no face photos after request

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    Feb 26, 2015 1:41 AM GMT
    Hi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys, neither who has a face pic on their profiles. (I do).
    I asked politely if they would share their face photos, as I said it would be nice to see the person (rather than the torso) to whom I am speaking. I also said it levels the playing field because they can see my photos.
    Never heard from both of them again. Obviously, they are hiding something. and don't want to be forthcoming. I risk sounding naive, but I can't figure out why people do things like this. I mean, What's the point?
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    Feb 26, 2015 1:46 AM GMT
    LorTO saidHi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys, neither who has a face pic on their profiles. (I do).
    I asked politely if they would share their face photos, as I said it would be nice to see the person (rather than the torso) to whom I am speaking. I also said it levels the playing field because they can see my photos.
    Never heard from both of them again. Obviously, they are hiding something. and don't want to be forthcoming. I risk sounding naive, but I can't figure out why people do things like this. I mean, What's the point?


    Sometimes the answer is in the question.
  • Tig3r

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    Feb 26, 2015 1:50 AM GMT
    Radd said
    LorTO saidHi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys, neither who has a face pic on their profiles. (I do).
    I asked politely if they would share their face photos, as I said it would be nice to see the person (rather than the torso) to whom I am speaking. I also said it levels the playing field because they can see my photos.
    Never heard from both of them again. Obviously, they are hiding something. and don't want to be forthcoming. I risk sounding naive, but I can't figure out why people do things like this. I mean, What's the point?


    Sometimes the answer is in the question.
    True story, I never meet up with anyone without a face. This guy sent me an old picture and refused to send a new one, tried to meet up with him and found that he was nothing like his picture, so much that I didnt even park the car.
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    Feb 26, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    all great feedback. Thank you gentlemen.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Feb 26, 2015 2:16 AM GMT
    Radd said
    LorTO saidHi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys, neither who has a face pic on their profiles. (I do).
    I asked politely if they would share their face photos, as I said it would be nice to see the person (rather than the torso) to whom I am speaking. I also said it levels the playing field because they can see my photos.
    Never heard from both of them again. Obviously, they are hiding something. and don't want to be forthcoming. I risk sounding naive, but I can't figure out why people do things like this. I mean, What's the point?


    Sometimes the answer is in the question.


    Agree! but I can also understand the fears behind not wanting to post a self pic! this is the internet, so you meet all kinds of people you don't know anything about, and what their real intentions really are!? familiar? and while it can also happen when meeting someone face to face, meeting someone face to face one can tell a lot about a stranger, as their lies and intentions are more easily detectable vs figuring someone online by words alone before you meet! I have met a few worthwhile long time friends online, but most of them remains as "online friends" NOT real friends!personally I don't trust anyone who after a few exchanges of e-mails/text messages, do not share a recent picture with me! my best advice is to look for friends/dates/ or whatever in real life! good luck
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    Feb 26, 2015 6:43 AM GMT
    For future online chats, ask for a pic before you get deep in the conversation. You'll save a lot of time.
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    Feb 26, 2015 6:51 AM GMT
    LorTO saidHi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys...

    Who initiated the contact? You or them?
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    Feb 26, 2015 7:40 AM GMT
    Who knows what's the point? They are just bored and playing games? If your goal was an eventual sexual or dating encounter, they probably weren't real, or weren't what they said they were. OTOH, there has been a lot of sturm and drang in the last year or so about people stealing other's pics, and using them for god knows what on the internet. A lot of guys here who used to have face pics posted, no longer do, for that reason. Although, if that were someone's concern, they might have said so instead of breaking off contact.
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    Feb 26, 2015 7:55 AM GMT
    Ignore pictureless/blank profiles.
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    Feb 26, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
    There are three types of people out there...whether it be this website, or other dating-type websites...the people who openly share information, the people who are a little more shy and/or cautious but, when asked, will share additional info, and then there are the catfish, who want to know everything about YOU but tell you very little about THEM...and believe me, you will FEEL something is amiss, based on the info they DO share...there is an awful lot of truth in the old addage "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is."

    Some guys are just less apt to share information, or carry on longer email conversations, or even share pictures in the beginning, and it could be for a variety of reasons, including the fact that perhaps they, too, have been catfished before and now play things closer to the cuff. I have been catfished twice, on different sites, and knew within the first few email exchanges there was something odd about the person, what they were saying, or more importantly, what they were not saying. After those two experiences, I removed a lot of text I had in my profile here, as a precaution, and whether it's this site or any other, my viewpoint is everyone is suspect until I feel their character is honest and true, and they have made me feel comfortable in opening up somewhat. Having no recent facial photos is also a peeve of mine. I mean, we ALL have a camera on our phone now, it takes little effort to snap a decent selfie, if nothing else, and since the point of striking up conversation is getting to know them, yes, a picture is not asking too much...it's a social media site, for goodness sake! I am a very open person and don't mind sharing photos and the like, and if I strike up conversation with someone, once I feel comfortable, I don't mind opening up a little so they can get to know my personality. However, I expect the same in return. If it seems like I am the only one really saying anything, and the other person, although responsive, is a little too reserved or taciturn, I will lose interst quickly because I figure, what is the point in only one of us learning about the other? I also become wary of guys who never want to carry things further than email correspondence. In my mind, whether you are geographically close to one another, or a longer distance away...at some point, if there is interest there, you would think both parties would at least want to take things to another level, even if it's just telephone conversations, for instance. You never can truly gauge the chemistry between two people unless they meet in person, but being able to hear a person's voice, and how they sound and react to your own voice is definitely helpful, not to mention less confusing. Quite often, things typed on a computer screen can be misinterpreted when read by the receiver, whereas the same thing spoken over the telephone is crystal clear. I suppose it all boils down the the Golden Rule; if you don't feel you are receiving the same amount and/or quality of information you are giving the other person, I see nothing wrong in flat out asking them what's up? Maybe they don't realize they appear so secretive. Some people really don't mean to be, and don't realize it until you say something; if they have nothing to hide, they should open up after that; if they don't, then perhaps they really DO still have something to hide. Meeting and conversing with people online can be very tricky, because people are all so different. However, if someone is truly interested in you and truly wants to know more about you, they will be open with themselves, including their photos. It is completely natural for us to want to "put a face with the name" and have a visual of he person we are chatting with. If someone won't volunteer basic information such as a recent picture of themselves if asked, and you can actually hear them shuffling their feet, check 'em off and move on...
  • hotaeroboy

