're gay or straight. It means you're particular about what you like. It doesn't mean you have to label yourself, unless you enjoy the word pansexual, which sounds really funny.
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    Feb 28, 2015 6:45 AM GMT
    GoCardinalsGo saidShoot, 'most every gay man is so "selective" it's ridiculous. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    2 Posts - been a member less than 1 week - trollish post.

    Sure sounds like trolling.
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    Mar 01, 2015 10:33 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    GoCardinalsGo saidShoot, 'most every gay man is so "selective" it's ridiculous. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    2 Posts - been a member less than 1 week - trollish post.

    Sure sounds like trolling.
    not necessarily. He is a new member that is facing uncertain issues regarding his sexuality. He says that he is straight but after reading through his profile and this forum thread, I think it is time for him to face hard facts about himself. He is not totally heterosexual, he is a bisexual. Yes I would sit down and talk to his girlfriend about this situation and be honest about it if I were him. He appears to be very attractive and very athletic. A very down to earth kind of guy.