Define an **Alpha male* type!

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    Mar 14, 2015 5:02 AM GMT
    I was reading a couple of profiles online here and there. This phrase comes up a bit, guys said something like **I want an alpha male**. I was thinking in my head so he wants **A dude who doesn't cry, tall, buff, cute, hot, total top, don't bottom?? and just sleep with them and leave them kind of dude??** For some reason, I always associate these **alpha types as older version of *Frat boys! like The Situation from Jersey SHore icon_lol.gif Lol which I do not want someone like him lol..So I guess I don't want an alpha male type?? lol .. Your thoughts or opinions?? icon_biggrin.gif
  • secondstartot...

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    Mar 14, 2015 12:35 PM GMT
    An alpha male is the top-ranking animal in a social group.Some animals live in a social structure where the most powerful male in the group is decided by either fights or even very aggressive battles sometimes ending in death(in the wild) The current alpha male must defend his ranking from younger members. When he is too old or not strong enough to win, he loses his position in the group fighting to the death or running out.

    The result of this is that the alpha male usually has more opportunity to mate with the available females. This system developed because strong males will produce young which have a better chance for survival.Some animal groups which may have alpha males:

    Dogs, wolves
    Large cats, like lions
    Apes and gorillas
    Horses

    Alpha male can also refer to an aggressive, highly-ranked man in a human group – usually in a business setting.
    I stole this from Wiki

    Bear Gryllis is a fine example of an Alpha Male
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    Mar 14, 2015 1:50 PM GMT
    Go to a commercial gym. There you will see Alphas, Betas and Epsilons. The vast majority of guys there are Betas. They need to seen. Quite often they are genuinely `attractive. Wearing $90 Affinity tee-shirts, constantly flexing nonexistent lats in the mirror, talking loud, giving unsolicited advice, Betas will do anything to get attention.

    Smaller in number and sometimes smaller in size, Epsilons appear almost timid, retreating. Though they are gym regulars, they appear to be perpetual newbies.

    Now, look over there. Not there. Over there. There. Yes, there. That's the Alpha. He appears to be in a Zen state. Focused. Programmed. Alone. Typically bigger in size, the Alpha always appears powerful. The Alpha. Now, be brave. Go over to him and ask him for his advice. You will be surprised be the gentleness of his voice, the kindness of his gaze and the completeness of his answer. You feel so safe and so protected in his presence. Though you feel awestruck by his power you don't feel intimidated by him. What manner of man is this? He's an Alpha.
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    Mar 14, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    JimiB saidGo to a commercial gym. There you will see Alphas, Betas and Epsilons. The vast majority of guys there are Betas. They need to seen. Quite often they are genuinely `attractive. Wearing $90 Affinity tee-shirts, constantly flexing nonexistent lats in the mirror, talking loud, giving unsolicited advice, Betas will do anything to get attention.

    Smaller in number and sometimes smaller in size, Epsilons appear almost timid, retreating. Though they are gym regulars, they appear to be perpetual newbies.

    Now, look over there. Not there. Over there. There. Yes, there. That's the Alpha. He appears to be in a Zen state. Focused. Programmed. Alone. Typically bigger in size, the Alpha always appears powerful. The Alpha. Now, be brave. Go over to him and ask him for his advice. You will be surprised be the gentleness of his voice, the kindness of his gaze and the completeness of his answer. You feel so safe and so protected in his presence. Though you feel awestruck by his power you don't feel intimidated by him. What manner of man is this? He's an Alpha.


    This.
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    Mar 14, 2015 2:44 PM GMT
    Beta male? stop making up terms ffs

    The definition of Alpha Male is Russel Crowe.

    case closed.
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    Mar 14, 2015 2:46 PM GMT
    Well said JimiB, I was in total awe after reading this. People have different traits and there are degrees of everything. Most guys will not come up and ask an alpha for anything. They hang back and the alpha never really knows that they are interested. Just wish they would in a lot of cases.
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    Mar 14, 2015 2:48 PM GMT
    Alpha male (the 99% angle type)
    sets the trends (respect, trust, communication) and a house hold will follow him.

