Maverick75 said....Gay leaders struggle trying to portray the gay community as not all about sex, this mayor gets in office and all we here about is his sex life.
I agree with you Maverick on this issue, my point is that the issue lies more with his honesty rather than the sex. If he had robbed a bank and lied about it he would have received the same attention I think. The fact that it's about sex just indicates that in the gay world there IS a lot about sex. Sleeping around is NOT uncommon is it? His problem now is really not about sleeping with an 18 yr old, if the 18 yr old had been an unknown, it would not be an issue but the fact that the position the mayor held gave him power and influence over the city employee and that the mayor went on to lie about it should be the concern of everyone, not just the gay community. Also, I didn't mean to accuse you or offend you and I apologize if I did.
styrgan saidYour post raises an interesting objection. Our lawmakers create a specific "age of consent" for their state. The public agrees to follow this. A lawmaker then tests the edge of this law by screwing someone who is just within the legally accepted range. The public would have naturally been upset about the difference in age, so the lawmaker lies.
I don't think we can hold our public officials to outrageous standards of honesty when the disconnect between our social values as a country and our laws are creating the very conditions that cause them to lie.
I'm not sure that the disconnect btw our social values is reason enough for our acceptance of dishonesty. I full understand what you're saying but public officials and civil servants are in fact held to a different standard because of the public perception. I don't think this guy would have the problems if he hadn't lied but it's the dishonestly that will be his demise. Had I been this guy, I probably would have done exactly what he did so I'm not saying I think what he did was surprising, I'm just saying that, being in a position that DOES require higher standard, I know that the public views certain people to have much differing standards than they expect from their neighbors or themselves. I don't think this is right but they do and when you accept a public position, you know this going in. I think this guy should be given a chance to apologize for the lie and get on with his job, but then that's just my opinion.