Having unsafe sex in a 3 way?

  • redrocker

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    Mar 16, 2015 7:17 PM GMT
    Hello I'm just looking for some information. I have frinds who are a couple who are in an open relationship they have invited me to have a 3 way icon_question.gif however they play unsafe. I'm not sure how I feal about it having unsafe sex. I play safeicon_biggrin.gif. I'm very uneasy about the topic when they bring it up when we go out. Please keep the comments as positive as possible as I'm just looking for some insight about the topic of having unsafe sex in a 3 way.
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    Mar 16, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
    Don't do anything YOU are not comfortable with.

    That's the bottom line.

    What risk reduction measures do you use?

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/newsroom/2015/HIV-Transmission-at-Each-Stage-of-Care.html?s_cid=nchhstp-hcso-nwsrm-hiv-care-003

    http://www.acon.org.au/sites/default/files/What-is-Safe-Sex-Position-2014.pdf

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/newsroom/docs/HIVFactSheets/Methods-508.pdf
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    Mar 16, 2015 8:53 PM GMT
    Is this a troll?because I can't honestly understand someone considering this for a couple own ego and pleasure
    If you always played it safe don't stop, nothing good can come out of it, honestly this is more about their pleasure than yours, let them play the way they want but don't be dragged into it, keep being smart,its your health,you can't buy it, once you get it there's no turning back. I dont think its worth it, you're probably young and probably want to do something wild for some personal reason, no judgment on that part, but unprotected sex is not worth it kid.keep it safe
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    Mar 17, 2015 6:56 AM GMT
    redrocker saidicon_question.gif however they play unsafe. I'm not sure how I feal about it having unsafe sex. I play safeicon_biggrin.gif. I'm very uneasy about the topic when they bring it up when we go out.

    It's amazing that a 24 year old who lives in the SF area could be as naive about safe sex as your question implies.

    To be positive, go for the sex - it could be hot - just use protection.

    Unsafe sex with two guys is about the same as having unsafe sex with just one guy, except your odds of catching something are twice as great.

    You mention that they "bring it up" when you go out with them. What did they "bring up?" That they are unsafe together, or that they want to have unprotected sex with you? If you want to stay healthy, let them know that they would have to play safe with you at least. Or you will be taking your chances - like playing russian roulette.

    Even if they have tested negative, they could have caught HIV after their last test, and it takes a while after the virus is in the body before the antibody test shows up positive.

    Even if you started taking PREP, you could still catch hepatitis, syphilis, or an almost incurable strain of gonorrhea.
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    Mar 18, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    Your health and quality of life is worth a lot more than a sex session with questionable state of health from the participants .
  • redrocker

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    Apr 21, 2015 4:11 AM GMT
    thank you all for the feedback I agree with everyone here about safe sex that was not the up fore the discussion icon_biggrin.gif I only have safe sex it was more about having a three way. I don't really know how I feel about that icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 21, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
    redrocker saidthank you all for the feedback I agree with everyone here about safe sex that was not the up fore the discussion icon_biggrin.gif I only have safe sex it was more about having a three way. I don't really know how I feel about that icon_redface.gif


    In general, Ménage à trois are inherently complicated. Most people are attracted to one or the other. If you are attracted to both, then it can be twice the fun LOL.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 24, 2015 4:31 PM GMT
    I'm a big advocate for 1 on 1 or 4 or more. 3 is inherently complicated as Timm mentioned above, two usually connect on a deeper level and it leaves the third guy out by default.