Losing the ability to get hard just from fantasy?

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    Mar 02, 2015 10:27 PM GMT
    Here is how jerking off has usually worked for me since the age of 14:

    1) I'd think of something that turned me on.
    2) I'd get hard.
    3) I'd jerk off.

    I'd usually jerk off at least a couple of times a week.

    But over the past couple of weeks, sexual fantasies that used to consistently give me wood do nothing. They also don't even seem that interesting. After several days of not masturbating, I only got hard after several minutes of stroking my limp dick. I've read that as men age they need manual stimulation to get an erection and they lose the ability to get hard just by thinking about sex. But isn't 44 a little young for this change?

    By the way, I'm in excellent health and I'm not taking any medications.

    Should I make an appointment to the doctor about this?
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    Nov 22, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    No 44 isn't too young but everyone is different. See a doctor if it bothers you.
  • Eleven

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    Jun 06, 2016 10:57 AM GMT
    have you been watching too much porn?? that may have a lot to do with it......maybe you should read some sexual fantasies online
  • jayatl56

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    Feb 05, 2017 3:11 PM GMT
    Too much porn can do it. You get numb sort to speak to the real thing. My problem is that at 60 I don't get those spontaneous boners - those just standing there looking at someone boners. I have to be touched, play with myself or watch porn. Since I really prefer not to watch porn I'm not sure how to improve the spontaneity. A guy in my nude yoga class is in his 40s I guess and is semi hard the entire class and leaks pre-cum like a leaky faucet. I'm trying to figure out how to get back to those constant semis! icon_smile.gif
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    May 04, 2017 11:51 AM GMT
    I had had a 3 way in the last 12 months where a 56 yr old very fit guy and a 24 yr old where involved and the 24 yr old couldn't keep it up until a herbal viagra was given to him but myself and the 56 yr old had no problem. Also seen the reverse and accross a range of body types and races. The point I am trying to make is that much of it is Psychological and the Physiological aspects (the bodily functions and reactions) merely a symptoms of the Psychological issues. I am not talking about being crazy or needing medication but potentially stress, anxiety or depression related. Look it up on Google if you wish to know more