Taking chances: how's it work again?

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    Jan 22, 2009 5:58 PM GMT
    Hey kids...so I'm pondering stuff, and thought I'd take a little survey here.

    First off, some background: Come the end of June, my cushy lil' job goes buh-bye and the boyfriend and I are selling my place, packing up, and moving. Obviously, I'd love to have a job lined up before the big move since a steady flow of income would be kinda nice to maintain. That said, I'm kinda nervous about finding said flow of income easily in this fun, topsy-turvy (lack of) economy. I'll have a bit of a savings cushion and a safety net, but...still.

    We're taking off, period, whether or not I've got a job lined up...which is kinda scary, honestly. I'm the kind of guy who likes to have things all mapped out and planned. At the same time, I know damn well that most things in my life happen by plain dumb charmed luck, not my planning...

    So here's the question: anybody just gone and taken a chance, made a giant leap, and survived to tell? I need some tales to inspire me here...doesn't have to be career-related...just life-related. What's the biggest chance you've taken? How'd it work out?
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    Jan 22, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    After finishing radiology school and establishing myself in a new field, I plan on moving somewhere East (either Boston or NYC). I've taken many of chances in life and have not regretted a single one. Those chances gave me the opportunity to grow, learn and experience life outside of my "box."

    Z...you're a very intelligent, mindful and driven person who will do well where ever life takes you. There's no doubt in my mind that life will challenge you to it's full extent, whether or not it's during this venture is yet to be seen...but you'll survive. There's much to be said about a person who is willing to give up "comfort" and live life to the fullest of it's potential. Take this opportunity to give up control and take life by the horns. You have a plan, a goal and aspiration. Run with it...

    Good luck and keep us updated!

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    Jan 22, 2009 7:03 PM GMT
    Well, I dont know how big a chance it is, but I quit my job last month. Let's see gave notice Dec 8, was outta there Dec 19. I didnt have any job lined up, but I coudnt take the stress of my boss once a reorg had removed my Director out of my chain of command.

    So I have sent out 10 or 12 resumes....only within 10 miles of my house....I aint driving in this DC metro traffic if I can help it.

    I have had two interviews with two good companies that seem like solid leads. One will pay the same or a little more for the same kind of work I was doing. The other likes my resume so much they are also considering me for a higher position than the one I applied for (the higher position hasnt been advertised yet).

    So I am very happy that I bit the bullet and took myself out of that toxic stress.

    There are jobs out there. The world hasnt come to an end. But any job takes a couple months to get. They wait to gather resumes, then do interviews, then more interviews, then finally make a decision. Expect 2 to 3 months before you start your new job.
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    Jan 22, 2009 7:18 PM GMT
    had my own company, was working hard, making lots'a money, making a name for my self, all was going well.... then I collapsed at the office, was rushed to hospital and was out for three weeks... when I finally decided to get my lazy arse outta bed, the doctors explained to me what happened.. I'd almost literally worked my self into the ground, I was overweight, unhealthy, stressed and apparently by everyone elses standards happy cause I was being "successful"

    Well after that I sold my business, took my moneys and sorta semi retired for a little while icon_smile.gif great big massive move to go from workaholic to couch potato and for a while I worried about what I was going to do next.. eventually though, I stopped worrying about it and I worked it out..

    So, if the leap feels right, take it, it'll be the right thing for you and things will fall into place... it might not be exactly how you'd hopped but then, sometimes you need something without realising it.
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    Jan 22, 2009 7:27 PM GMT
    I don't know if you two have a place in mind where you would like to move, but here is a suggestion.

    Research companies that are in the area you want to move. Look at their websites and their employment page. Applying directly through there means you apply before the job is posted to Monster or the local paper. Your chances of getting hired are much better at that point and it shows initiative and interest to the company, which is double plus good.


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    Jan 22, 2009 7:46 PM GMT
    If the DC area is ok with you, try looking at www.washingtonjobs.com

    I think your field involves universities, so I typed in 'university' and got 1063 results. You will have to pick thru them to see if any of them apply to your expertise.
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    Jan 22, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
    Actually, the place is the only part locked down...Phoenix, Arizona. Specifically, the North Glendale/Peoria area, but I can't be too picky at this point.

    I'm not too worried at this point, but while the uncertainty of everything is kinda exciting, it's kinda harrowing, too. I like spontaneity, but only the scheduled, planned type. I'm trying to get over that. icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 22, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    is it spontaneous if it was a planned move?
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    Jan 22, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    I like spontaneity, but only the scheduled, planned type. I'm trying to get over that. icon_razz.gif[/quote]

    I love spontaneity. I schedule time for it every now and again.

    Damn, you stole my line, though I think I'd find you funny if you use all my jokes

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    Jan 22, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidis it spontaneous if it was a planned move?


    Compared to my usual policy of having fallback plans a, b,c, and d...yep.
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    Jan 22, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    zdrew said
    lilTanker saidis it spontaneous if it was a planned move?


    Compared to my usual policy of having fallback plans a, b,c, and d...yep.
    OOOH your one of "those" people..... icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 22, 2009 9:16 PM GMT
    Are you a Taurus by chance?
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    Jan 22, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidAre you a Taurus by chance?


