LGBT Centers

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    Mar 02, 2015 11:07 PM GMT
    Hey guys, so last semester I visited the LGBT center on my campus (I go to University of Houston) mainly because I was just interested in getting to know the LGBT community more on campus. I spoke to the head of the center and she was very friendly and invited me to some clubs. I did go to a few clubs and I went there twice to study. My experience wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. The students there weren't rude in any way, they just weren't very welcoming people, almost like a clique. I haven't been back since last semester but I'm wondering if I should give it another shot. What do you guys think? Also, did some of you get involved with LGBT centers at your school?
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 02, 2015 11:23 PM GMT
    Didn't exist when I was in school but I'm involved with the one started at my school. My guess is you were hoping for a bit more outreach from others in the center. They are students just like yourself staying busy and trying to keep up. Most of those places have active programs involving speakers, media response, regularly scheduled social events, some sort of newsletter, etc. Try meeting with someone and find out what all they have going on and get involved in something specific. They may have a clique going on but I'd guess they're just involved. You show an interest in something and I bet they pull you in like fresh meat and put you to work. That's also the best way to get to know people and make friends- common interests. Just showing up occasionally probably won't get you noticed. Jumping in and helping will. Don't be shy.
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    Mar 02, 2015 11:24 PM GMT
    Pazzy^^^ leads a hard life.
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    Mar 02, 2015 11:34 PM GMT
    pazzy saidyou're like the how manyth person that i've heard say that about university lgbt centers and clubs. not really welcoming places.

    never been to any school ones but been to a few lgbt centers that weren't in a university. they're cool for the most part if you go at the right time, know what you're in for and aren't around some freaky ass people. the first time i went to the nyc lgbt center.. it was a very unpleasant experience. shouldn't have went there early. it was like that jack'd "what if hookup apps were the same way in real life" type of shit. came in there thinking that i was safe and in some quiet spot where i just had to wait around. headed upstairs to the 4th floor looking for the room and some mute deaf guy ran up on me in the staircase on some "hug me" shit. i naively gave dude a hug not realizing that he took that as a sign of interest and decided that he was going to attempt to kiss me. when that happened, i got the fuck out of dodge and ran to another part of the center. dude somehow followed me to another part still trying to do whatever he was trying to do. thought i was safe in the bathroom where i took a leak, it's all quiet, then i hear the toilet flush and some drag queen or transgendered woman pops up. dude just stands right besides me while i'm wishing my hands and for some fucking reason, he decides to start touching my head. icon_eek.gif don't even remember if this fool was washed his hands but this fucker starts touching my head and i flipped the fuck out. i had to hide in an empty, unoccupied room for 2 hours before i met up with some counselors and during that, there was some neyo looking motherfucker who was with his lady friend that was like icon_redface.gif whose that" and i was telling the counselors to shut the door.

    luckily, nothing fucking crazy has happened since then. that must have been a test or something. but other than that, folks are cool.


    I would not go back if that was my experience lol. Luckily that didn't happen to me. Maybe I'll give it another try but not now. Maybe next semester.
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    Mar 03, 2015 12:03 AM GMT
    Aerith67 said
    Also, did some of you get involved with LGBT centers at your school?

    Yes, I did as a student. In 2 universities when I was taking courses to receive my State K-12 teacher certificate (a strange step to me, since I had already taught at college level as an Asst. Professor). I had also been a Staff/Faculty Advisor to the "10% Society" for GLBT students (as the term was then) before that at a third university. Where I had both taught and was the Asst. Registrar at that time.

    I found the GLBT students always receptive & friendly. Though at times a bit timid in the Upper Midwest. So I tried to personally make up for that, especially when I was back in the role of being a student myself.

    But I have to note that you are in Houston, which I know somewhat, having lived there briefly, and frequented the gay Montrose District. Are there many Blacks in your LGBT center? My experience is that Houston gays can be as bigoted as their straight counterparts. Could THAT be the issue you're encountering?
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    Mar 03, 2015 12:30 AM GMT
    Go again. If they seem too clique-like talk to the head of the center.
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    Mar 03, 2015 1:12 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Aerith67 said
    Also, did some of you get involved with LGBT centers at your school?

    Yes, I did as a student. In 2 universities when I was taking courses to receive my State K-12 teacher certificate (a strange step to me, since I had already taught at college level as an Asst. Professor). I had also been a Staff/Faculty Advisor to the "10% Society" for GLBT students (as the term was then) before that at a third university. Where I had both taught and was the Asst. Registrar at that time.

    I found the GLBT students always receptive & friendly. Though at times a bit timid in the Upper Midwest. So I tried to personally make up for that, especially when I was back in the role of being a student myself.

    But I have to note that you are in Houston, which I know somewhat, having lived there briefly, and frequented the gay Montrose District. Are there many Blacks in your LGBT center? My experience is that Houston gays can be as bigoted as their straight counterparts. Could THAT be the issue you're encountering?


    I never thought much about my race in relation to students in the LGBT center. There are really aren't many in the LGBT center. I didn't think my race would be a problem but maybe that is a factor. I hope it isn't. As far as Houston goes in general, I feel like people have really high standards which means it's really hard to find someone to date. In addition, I feel like straight couples here are little more progressive when it comes to interracial dating. Gay guys, not so much. Houston is really diverse so there are beautiful guys from all over the world, but the only ones who seem to give me attention are black guys. It's okay since I do like black guys, but further narrows down the dating pool which is already small. :/ I kinda got off on a tangent.
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    Mar 03, 2015 4:33 AM GMT
    From this:


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florida_Legislative_Investigation_Committee

    To this:

    http://lgbtagators.org/
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    Mar 04, 2015 2:48 AM GMT
    the Denver LGBT Center is odd. I cant really figure what they do if anything. They have a nice building tho.
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    Mar 06, 2015 11:27 PM GMT
    Aerith67 saidHey guys, so last semester I visited the LGBT center on my campus (I go to University of Houston) mainly because I was just interested in getting to know the LGBT community more on campus. I spoke to the head of the center and she was very friendly and invited me to some clubs. I did go to a few clubs and I went there twice to study. My experience wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. The students there weren't rude in any way, they just weren't very welcoming people, almost like a clique. I haven't been back since last semester but I'm wondering if I should give it another shot. What do you guys think? Also, did some of you get involved with LGBT centers at your school?


    Give it another shot. There is a lot of turn over in student organizations, so you might find some new faces this semester. I had on and off involvement in LGBT student organizations as a student. You may want to look into LGBT student conferences. These can be really fun and educational. Student groups often sponsor students to attend these events, and you'd get a chance to travel to some other college campus/city.