Anxiety from Getting Tested

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    Mar 03, 2015 5:38 AM GMT
    I recently had an STD test as recommended by my new doctor wehn he found out I was gay. icon_rolleyes.gif

    (My previous post http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4004906)

    I was anxiously waiting for the results for 2 weeks, and I finally couldn't wait anymore and emailed my doctor to inquire about the results since other tests (blood sugar, cholesterol, etc) were already available to view online. Then I was told by email that everything came out negative icon_biggrin.gif and that they won't post some of the more confidential tests online.

    I was relieved. icon_smile.gif

    Although I think I was really at low risk when it came to contracting STDs since my sexual contact is very minimal, but I can't help but get fearful and anxious: what if I somehow got STDs from that little exposure? icon_sad.gif

    Are you guys fearful and anxious when you get tested? This was my 2nd time getting tested, and I totally dreaded it. Also, some of you said some STDs can still be contracted through touch, so how do you prevent them at all? icon_confused.gif I mean I love touching and cuddling, etc.

    Sorry if it looks like I'm trolling, but I'm totally not. My first real serious physical contact with other men started 2 years ago (really late), hence it's only my 2nd time getting tested.
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    Mar 03, 2015 6:02 AM GMT
    polfsky saidI recently had an STD test as recommended by my new doctor wehn he found out I was gay. icon_rolleyes.gif

    (My previous post http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4004906)

    I was anxiously waiting for the results for 2 weeks, and I finally couldn't wait anymore and emailed my doctor to inquire about the results since other tests (blood sugar, cholesterol, etc) were already available to view online. Then I was told by email that everything came out negative icon_biggrin.gif and that they won't post some of the more confidential tests online.

    I was relieved. icon_smile.gif

    Although I think I was really at low risk when it came to contracting STDs since my sexual contact is very minimal, but I can't help but get fearful and anxious: what if I somehow got STDs from that little exposure? icon_sad.gif

    Are you guys fearful and anxious when you get tested? This was my 2nd time getting tested, and I totally dreaded it. Also, some of you said some STDs can still be contracted through touch, so how do you prevent them at all? icon_confused.gif I mean I love touching and cuddling, etc.

    Sorry if it looks like I'm trolling, but I'm totally not. My first real serious physical contact with other men started 2 years ago (really late), hence it's only my 2nd time getting tested.


    We all go through it boo. It's normal feelings to have.
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    Mar 03, 2015 5:47 PM GMT
    Ya, we all feel that way. But as to the test results, they're now required to make them available to you. The company I use for all blood work has a policy of delaying the results for 48 hours after they've notified your doctor but will then send me notification that they are available.

    You can't completely shield yourself from all possible STDs. About the best you can do is use judgement about the guys you're meeting. Hardly foolproof but about the best you can do. You can't live in a bubble and still enjoy life.
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    Mar 03, 2015 5:52 PM GMT
    The older you get, the less anxiety you will have. If you are practicing safe sex, you have very little to worry about. Everybody gets a physical, not just gays, and std's is not the only thing you can get. There's all sorts of health issues that people find out from physicals from cancer and what not all. The key is to detect it early, so it can be treated before it does more harm. And like I said, if you are practicing safe sex, getting an std that can't be treated is very remote. My mother has had 5 different cancers throughout her life, but in each case it was detected early and she's still healthy and enjoying life with my dad at 83 years old. See a doctor regularly for check ups and that way, if there are any problems, these things usually can be treated.
  • Svnw688

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    Mar 03, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
    It's normal to be slightly to moderately anxious, even if you've been relatively safe (using condoms, minimal partners, etc.).

    Don't overthink it. Just test, wait and repeat at least annually. Congrats on being responsible and KNOWING.
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    Mar 03, 2015 6:38 PM GMT
    I practically had a nervous breakdown when I got the results for the HIV test, which were negative. I had been such a slut that for several years I was convinced I must be positive. I had been celibate for several years before I got the test and continue to be so so no more tests for me.
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    Mar 03, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    polfsky said...

    Although I think I was really at low risk when it came to contracting STDs since my sexual contact is very minimal, but I can't help but get fearful and anxious: what if I somehow got STDs from that little exposure? icon_sad.gif

    Are you guys fearful and anxious when you get tested? This was my 2nd time getting tested, and I totally dreaded it. Also, some of you said some STDs can still be contracted through touch, so how do you prevent them at all? icon_confused.gif I mean I love touching and cuddling, etc.

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    Just as a woman can get pregnant from a single exposure to sperm so can anyone contract an STI through a single exposure.

    Yes, you can get herpes and others from just skin contact.

    The chances of infection can be reduced by knowing your partner and not hooking up. Strangers have no interest in you other than to get their rocks off. Someone you know is more likely to respect you enough not to infect you intentionally.
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    Mar 03, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    polfsky said...

    Although I think I was really at low risk when it came to contracting STDs since my sexual contact is very minimal, but I can't help but get fearful and anxious: what if I somehow got STDs from that little exposure? icon_sad.gif

    Are you guys fearful and anxious when you get tested? This was my 2nd time getting tested, and I totally dreaded it. Also, some of you said some STDs can still be contracted through touch, so how do you prevent them at all? icon_confused.gif I mean I love touching and cuddling, etc.