    DING! DING! DING!
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    Jan 23, 2009 12:18 AM GMT
    I'll try to keep this short. Don't want to write a novel. icon_biggrin.gif

    It's Dec. 26, 1994. I had been stuck working a temp job for the past year. I meet up with a good friend and she brings two people I've never met before, one of whom was visiting from DC. There is lots of small talk including what we all do. I complain about my situation. The DC guy says there are going to be lots of jobs in DC with the change in power in Congress (that whole Contract with America thing). I had volunteered in the local office of my congressman in college so it sounded promising. This guy, whom I had just met twenty minutes prior, also offered to let me stay in his spare bedroom for free until I get a job.

    10 days later I moved out to DC and have been here ever since. I did not get a job in politics. My experience working for a Democrat apparently kept the Republicans from wanting to talk to me. Luckily by March I had a job away from Capitol Hill and I've been with the same company ever since. So I guess taking a chance worked out for me.
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    Jan 23, 2009 12:27 AM GMT
    I am kind of in your boat right now. I recently graduated with my master's degree and am looking for work. I have applied in over 20 states, and if anyone calls, I will basically leave all that is familiar with me... if I don't move to Chicago. Chicago would be easy since I have a lot of extended family up there, but if the right place calls, I am off to wherever. If nothing come along, at least I have something lined up at a temp agency in Chicago for a while. It is very very rough out there right now, and the employment situation is probably the worst in many of our lifetimes, so good luck.
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    Jan 23, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    Things have a way of working out. Worrying about it only causes gray hair and wrinkles, and a lot of nothing. You've come this far successfully in life, and no doubt you will have new opportunities awaiting you. You just can't see it now, but it is there. It's good you think about it, though, because it will keep you on your toes.

    I've moved all over the place in the past several years. I'm single, though, with no ties. Twice I did not know where my next source of income would be coming from. But it happened within 60 days. And that was back in 2002 when our economy last tanked for a short time. I've become accustomed to Road Warrior type situations, and got used to it.
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    Jan 23, 2009 12:38 AM GMT
    In one year I went from being a million dollar a year international bank executive to my dream job - animal trainer and from being a closeted, celibate, married father of two kids to being an out, divorced father of two children.

    Sure the changes have been jarring at times, but I wouldn't step back into my "old world' for anything. I think that's because before I changed anything, I thought long and hard about what matters to me and the main criteria for deciding whether to do anything is whether it advances something that really matters.

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    Jan 23, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    zdrew said
    HighVoltageGuy saidAre you a Taurus by chance?


    DING! DING! DING!


    LOL Me too as a matter of fact..
    Well last year I moved to Houston (it will be a year February 1st).
    Boston wasn't working. I was 4 years out of school w/ not as much work experience as I would like. I had a nasty break-up with my boyfriend of 3 years and at the time my relationship with my parents was estranged to say the least. To sum it all up, nothing was working and I needed a serious life change.
    The hardest part was I had a couch to crash on at a 'friend's' place (barely knew the people) a one-way plane ticket and pretty much no money.
    It seriously sucked the first few months, but coming up to nearly a year into my new living experience, I'm amazed a how far I have come.

    I love where I live, I've made some solid friends and have a steady job. Every month seems to get easier and I am glad I stuck it out.
    The only thing I had in Boston this time last year was the friends, so I think I'm doing much better.
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    Jan 23, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    I'm not a Taurus, but I've always played things safe. I never left a job until I had another one lined up (well, I did once but I had a job by that weekend).

    18 months ago I sold my house and most of my belongings. I put whatever didn't sell in storage and moved to NYC. I live with four other people - which I've never done before. I worked from home, so there was that element of safety, until I lost my job in July. I'm now self-employed and it's starting to pick up. I have two long-term contracts and am working on a couple more things.

    This is the first time in my life when I wasn't sure of anything, and I'm finally starting to enjoy it. I had to shake up my life to appreciate it. I don't take a whole lot for granted anymore. I also have a lot more freedom than I've ever had before. I'm going to Ecuador next month with my boyfriend to visit his family, and I know I wouldn't have done that if I were working full time for a company.

    I still get scared and still wake up in a panic at times, but I'm learning to live with uncertainty and have some fun along the way.

    Good luck!
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    Jan 23, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    I have taken the leap into nothingness a couple of times...no job, no plan, no money...nothing...and each time it has scared the hell out of me, but each time I have ended up happier and better off than I was before.

    That great leap is being forced on me once again...my company filed for bankruptcy in July of last years, closed the doors in September...since then I have been one of 7 people taking care of the place...today was the last day for 2 of them...my last day will be February 19 unless a miracle happens...am I scared? Hell yes! Will things work out better in the end? Yes, I know they will!
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    Jan 23, 2009 9:28 AM GMT
    I leave my job this year and move across the world to find a new career, no real idea what yet....

    YES WE CAN icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 23, 2009 9:34 AM GMT
    I must admit the closest I have come to taking a chance out of the blue is dating a Filipino guy in January 1998 who was 10 years younger then me. I did not think I would be alive for more than 10 more years, but it worked out well. We are still together and both healthy. icon_biggrin.gif

    Best of luck Zdrew to you and your bf.
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    Jan 23, 2009 10:57 AM GMT
    I graduated from my undergrad in May last year. It was also that month that I got my acceptance letter from my university in Hawaii to get my masters. I had never been to Hawaii for any reason at that point. So, come August, I left the state I had lived in all my life with only two suitcases and moved into a spare room rented from a guy I had never met.

    Best thing I have ever done.