Am I a Bottom Who Can't Bottom?

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    Mar 08, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    Kind of embarrassing and very personal but I think there's a few guys who can offer advice.

    I'm an interesting case of a bottom who can't bottom with anything as large as a normal sized penis.... I can do just fine with fingering, play back there and short, narrow toys but beyond a certain width and length hurts a bit even after loosening up and when a guy topped me there was even a bit of blood that came out in my semen. I was fine afterwards but am concerned if every time someone tries to top me an anal fissure will occur which is no fun for anyone and can cause an infection.

    The only successful time was a few years ago with my ex and when topped me and hit the right spot. I know I like bottoming since it went from feeling somewhat uncomfortable to suddenly feeling incredibly amazing an me pulling his hips deeper to let him know he found the "G spot" That's how it should feel when done right I think. But that time there was a bit of tearing and a few drops of blood; I told him he didn't use enough and was too "vigorous"

    Still kind of new to the real thing since the discomfort when entering and tearing incidents put me off from the real thing. Maybe I'm not loosened up enough? Not relaxed enough? Not enough lube? Hemorrhoids? IDK... Anyone have any advice?
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    Mar 08, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
    Anal fissures are the worst.

    My first concern is u said if you get topped, blood comes out of YOUR semen? What? That doesn't make sense or sound healthy.

    As for bottoming, if you are new, you pretty much have to take control of this one. Use a lot of lube. Like... a LOT. Probably even more than that.

    And then don't let him fuck you. Instead, you sit on his slippery lubed cock as far as you feel comfortable, then just try to relax for a bit, then pull off for a minute.

    After a minute, add more lube, try sitting on it again, going a little deeper this time, relaxing, pulling off.

    After a little bit, you will be sitting on his lap with his hard cock throbbing deep within you, and as you get comfortable with the motion, you can gradually let him take the lead. But til then, use lots of lube and take the lead, it's your butt.

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    Mar 08, 2015 7:55 AM GMT
    IRFire66 saidAnal fissures are the worst.

    My first concern is u said if you get topped, blood comes out of YOUR semen? What? That doesn't make sense or sound healthy.

    As for bottoming, if you are new, you pretty much have to take control of this one. Use a lot of lube. Like... a LOT. Probably even more than that.

    And then don't let him fuck you. Instead, you sit on his slippery lubed cock as far as you feel comfortable, then just try to relax for a bit, then pull off for a minute.

    After a minute, add more lube, try sitting on it again, going a little deeper this time, relaxing, pulling off.

    After a little bit, you will be sitting on his lap with his hard cock throbbing deep within you, and as you get comfortable with the motion, you can gradually let him take the lead. But til then, use lots of lube and take the lead, it's your butt.



    That only happened once, freaked us both out but we're both clean so the only thing could have been a small fissure with the prostate. The anal lining is as thin as tissue paper I've heard so a lot of lot is needed to reduce friction and thus fissures. Got to be careful back there. They are the worst indeed and take a week to heal :/
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    Mar 08, 2015 11:44 AM GMT
    I think the best way to bottoming is doing so with the "right guy".

    I remember when I lost my virginity, the guy did not had a great skills with sex and I didn't had any real connection with him, I think because of that I didn't get much pleasure if I have to tell the truth, only at the end of the "fuck" after we have been fucking some time.

    But the other day I dated with a guy I truly connect with him and we made love in his bed in the morning, in the night I was a little afraid because his size, it was big and I only had been fucked once in my life, but we start to kiss eachother and touch when we woke up and one thing go to another spountaneously, it really work very good...

    I did not know I was able to fuck that fast jajaja.

    With that I mean that if you fuck with somebody you truly connect I think that the sex becomes more easy, than doing that with some guy you don't really care or really know and like him.
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    Mar 10, 2015 11:36 AM GMT
    Heh, I know that feel. Because of my ulcerative colitis I literally cannot bottom because it is too painful, plus there are chronic open sores in my colon especially near the rectum so in theory I'm super vulnerable to STD's.
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    Mar 15, 2015 8:13 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that. It's not painful other than some initial discomfort if the top doesn't hit the g-spot. Hit it just right and- well it's one of the best feelings IMO

    BTW, tops don't yank or squeeze the bottoms balls, that explains the few drops of blood in the cum. They're delicate. Spoke to a medical friend about that and no damage or anything thankfully, except not using enough lube and probably being too rough.