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    Me
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    Mar 14, 2015 4:48 PM GMT
    Chris Evans
  • secondstartot...

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    Mar 14, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    personally I prefer Omega males
    omega male
    The polar opposite of the Alpha Male. Omega Males can have friends and close acquaintances but prefer to accomplish things on their own without the help of a group. Omega Males generally don't belong to any cliques and have no desire to be the leader or most outstanding of said clique. Omega Males have relations with people from all groups and carry a resourcefulness and cunning (sometimes strength) to get a job done with their own skill. This being said, an omega male can have great pride without it manifesting as "ego." (There are always exceptions.

    An Alpha Male MUST absolutely be perceived by his peers as the toughest, most popular, and smartest. An Omega Male cares little for this recognition...but knows that he is all those things and more.

    Alpha males must have the support of his "boys." This can be the foundation for many shallow and superficial relationships. An Omega Male needs support from time to time, but has few true friends who know him intimately and generally shuns shallow acquaintences.

    Two sides of the same coin....both being very effective in accomplishing goals.
    In Animals:

    Two Rams are butting heads while the female watches. The winner who mates is the stongest and therefore the Alpha Male.

    Wait...A third ram runs out of the woods and mates with the female while the two males are fighting. THAT is the omega male.

    In Humans:

    Alpha Male: John Stewart
    Omega Male: Steven Colbert

    Alpha Male: Team Sport Captain
    Omega Male: Dedicated student/master of martial arts or principal dancer in a classical ballet company ( Eg Roberto Bolle )

    ( the above is stolen from the internet )
  • bro4bro

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    Mar 14, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    I can understand the OP's confusion, because most of the guys who claim to be "alpha males"...

    A) are wrong.

    B) are assholes.
  • toastvenom

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    Mar 14, 2015 6:44 PM GMT
    the type of guy most gay dudes are holding out for
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    Mar 14, 2015 6:51 PM GMT
    well for starters, they're usually straight. this is part of why the gay for pay thing is so revered by gay men. a lot of guys want an alpha male to take care of them, but the catch 22 is they're scarce or flat out non-existent in the gay community. other than that: stoic, muscled, dignified, not easily intimidated, etc.

    definitely NOT anyone from Jersey Shore!
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    Mar 14, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidwell for starters, they're usually straight. this is part of why the gay for pay thing is so revered by gay men. a lot of guys want an alpha male to take care of them, but the catch 22 is they're scarce or flat out non-existent in the gay community. other than that: stoic, muscled, dignified, not easily intimidated, etc.

    definitely NOT anyone from Jersey Shore!


    There are plenty of gay guys that are alpha type leaders and not followers.
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    Mar 14, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
    ^^is this abundance of 'gay alpha males' the reason why so many profiles on gay sites have to put a request for masculinity in writing?
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    Mar 14, 2015 7:17 PM GMT
    I'm an alpha male icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 14, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
    Confident.
    Decisive.
    Dominant.

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    Mar 14, 2015 7:51 PM GMT
    An alpha male to me is a natural born leader. He leads with a sense of command/has a commanding presence, but is not commanding. Granted, if necessary, he can also be the one to take the reigns of authority and start dishing out commands.

    There are probably a lot of other characteristics I could write about on what I think an alpha male should be. But the above is sort of the foundation (again my opinion) icon_biggrin.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 14, 2015 8:34 PM GMT
    The types, defined: http://www.ign.com/boards/threads/are-you-alpha-beta-omega-gamma-or-sigma-male-descriptions-itt.250127262/

    alpha: you are confident and your own man. you do your own thing and have complete confidence in everything you do. you have your self doubts, but you don't let it cloud your judgment and logic. you are well liked by almost everyone, and you just have an easy charm and swagger about your presence. women are drawn to your charisma and presence. you enjoy being social and having lots of people around. you are a natural leader

