Sexual Entitlement on social apps?

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    Mar 03, 2015 9:20 PM GMT
    Has anyone else noticed the hatefulness of men who get rejected on Grindr, OkCupid, Scruff, etc? Although some apps may be sexual in nature, no one is entitled to myself unless I give permission. It's almost as if some who make accounts on those apps expect immediate sex with whoever they choose to message. I've gotten such responses as "Why are you on this app if you won't have sex with me?" Or gotten called a superficial douchebag for not replying to various dick pictures or fetished sexual requests.

    Why do gay men seem to take rejection so hard?Granted, I tend to take rejection pretty hard myself..But never have I resorted to trash talking just because someone wouldn't sleep with me. I actually recently got a message from someone I hadn't talked to in 5 years chiding me for refusing to go on a date with them back when we first talked.
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    Mar 03, 2015 9:33 PM GMT
    pazzy saidReal talk, there's a lot of self centered, arrogant, self entitled lanes on that shit who really start believing themselves after getting a few woofs and messages. The thing that makes me laugh is if you were to put folks off the computer in a certain setting, they wouldn't be acting like that. I really don't understand this whole live vicariously through the web bs. What is the point of trying to convince someone that you're something you're not or can't live up to. I'm too real for that corny shit, man where I'm trying to get props from a web community.


    I mean do they think they'll have a greater chance at sleeping with someone after cussing them out? Lol. It's like..here's a bunch of compliments about how sexy you are. Oh you won't fuck me? You stupid self centered ugly whore. I save myself from rejection by just waiting on messages instead of sending them first..
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    Mar 04, 2015 12:14 AM GMT
    I have to say I hardly see such behaviour online here in Europe. I have had 1 or 2 bad responses, but that can be counted as rare event. I do have the perception that sense of entitlment is higher among American men. I am not sure why.
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    Mar 04, 2015 5:39 PM GMT
    __morphic__ saidI have to say I hardly see such behaviour online here in Europe. I have had 1 or 2 bad responses, but that can be counted as rare event. I do have the perception that sense of entitlment is higher among American men. I am not sure why.


    I lived in France for a couple of years, and it was just as bad, if not worse there. It's not just a US thing.
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    Mar 04, 2015 6:17 PM GMT
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    __morphic__ saidI have to say I hardly see such behaviour online here in Europe. I have had 1 or 2 bad responses, but that can be counted as rare event. I do have the perception that sense of entitlment is higher among American men. I am not sure why.


    I lived in France for a couple of years, and it was just as bad, if not worse there. It's not just a US thing.

    I have lived in three European cities in three different countries, and apart from 1 or 2 bad responses, I never had someone being rude to me for rejecting them. Yeah, I haven't lived in France. So I can't say much about your experience.
  • vhotti26

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    Mar 04, 2015 6:33 PM GMT
    Just ignore the idiots... those who get angry or insulting because of rejection are those with the tiniest amount of confidence.

    Although I have to say some (especially youngsters) really do reject in such a disrespectable manner that I too would get angry.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 04, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
    you're going to have to weed through a lot of desperate and sometimes mentally ill men on those apps. And not every profile is what or who they say they are. usually you can pick out the red flags, but not always, so you have to be careful.
  • Jeepguy2

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    Mar 04, 2015 9:48 PM GMT
    GMS1988 saidHas anyone else noticed the hatefulness of men who get rejected on Grindr, OkCupid, Scruff, etc? Although some apps may be sexual in nature, no one is entitled to myself unless I give permission. It's almost as if some who make accounts on those apps expect immediate sex with whoever they choose to message. I've gotten such responses as "Why are you on this app if you won't have sex with me?" Or gotten called a superficial douchebag for not replying to various dick pictures or fetished sexual requests.

    Why do gay men seem to take rejection so hard?Granted, I tend to take rejection pretty hard myself..But never have I resorted to trash talking just because someone wouldn't sleep with me. I actually recently got a message from someone I hadn't talked to in 5 years chiding me for refusing to go on a date with them back when we first talked.


    Yeah and that is why I deleted those apps. I honestly would rather look at some good porn and jack off than try to meet someone on Grindr or Scuff.