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    Feb 26, 2015 10:18 PM GMT
    even pics can be fake...best way is to cam to cam with the person for a minute to verify his picture in his profile...every laptop/iphone today has a cam built in to it. that way you aren't being fooled by someone...and trust me..there are a lot of fake profiles on this site and all the other gay chat/hookup sites.
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    Feb 26, 2015 11:23 PM GMT
    I only insist on cock picks. If I like your cock, I won't be looking at your face.
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    Feb 27, 2015 4:59 PM GMT
    I don't have any face photo on my public profile , but i have some in my "privates"
    I don't mind to share them with others blokes asking to see them .
  • NeuralShock

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    Feb 27, 2015 5:21 PM GMT
    NEVER meet up with someone who doesn't have a face pic. Every alarm bell should have been ringing in your head soon as they didn't immediately show you- this is a ridiculously huge red flag!

    Basic safety, also you need to know if they're your type or you're going to waste both of your time.


    So... point is, do not bother further with these guys. This is extremely suspicious behaviour.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 27, 2015 6:19 PM GMT
    I share my face pic only if I am planning to meet the guy. If not, what's the point?

    Sure, people are inquisitive, and feel that if they posted their mug shots here, everyone else should do the same. Nope. Your decisions are yours, and yours alone.

    Equally so, if a dude I am planning to meet, and he agrees to it refuses to send me his facepic, I simply move on. No need to waste time on people whom you will never see to start with.

    SC
  • Svnw688

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    Feb 27, 2015 6:28 PM GMT
    hotaeroboy saideven pics can be fake...best way is to cam to cam with the person for a minute to verify his picture in his profile...every laptop/iphone today has a cam built in to it. that way you aren't being fooled by someone...and trust me..there are a lot of fake profiles on this site and all the other gay chat/hookup sites.


    Precisely. Facetime or webcam before you emotionally invest. If the person cannot figure out Facetime or a webcam, just like RealJock, get them to write the number [insert arbitrary number here] and have them snap a picture and send it to your phone.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 27, 2015 6:28 PM GMT
    I never bother if they don't have a face pic or don't look to be a legit face pic .... too many morons on the internet using it ignorantly
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    Feb 27, 2015 8:21 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    LorTO saidHi all. I'd like your opinions.
    I've recently been communicating with a couple of guys...

    Who initiated the contact? You or them?


    Good point!

    If you approached these guys first, then it's their prerogative if they want to share anything.

    You might also consider the fact that they have jobs that don't permit being as open as you would like them to me.

    Maybe they have trust issues.

    It may not be that they are hiding anything, they just set boundaries on what they are willing to share with strangers online.
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    Feb 28, 2015 8:54 AM GMT
    Op is inexperienced in online "dating", catfish profiles are easy to spot and identify. The guy who is supermodel handsome and he wants to talk to you, FAKE! I saw people use Hugh Jackman, Vin Diesel and David Beckham's face photo on grindr, go figure.
  • Apparition

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    Feb 28, 2015 9:07 AM GMT
    Skype or no date. If you cant figure out camming you have failed to meet the intelligence requirements to date me in practical terms.
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    Feb 28, 2015 9:54 AM GMT
    Apparition saidSkype or no date. If you cant figure out camming you have failed to meet the intelligence requirements to date me in practical terms.

    things get sticky..
  • Buddha

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    Feb 28, 2015 10:00 AM GMT
    Wait what, we're actually trying to figure out people who don't show face-pics?

    How many RJ:ers do you need to-
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    Feb 28, 2015 10:23 AM GMT
    The app where I have no pic gets more messages than the ones where I have pics. Bit insulting.
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    Feb 28, 2015 11:24 AM GMT
    Ohno saidThe app where I have no pic gets more messages than the ones where I have pics. Bit insulting.

    If I say I have the same situation, would it make you feel any better?
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    Feb 28, 2015 4:41 PM GMT
    First off.. if you are talking to a guy that has an unverified profile, odds are against you that the body shots are even his.
    I see lots of profiles on RJ that are not verified and most likely a fake compilation of pics.
    Some guys with body pics are here looking for attention but can't show their face because of either a relationship or co-workers etc.
    If they can't at least send you a pic via PM attachment, they are a total fake profile or just have self hatred about how they photograph. Either way, it's never going to lead you anywhere and be a total waste of your time.
    Your best shot at happiness is to find someone local.