I've Decided To Lose My Beard

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    Mar 14, 2015 5:51 PM GMT
    It was an interesting experiment late last Summer. I wondered how white it had become - very!

    And I got lots of compliments, because it matched the graying hair on my head. "Distinguished looking" I was told, my barber loves the look. Well, I never keep a beard for very long, and "distinguished" may appeal to other guys, but not how I think about myself. I thought I looked more like homeless. icon_razz.gif

    And my facial skin is still almost wrinkle-free at 66, I might as well flaunt it while I've got it. I'll grow a beard again when my face looks like old leather and needs to be hidden for good cause. So off it goes. I keep it at a length I acquire in just 10 days, so it's like throwing a switch when I wanna go back .icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 14, 2015 9:26 PM GMT
    So I went out today, and nobody who knows me commented that my beard is gone! I'm not sure how to interpret that.

    Nor has my husband said anything yet, but he's so groggy on pain medication for his back I'm not really surprised. I realize most people have known me for much longer without a beard, but I thought maybe SOMEBODY would have made a comment. icon_question.gif
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    Mar 15, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    Whether I have a beard or not is determined by my husband. I don't care very much, though I find a beard more of a hassle.

    I remember when I met my late partner, and he sorta hinted to me he would like to see me without a beard I was wearing. So I got rid of it.

    "Chicken hawk" he yelled when he first saw me come out of his bathroom in Houston after shaving it off. Even at 53 I still could look much younger than I was. In fact, a week later I was carded at Rich's night club!

    And today at 66 I have virtually no facial wrinkles, except some frown lines I've had since a teenager, and some crow's feet around the eyes. My eyes have always been my oldest feature, but when I wear sunglasses, I lose 20 years.
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    Mar 15, 2015 2:35 AM GMT
    43rueperronet said
    Why did you get called a chicken hawk? I don't get that. You were in to young boys because you shaved your beard?

    No, my future husband was calling himself a chicken hawk, because I looked so young to him when I removed my beard. He was 55, and I was 52. It was a joking, but loving, compliment to me.
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    Mar 15, 2015 3:03 AM GMT
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    Art_Deco said
    43rueperronet said
    Why did you get called a chicken hawk? I don't get that. You were in to young boys because you shaved your beard?

    No, my future husband was calling himself a chicken hawk, because I looked so young to him when I removed my beard. He was 55, and I was 52. It was a joking, but loving, compliment to me.


    You talk about your late husband and your future husband? You are making no sense---

    Let me help you. At that point I didn't have a partner. This was early 2002.

    We had been in an LDR, traveling back & forth from Texas to North Dakota. And during one of my trips to Houston we were having a dinner he prepared at his place. He excused himself for a moment, and returned to the table.

    He dropped to his knee, presented me with an engagement ring, and proposed! I mean, a classic wedding proposal!

    Well, of course not legal in Texas. But I immediately accepted, with tears in my eyes. A guy proposing to ME???

    I couldn't imagine anybody wanting ME. But I certainly wanted HIM. And so it happened.

    It didn't last very long. He died of AIDS less than 2 years later, literally passing away in my arms. That was tough. And I apparently suffered some kind of emotional breakdown, for the only time in my life.

    For which my gay friends did an intervention and brought me back. I've written about that here before.

    So please don't play with me. I've been through things you cannot imagine, and hopefully you'll never experience yourself.
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    Mar 16, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI've Decided To Lose My Beard

    But I thought you and your wife divorced years ago! icon_wink.gif