How long does it take you to fall in love with a guy?

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    Mar 03, 2015 6:54 AM GMT
    I have a problem where I'm too trusting and I tend to fall in love too quickly... How many dates and what things do you look for before letting yourself be vulnerable to fall in love?
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    Mar 03, 2015 7:16 AM GMT
    I have no experience in this regard. Very recently, I met a guy and it seems I am falling for him just after one date. I have told him already and he feels the same way. I had other dates in the past too, but I didn't feel the same way as I am feeling for this guy. Sadly, he lives bit far from here and we haven't had the opportunity to go on another date. It's true though it doesn't happen to me all the time.
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    Mar 03, 2015 7:45 AM GMT
    Well, I supose it depends on the person.

    For me, if I have a great connection with one guy could be but after a several times dating and knowing eachother deeply. icon_smile.gif

    It's a little difficult for me fall in love instantanly or after a few days only, the only time I feel that or something like that was with one of my best friends who during all the years of our friendship we created or it was generated some serious chemical and chemistry.

    I wonder how would be the sex with him, I'm sure like animals with me jajaj.

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    Mar 03, 2015 8:09 AM GMT
    It takes a really long time for me to trust a guy, for some strange reason the more that you push them away the more they gravitate towards you. There are a few guys who will say what you want to hear, however, I know better and it will take a few more then cheap flattery to pique my interest.
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    Mar 03, 2015 5:18 PM GMT
    I would say it took me only a few months, but love never stays the same. Either it grows or dies out. The longer I am with him and have sex with him, the more I love him and I would assume he feels the same about me. It takes at least several months before anyone opens their heart up and lets you in. He let me in his ass, though, on a first date. lol
  • Svnw688

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    Mar 03, 2015 6:28 PM GMT
    Crush/lust? Instantaneous.

    Infatuation/obsession? Few days.

    Love? Several months.

    Deep, true love? Few years.
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    Mar 03, 2015 6:29 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidCrush/lust? Instantaneous.

    Infatuation/obsession? Few days.

    Love? Several months.

    Deep, true love? Few years.

    I am in the second stage then, which could be confused with being in love also. So be careful
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    Mar 03, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    If he's got a big dick, not long at all.   icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 03, 2015 6:56 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidIf he's got a big dick, not long at all.   icon_redface.gif
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    I would have said I was immune or a very hard-starter for love . . . until I met my fiancé and that was instant. So maybe Lumpy's comment is right for me! icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 03, 2015 7:30 PM GMT
    For me if it's really love I know it very early on. It was a couple of months for my guy and I. It was mutual and equitable. We are coming up on our one year mark and our feelings for each other have only grown.
  • wellwell

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    Mar 03, 2015 7:50 PM GMT
    ... Longer than normal.
  • toastvenom

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    Mar 03, 2015 7:58 PM GMT
    35 years (and counting)
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    Mar 03, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
    I'm sexually attracted to men but I don't love them. I've only fallen in love with women.
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    Mar 03, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidCrush/lust? Instantaneous.

    Infatuation/obsession? Few days.

    Love? Several months.

    Deep, true love? Few years.

    Spot on. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 03, 2015 9:50 PM GMT
    Someone's looks can make you fall fast and hard like a Hollywood movie.Imagining waking up to a stunning hunk every morning.Sometimes you see a guy who is just your type (mine is Colin Farrell sorta) and you lose your breath and begin to sweat.But as we mature we realize that love is not infatuation.A pretty package does not make a great BF or husband.So even if it goes against your nature.I recommend a year of dating before any real commitment.
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    Mar 03, 2015 10:46 PM GMT
    donj499 saidI'm sexually attracted to men but I don't love them. I've only fallen in love with women.

    Very interesting. and I think there are lots of bisexual guys who are just like that.

    And to answer the OP, I don't think there is a certain answer. At least to me. But I think we have to know and make sure whether someone that we love is good for us. That's why taking things slow is important sometimes.
  • frankiex

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    Mar 04, 2015 12:22 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidIf he's got a big dick, not long at all.   icon_redface.gif


    tbh icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 04, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidCrush/lust? Instantaneous.

    Infatuation/obsession? Few days.

    Love? Several months.

    Deep, true love? Few years.


    exactly

    While my husband & I said "I love you" after about a month....real to true love didn't show up until a year. That is when you start to really see the person, when they are not at their best....and you say...yup I still want to be with him.
  • davfit

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    Mar 04, 2015 2:36 AM GMT
    A Year of dating... unless you want him to.... run!!!! love is a feeling that takes time and Trust,if you feel it too soon.. you are not in love..
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    Mar 04, 2015 5:18 AM GMT
    donj499 saidI'm sexually attracted to men but I don't love them. I've only fallen in love with women.


    Sounds like a curse to me. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 04, 2015 7:08 AM GMT
    donj499 saidI'm sexually attracted to men but I don't love them. I've only fallen in love with women.


    Women are awful, manipulative cunts.

    Give me a man any day.
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    Mar 04, 2015 8:46 AM GMT
    I guess it's different for everyone.
    I fell in love before we actually saw each other in real life. We Skyped everyday, for hours, for three months before we actually met. Once I saw him I just fell in love all over again. Three years later and we are still together and growing.
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    Mar 04, 2015 1:58 PM GMT
    Varus saidIt takes a really long time for me to trust a guy, for some strange reason the more that you push them away the more they gravitate towards you. There are a few guys who will say what you want to hear, however, I know better and it will take a few more then cheap flattery to pique my interest.

    Yes I agree I am the same..
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    Mar 06, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    Varus saidIt takes a really long time for me to trust a guy, for some strange reason the more that you push them away the more they gravitate towards you. There are a few guys who will say what you want to hear, however, I know better and it will take a few more then cheap flattery to pique my interest.


    Great advice and philosophy.
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    Mar 06, 2015 4:52 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidCrush/lust? Instantaneous.

    Infatuation/obsession? Few days.

    Love? Several months.

    Deep, true love? Few years.


    #Truth