Do you get offended over "fag"?

  • wesv

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    Mar 09, 2015 6:33 AM GMT
    I think I asked this before but can't find the thread.

    I just want your opinions.
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    Mar 09, 2015 6:51 AM GMT
    Yes, don't like that word.
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    Mar 09, 2015 12:20 PM GMT
    Here we use British English....
    & a fag refers to a cigarette/smoke...

    For Example:
    1. Do you have a fag on you??
    2. I need a fag..
    3. Get some fags for me mate....etc

    So to answer your question, no I don't get offended,
    Because it means a completely different thing here...
    But yes, I do get offended when derogatory remarks are made, no matter what the vocabulary....





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    Mar 09, 2015 12:32 PM GMT
    Yes. I really really hate that word. Too many bad memories with that word. For me and other people.
    And I try to never use that word. Ever.
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    Mar 09, 2015 12:34 PM GMT
    I enjoy sucking a fag every once in a while.

    Ya know...the British word for cigarette. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 09, 2015 12:50 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI enjoy sucking a fag every once in a while.

    Ya know...the British word for cigarette. icon_wink.gif

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 09, 2015 4:48 PM GMT
    What I strongly dislike is the lack of respect in which the word is used to convey.

    It has been some time since someone said that to me directly, but I have to say if they do, perhaps the best response is no verbal response.... just a fist in the mouth.
    Maybe they will consider the prudence of what they say more in the future.....

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    Mar 09, 2015 5:05 PM GMT
    I'd rather be called fag than queen, fairy, girl, miss or any of the other female gendered words a lot of gays themselves like to use.
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    Mar 09, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWhat I strongly dislike is the lack of respect in which the word is used to convey.

    It has been some time since someone said that to me directly, but I have to say if they do, perhaps the best response is no verbal response.... just a fist in the mouth.
    Maybe they will consider the prudence of what they say more in the future.....

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  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 09, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidI'd rather be called fag than queen, fairy, girl, miss or any of the other female gendered words a lot of gays themselves like to use.

    Well, I'd rather not be called any of that. But why is it so many gay guys do that feminization thing? I get it if a guy is naturally feminine, but why intentionally emasculate yourself? Or think it's cute to do it to other guys? Really repulses me.
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    Mar 09, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    It all depends on how it's used and intoned. If someone were to sneer and call me a fag, I'd be pissed. OTOH, if someone - or myself - said, "Get that fag shit out of here!" in reference to a full length portrait of Justin Bieber, I'd LOL.
  • gymnerd

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    Mar 09, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    Lol I can never forget my first week in Scotland when my dorm mate told me he was going out on the balcony to smoke a fag...
  • Buddha

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    Mar 09, 2015 5:47 PM GMT
    It depends who says it and in what context.

    But yeah, I'm aware that either way it'll be derogatory, even if it's unintentional.
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    Mar 09, 2015 6:11 PM GMT
    Exactly it's all about the context.

    I actually find the word quite funny depending on the situation and it can actually be very hot too when the right guy uses it icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 09, 2015 6:18 PM GMT
    No. It's just a word. My best friend and I call each other "faggot" all the time and he's straight. I know when he calls me a faggot it's a term of endearment. Words are powerless by themselves. It's the intention behind them that can hurt.

    Someone heard him call me faggot about a month ago and she was horrified. She scolded him and told him he should never call anyone that. We both started laughing, then he picked me up by the waist and said "yeah but he's my favorite faggot." She still was not amused. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 09, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    DefensiveEnd saidI'd rather be called fag than queen, fairy, girl, miss or any of the other female gendered words a lot of gays themselves like to use.

    Well, I'd rather not be called any of that. But why is it so many gay guys do that feminization thing? I get it if a guy is naturally feminine, but why intentionally emasculate yourself? Or think it's cute to do it to other guys? Really repulses me.


    Agreed. I hate the word fag but not as much as I hate the use of feminine terminology in reference to gay MEN. It only reinforces the gay stereotype the straight world holds.
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    Mar 09, 2015 6:36 PM GMT
    Many other countries use "Homo" instead of "Gay". Calling someone in the US a "Homo" would be offensive.
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    Mar 09, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
    before I cam out it used to scare me to death.
    Now, not so much--I own it.
    I am a fag; however, I'm not a "Girl", nor do I have a "Man Pussy".
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    Mar 09, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
    Nope. Not in the least.

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  • wesv

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    Mar 09, 2015 7:53 PM GMT
    JoyThe7th saidHere we use British English....
    & a fag refers to a cigarette/smoke...

    For Example:
    1. Do you have a fag on you??
    2. I need a fag..
    3. Get some fags for me mate....etc

    So to answer your question, no I don't get offended,
    Because it means a completely different thing here...
    But yes, I do get offended when derogatory remarks are made, no matter what the vocabulary....







    I heard in Cornwall it could also mean meatballs. Is that true?
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    Mar 09, 2015 8:34 PM GMT
    Radd saidNo. It's just a word...Words are powerless by themselves. It's the intention behind them that can hurt.

    Someone heard him call me faggot about a month ago and she was horrified. She scolded him and told him he should never call anyone that. We both started laughing, then he picked me up by the waist and said "yeah but he's my favorite faggot." She still was not amused. icon_lol.gif


    If you mean just a word in the sense that some one who doesn't speak Spanish would have no idea that "maricón" is offensive to gay men because to them it's just a jumble of letters strung together, I'd agree. However, words do not exist in a vacuum and even if you don't speak or understand Spanish you would be well aware that it wasn't a nice term or compliment if someone flung it at you with derision or hate in their voice.

    I don't think gay men have a problem with other gay men or someone they know isn't being malicious (like your friend) using the term; however, when used in a hateful manner it's really more than "just a word."
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    Mar 09, 2015 9:04 PM GMT
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    Radd saidNo. It's just a word...Words are powerless by themselves. It's the intention behind them that can hurt.

    Someone heard him call me faggot about a month ago and she was horrified. She scolded him and told him he should never call anyone that. We both started laughing, then he picked me up by the waist and said "yeah but he's my favorite faggot." She still was not amused. icon_lol.gif


    If you mean just a word in the sense that some one who doesn't speak Spanish would have no idea that "maricón" is offensive to gay men because to them it's just a jumble of letters strung together, I'd agree. However, words do not exist in a vacuum and even if you don't speak or understand Spanish you would be well aware that it wasn't a nice term or compliment if someone flung it at you with derision or hate in their voice.

    I don't think gay men have a problem with other gay men or someone they know isn't being malicious (like your friend) using the term; however, when used in a hateful manner it's really more than "just a word."


    Ummm, yes, exactly. That's what I meant when I said "it's the intention behind words that can hurt."
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    Mar 09, 2015 10:38 PM GMT
    i can already picture straight men asking 'why can't we call gay men fags? they use it all the time.' icon_lol.gif

    fag doesn't offend me at all, but 'queer' does. the intention or whether it's coming from another fag or not doesn't matter. it just sounds so mean!
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    Mar 09, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidi can already picture straight men asking 'why can't we call gay men fags? they use it all the time.' icon_lol.gif

    fag doesn't offend me at all, but 'queer' does. the intention or whether it's coming from another fag or not doesn't matter. it just sounds so mean!


    You're the meanest person here so why should anyone give a shit about your feelings? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 09, 2015 11:36 PM GMT
    ^^our defaults say different: me happy and smiling vs. you with that menacing grimace looking like you've just risen from the dead. yikes!