bro4bro saidIt's popular to blame parents - and fathers in particular - for imposing stereotypical "guy" behavior (including homophobia) on their sons, but that isn't typically the way it works in real life. Most of those behavioral patterns are imprinted on the school playground, by other boys the same age or slightly older. It's where most kids first have to fend for themselves and learn to fit into a social structure, away from the watchful eyes of their parents.
The tradition is passed along from year to year, and neither parents nor educators can do anything about it - unless they isolate the kids from each other completely, which is bound to have even more negative consequences. You can try to change the way fathers raise their sons but it won't to a bit of good if the 12-year-old from down the block is undoing it all at recess, because to a kid, fitting in with your peer group is WAY more important than whatever your parents teach you.
A friend of mine wrote his PhD dissertation on this.
And by the way, I've always been puzzled by the cliche about how boys are taught not to cry. I've never, ever seen ANY adult encouraging ANY kid to cry, boy or girl. "Don't cry" is applied pretty equally to both genders. Granted, the consequences for boys are probably more severe - but once again, mostly in the eyes of their peers.
Imagine buying an item at home depot or a kids toy at christmas that requires assembly. You unpack everything and you are ready to start. You then find the assembly instructions are missing, you are now stuck until you get the instructions, unless you are half genius and figure it out for yourself and or risk assembling it wrong which could cause danger to you or your child.
I blame conservatism because it appears their modus operandi is everything procreation. Doesn't matter if people can afford them, love them, know how to raise them, teach them right from wrong, abuse them. According to conservatism, none of that matters as long as people keep pumping them out, keep the human race going and all without parenting instructions. So most parents raise their kids according to "how they were raised", if that means abuse, then that "way of parenting" is generational, those parents would not know the difference
I do think it would be beneficial to teach high school students secular
parenting skills, adding religious, conservative principles just creates too much confusion in an already confused way of parenting