    ...


    Just as a woman can get pregnant from a single exposure to sperm so can anyone contract an STI through a single exposure.

    Yes, you can get herpes and others from just skin contact.

    The chances of infection can be reduced by knowing your partner and not hooking up. Strangers have no interest in you other than to get their rocks off. Someone you know is more likely to respect you enough not to infect you intentionally.


    Truth.
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    Mar 05, 2015 4:37 PM GMT
    I think people underestimate how much of an impact your mind has on STD's. If you have sex in an unhealthy way where you may be repressing fear or bypassing the process of sexual integration just to feel pleasure, you yourself can catalyze illness within your body.

    I have a friend who had unprotected sex and then learned that the guy he slept with had unprotected sex with someone over a constant period where neither were tested, and my friend then was constantly sick for 3 months up until when he got tested, and the doctor said he was negative and then all of his illnesses went away. He told himself he was sick, his body reacted to the stress and began focusing on sick thoughts that then pervaded his weakened immune system. This friend also had zero STI's.

    Long story short, your own connection to your body and self can determine the intensity and frequency of illness(es) in your body. Obviously if you have sex with someone who is very ill you will get something probably no matter what if unprotected, but ask yourself why you ended up in a situation where you felt sexually inclined to integrate with someone who you could not sense is unhealthy; that will already answer many questions about how much you care for your own body and health.

    But to answer the OP's question, I've had unprotected sex and got tested for HIV and for some reason I was not stressed because I know my body very well, and if I had HIV i feel I would be able to internally sense the sickness prior to the testing. If i felt off before and got tested I would have been stressed because I would have believed I was sick beforehand.
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    Mar 06, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    Thanks for the responses. I appreciate the insights. icon_biggrin.gif

    I think I'm very low risk when it comes to STD/STI. I never ever do anal. I have given and received oral sex but only rarely and never to the point of orgasm.

    Mostly, I do mutual J/O, frotting, kissing, and cuddling. Oral is quite rare as I only do it when I'm really, really into the guy. icon_redface.gif

    Even that, I was still anxious when I got tested. icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 06, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    polfsky said
    Are you guys fearful and anxious when you get tested?

    ...My first real serious physical contact with other men started 2 years ago (really late), hence it's only my 2nd time getting tested.

    My very first time tested I did have some anxiety. I had been having sex with lots of guys, although in ways I believed were safe. Nevertheless I didn't know for sure.

    So yeah, waiting for the results of that first test was tough. And also being in a US State which mandated HIV poz results being entered into a public health data bank. The result being, of course, to intimidate many people from getting tested at all. Today more anonymous test options are available, including home test kits in the US.

    Today I get HIV & STD-tested several times a year, as part of my regular blood work done for other medical purposes. And so does my husband. Which we do for 2 reasons: to demonstrate our total honesty with each other (we're each always present together as the results are read by the doctor), and to set an example for the gay community in which we work for HIV/AIDS causes.

    Difficult to preach to others to have regular HIV & STD testing, when you don't do it yourself. As in the Army in which we both served, you lead by example. We even get the free HIV tests at Pride fairs we attend, just so we can wear the shirt stickers they give you, saying you were tested that day.

    I'm glad you got tested, congrats! And I hope you test regularly from now on. Even if the results should ever be positive, for HIV or other STDs, the good thing is that you know it early enough to take measures to cure or control it. In this case, ignorance can mean not bliss, but serious health issues or even death.
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    Mar 06, 2015 5:31 PM GMT
    TO22 said
    But to answer the OP's question, I've had unprotected sex and got tested for HIV and for some reason I was not stressed because I know my body very well, and if I had HIV i feel I would be able to internally sense the sickness prior to the testing. If i felt off before and got tested I would have been stressed because I would have believed I was sick beforehand.


    It's hard to follow your logic here. And what are you doing having unprotected sex!? Besides the risk of HIV, there are a lot of other miserable things like gonorrhea that you could catch.
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    Mar 06, 2015 7:59 PM GMT
    TO22 saidI think people underestimate how much of an impact your mind has on STD's. If you have sex in an unhealthy way where you may be repressing fear or bypassing the process of sexual integration just to feel pleasure, you yourself can catalyze illness within your body.

    I have a friend who had unprotected sex and then learned that the guy he slept with had unprotected sex with someone over a constant period where neither were tested, and my friend then was constantly sick for 3 months up until when he got tested, and the doctor said he was negative and then all of his illnesses went away. He told himself he was sick, his body reacted to the stress and began focusing on sick thoughts that then pervaded his weakened immune system. This friend also had zero STI's.

    Long story short, your own connection to your body and self can determine the intensity and frequency of illness(es) in your body. Obviously if you have sex with someone who is very ill you will get something probably no matter what if unprotected, but ask yourself why you ended up in a situation where you felt sexually inclined to integrate with someone who you could not sense is unhealthy; that will already answer many questions about how much you care for your own body and health.

    But to answer the OP's question, I've had unprotected sex and got tested for HIV and for some reason I was not stressed because I know my body very well, and if I had HIV i feel I would be able to internally sense the sickness prior to the testing. If i felt off before and got tested I would have been stressed because I would have believed I was sick beforehand.

    Truth. As long as I keep my tinfoil hat on everything's good.