    beta: you are kind of shy and introverted and not very confident in yourself. you are constantly plagued by insecurities and self-doubts and you can never commit to anything in the fear that you will fail in it. you are somewhat liked by people but they tend to look at you rather condescendingly and woman tend to friendzone you. you are nervous around other people and social situations because you're always afraid that people are judging you. you are a born follower

    omega: you are the polar opposite of the alpha male, but in a good way. like the alpha male you are confident, intelligent and have a sense of charisma about you, but unlike the alpha male, you are completely your own person. you do not need anyone, and you can even be emotionally distant due to your complete self-possession. you trust few people and foster even fewer intimate relationships. omegas do not care for leadership by others as they are perfectly capable of leading themselves

    gamma male: you are sort of the "invisible" guy. there is nothing really spectacular about you. you are not a beta, but neither are you an alpha. your personality and presence usually blends in with the rest of the room and you're just sort of...there. people like you just fine and you usually don't have too much trouble with girls, but all the same, there is nothing particularly memorable or remarkable about you. you are not a born leader nor a inherent follower, although you can take on those tasks depending on the situation

    sigma male: you are a manipulative mastermind. you are a spider waiting to lay your trap. you possess a cunning, intuitive mind and can sway people to your will. you don't have the casual swagger of the alpha or the omega but you do have a clever presence about you and people tend to be both wary and respect you for that. you can often be even more powerful than the alpha or the omega male in social situations due to your ability to persuade and manipulate them. you are neither a follower or a leader but rather a wild card

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    I am an omega, which is basically an introverted alpha - less of a douche, and doesn't give a flying fuck what people think.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 14, 2015 9:04 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBy the definitions provided here I think I'm an omega to the core. Although people tell me I have strong leadership qualities I really don’t want followers. Bjt in a professional work environment I have been told I have good management skills while working with others.

    An omega kinda sounds like an introvert which I am also.


    Cool, omegas are rare, own it. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 14, 2015 9:33 PM GMT
    Most/all self-described alpha males are not. Just like all the self-described masculine/straight-acting types.

    People just need to start being themselves and stop trying to fit into labels and stereotypes in order to impress others.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 14, 2015 9:59 PM GMT
    To me, an Alpha male is a confident guy, risk taker, unafraid, very logic based in decision making, successful, in shape, extrovert and has a very confident physical presence.

    The reality is, some Alpha males can have issues with emotions, communication, making mistakes and a number of other points. Most guys are a mix and a balance.

    I certainly carry some Alpha characteristics and in some cases, not so much.
  • monet

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    Mar 14, 2015 10:55 PM GMT
    Alpha male: (n) a dude who comes over and fucks you in the ass and then wipes his dick off on your duvet cover.
  • waccamatt

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    Mar 14, 2015 11:22 PM GMT
    CODY4U said^^is this abundance of 'gay alpha males' the reason why so many profiles on gay sites have to put a request for masculinity in writing?


    No, they do that because they're losers who feel they have to immediately discard guys who are more feminine. It's called internalized homophobia.
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    Mar 15, 2015 12:13 AM GMT
    From urban dictionary: LOL

    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=alpha+male

    2:
    The alpha male is an act that is performed by males usually in their teens and twenties who act tough, are loud, and have to be the center of attention or they feel insecure. When a man is successful and in his thirties he no longer acts this way because he has grown up and realized that the entire alpha male act is phony. When was the last time you saw a rich, successful man try to pick a fight??? Never. The only guys that do this are the losers that go to bars to take their anger out because they are angry inside for going nowhere in life.

    35yr old alpha male at the bar,"I'm bald, fat, I make 7 dollars an hour and I work a job I hate...what are you looking at? Do you want to fight? I need to kick someones ass today because my boss ripped me an new asshole for burning the fries at McDonalds and I need to take it out on someone."


    5:
    A tool that will do anything to be the center of attention and be the dominant male. A phony act insecure people put on.

    A perfect example of an alpha male or (toolbag) would be Fonzzy on happy days.