Reaching out to someone or do you let them go?

  • glowstik

    Posts: 150

    Feb 27, 2015 4:39 AM GMT
    I could use some as support or objective advice.

    I thought I shared a good connection with someone. I even thought it'd be good to stay off the Tinder and online stuff.

    I enjoyed our 3 hangouts/dates, maybe the vibe changed. Maybe I just changed or he did.

    So I proposed another "date" a movie and he accepted but when figuring out the "when" he said It'd probably have to be next week due to a weekend trip

    I said "Oh that's right, next week is chill"

    Never got a reply back
    so in the wake of this new "unknown vibe" state I downloaded Tinder again and saw that he was still active on there... was kind of dissapointing

    Do I just let this person go, spread they're wings? Or is is there an argument for attempting to reach out again any further?

    Thanks for your input
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 27, 2015 5:46 AM GMT
    "Next week" is a popular ga lingo for NEVER. It is an euphemism alright.

    Reaching out will probably only reinforce his possible fear that you are a clingy kind of guy. This will really send many guys running for the hills.

    Judging by your profile pix, you should be having absolutely no problems connecting with suitable guys around.

    SC
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    Feb 27, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    glowstik saidI could use some as support or objective advice.

    I thought I shared a good connection with someone. I even thought it'd be good to stay off the Tinder and online stuff.

    I enjoyed our 3 hangouts/dates, maybe the vibe changed. Maybe I just changed or he did.

    So I proposed another "date" a movie and he accepted but when figuring out the "when" he said It'd probably have to be next week due to a weekend trip

    I said "Oh that's right, next week is chill"

    Never got a reply back
    so in the wake of this new "unknown vibe" state I downloaded Tinder again and saw that he was still active on there... was kind of dissapointing

    Do I just let this person go, spread they're wings? Or is is there an argument for attempting to reach out again any further?

    Thanks for your input


    The ball is in his court now, if he doesn't want to make a move then you don't owe him anything, you can go back to dating and seeing other people. Though at this point I wouldn't get my hopes up and wait for him, looks like he's either moved on or is not that interested.
  • glowstik

    Posts: 150

    Feb 27, 2015 8:47 AM GMT
    Varus said
    glowstik saidI could use some as support or objective advice.

    I thought I shared a good connection with someone. I even thought it'd be good to stay off the Tinder and online stuff.

    I enjoyed our 3 hangouts/dates, maybe the vibe changed. Maybe I just changed or he did.

    So I proposed another "date" a movie and he accepted but when figuring out the "when" he said It'd probably have to be next week due to a weekend trip

    I said "Oh that's right, next week is chill"

    Never got a reply back
    so in the wake of this new "unknown vibe" state I downloaded Tinder again and saw that he was still active on there... was kind of dissapointing

    Do I just let this person go, spread they're wings? Or is is there an argument for attempting to reach out again any further?

    Thanks for your input


    The ball is in his court now, if he doesn't want to make a move then you don't owe him anything, you can go back to dating and seeing other people. Though at this point I wouldn't get my hopes up and wait for him, looks like he's either moved on or is not that interested.


    SilverRRCloudNext week" is a popular ga lingo for NEVER. It is an euphemism alright.

    Reaching out will probably only reinforce his possible fear that you are a clingy kind of guy. This will really send many guys running for the hills.

    Judging by your profile pix, you should be having absolutely no problems connecting with suitable guys around.

    SC


    Thank you cuties! Well Fuck I got a
    "Goodnight cuteness icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif" text at 1:30 am and of course I replied cause' it'd be rude not to saying
    "Gnight sweetey heartz"

    He says , "Sorry I haven't texted you lately things have been kinda crazy"

    This is coming from a younger guy who says "I love texting"

    So i replied something corny and cute
    "It's ok! Absence makes the heart grow fonder and I think about the memories we made when I wanna smile"

    Yikes! And great let him have the ball , he can text me again or not. I got options
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    Feb 27, 2015 4:40 PM GMT
    icon_lol.gifNo way you're 30

    Decide if he's worth it and go after him, find your inner power bottom and ruin him for every other man.
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    Mar 04, 2015 9:52 AM GMT
    Let him go. He is saying that bc you're a back up plan. Never be someone option.