Knowing when to stay and when to walk away.

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    Mar 10, 2015 3:35 PM GMT
    I'm sure most of us were faced with this decision at some point in our lives. So what gave you that final push to walk away or the strength you needed to stick around and keep fighting?
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    Mar 10, 2015 3:55 PM GMT
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    Mar 10, 2015 4:09 PM GMT
    use your emotions for super fast decisions and or ones you have not thought through otherwise keep your emotions in check.
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    Mar 10, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    Best to keep your piece in a holster instead of just under your belt - gives one the extra instant to reflect if you really want to use it.
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    Mar 10, 2015 8:15 PM GMT
    HolyHex001 saidI'm sure most of us were faced with this decision at some point in our lives. So what gave you that final push to walk away or the strength you needed to stick around and keep fighting?



    I am there right now. Fuck it sucks. Hard pass on marriage NEVER again.... I am stuck in a brutal situation of still being in love and likely... not knowing when to let go....
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    Mar 10, 2015 8:51 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge saidBest to keep your piece in a holster instead of just under your belt - gives one the extra instant to reflect if you really want to use it.


    So confused by what this means
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    Mar 10, 2015 9:30 PM GMT
    HolyHex001 said
    Puppenjunge saidBest to keep your piece in a holster instead of just under your belt - gives one the extra instant to reflect if you really want to use it.


    So confused by what this means


    Sometimes it takes strength to walk away . . .
  • Inque

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    Mar 10, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
    You never count your money when at the table
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    Mar 14, 2015 11:24 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSince this is under the relationship section of the site I'm going to assume we're talking about when to walk away from one?


    Yes
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    Mar 15, 2015 8:41 PM GMT
    When to walk away:

    - if he cheats on me, or stray or want an open/ relationship
    - if I change too much of myself to make him happy
    - if I compromise too much, his way or the highway mentality, no compromise
    - if he suddenly becomes mean, bitter, an asshole or too depressed or obsess over drugs, alcohol, sex or whatever
    - If I am not feeling happy in the relationship for a long while

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    Mar 16, 2015 5:21 AM GMT
    I think you usually know when to call it quit...We are such so deeply entrenched in the relationship that we make up excuses & feel as though we've invested too much already.
    Look for repeated patterns and really ask yourself where you see things going 5 years from now.
  • LuisG_82

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    Mar 16, 2015 6:28 AM GMT
    If you have had the same idea several times, or too often, just let it go.

    Ask yourself and your partner what is not working, have you tried to change those things?

    it is better? it is the same? it is worse?

    Right now in that situation, it is hard but it is the best, and try to keep a distance, too much contact, makes the things worse, even if you think that with that guy everything was good, but if it hasnt work as you wished, is for a reason.

    And do you have to ask him also, if he want to stay in the relationship, or is having the same feelings?
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    Mar 16, 2015 11:51 AM GMT
    The moment you compromise too much is the time you need to walk away.
    Sometimes you compromise and dont realize its too much, but you soon will.
    Let your partner know you believe you have compromised to much, and if he helps to work through it stay, but if he doesnt listen, go.

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    Mar 16, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    You stay when they find a metastatic anything. You go when you find he's been lying about $60 thousand in student loans.
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    Mar 21, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    All very good
  • smegnificient

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    Mar 21, 2015 7:56 PM GMT
    OP, you're a 9/10 and your boyfriend is a 6.5 Just saying icon_biggrin.gif