Best Way To Meet Guys in NYC

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    Mar 12, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    Hi there

    I made a post on here about my KP, and that has really affected my social life where I feel uneasy being out with people. I really can't see myself going to a gay bar and going up to someone, I just feel so anxious and judged by all the guys that look amazing and perfect.

    Is there somewhere in NYC where a guy that's new and not really into the gay scene can go find gay guys and not feel intimidated? I know I sound pathetic asking about this, but I really just want to find somewhere that's not very judgemental and well, "over the top" to just find gay guys that I can befriend (and yes, maybe find someone I can go on a date with).

    I've tried things like A4A and even this site, but I think I rather meet people in person and interact that way. I find that I suck communicating online.

    Thank you guys for any help, I really appreciate any suggestions.
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    EDIT: I swear I was posting this in the Dating/Relationships section icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 12, 2015 10:37 PM GMT
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  • Mar 13, 2015 1:03 AM GMT
    When you find OUT let me know
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    Mar 13, 2015 2:54 AM GMT
    Also, want to know. And I live in Manhattan. Dating in NYC, gay or straight, can be an exhaustive nightmare sometimes but you just need to keep at it and have the right mindset about how to go about it effectively. Effective being the key.

    I met my first BF through a mutual friend of ours so that's the way to go- getting out and meet people to become potential friends and just by the law of averages (and maybe a bit of luck) you'll click with one of these friends you hangout with regularly and then will fall for eachother after a while. My former BF had a crush on me just a month after becoming my friend and I didn't even know it until I confessed to him that I liked him (I was sooo nervous) It still happens everyday in major cities and contrary to negative stereotypes a lot of gay guys are out there looking for relationships, maybe more than in the past since the rise of online dating has made the process a bit too de-personalized in my opinion.

    Online sites are alright but keep your expectations low when meeting guys in person to avoid setting the bar too high too early.
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    Mar 13, 2015 8:06 AM GMT
    it can't be any worse than New Orleans...
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    Mar 13, 2015 9:55 AM GMT
    Try something like meetup.

    It's hard to go in alone and make friends. You need those connections, especially in a place like NYC.

    My boyfriend and I have different styles, so as a result I am not really into the scene and my friends are in grad/med school at this point..but I can tell you where to go icon_smile.gif

    There is a 95% chance at your age you will end up in some place with alcohol, so if you don't drink that might be a bit of a barrier..

    Also, I'm not sure where you are going where these amazing and perfect gay guys are in NYC. They might look great, but I assure you they are hot messes icon_razz.gif

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    Mar 14, 2015 4:47 AM GMT
    Go hang out in Chelsea. Join a gay gym or organization, tons of hot gay guys in NYC.

  • Mar 14, 2015 4:00 PM GMT
    Here’s the secret to NYC: every man is gay until he isn’t – so you should hit on in public every man you think is attractive
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    Mar 21, 2015 7:00 PM GMT
    JockPunkBohemian saidHere’s the secret to NYC: every man is gay until he isn’t – so you should hit on in public every man you think is attractive


    Really? I know there's a ton of bi guys out there (who I'm finding I'm going out on dates with in the city after a recent breakup with their girlfriend) but hitting on every guy in public you think is hot might not be the wisest idea. Especially on the subway or environments where no one really socializes.

    Hanging our in Chelsea or HK might be limiting yourself and competing with too many other guys in these more popular areas of the city; there's gay guys everywhere in this city from the Bronx to Staten Island. You just need to find the area that "fits" you.