My 20th Anniversary Today!

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    Mar 17, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    ... of my public coming out. At 8 PM, Friday, March 17, 1995. At Seattle, Washington's largest annual gay gala at that time.

    I had actually come out to myself the morning before, going through a range of emotions. But by evening I had come to terms with it, and wanted to accept it without reservation, and sorta make it "official" & public.

    I already had heard about this annual gay gala, so Friday morning I emailed the gay organizers via their BBS for a reservation, and got a confirmation back. Friday evening at 8 PM I checked into the hotel convention center, and my name was on the print-out.

    I had a wonderful time being among over 1000 guys, and I've been out and proud every day since then, 20 years to this day. Which I annually also consider to be my second birthday.

    So my friends were congratulating me today, even got a little cake. And because it's St. Patrick Day I also wore one of my kilts, as did some of the others, though not because of me. The Irish wear kilts, too, though not as much as the Scots, and I've got a little bit of each in me.

    Anyway, one of my favorite days. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2015 10:57 PM GMT
    Congrats!
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    Mar 17, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    LOL

    For a second there I thought you meant 20th anniversary of your relationship. I was even gonna ask how to maintain a relationship for that long. XD

    Anyway congratulations. Hope you had a blast.
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    Mar 17, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    Congrats on your anniversary. Hasn't life been incredible ever since? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2015 11:39 PM GMT
    Congrats! Good job on that and for being so brave!
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    Mar 18, 2015 12:11 AM GMT
    HelloPeople saidLOL

    For a second there I thought you meant 20th anniversary of your relationship. I was even gonna ask how to maintain a relationship for that long. XD

    Anyway congratulations. Hope you had a blast.

    Thanks! Yeah, I confess the "banner" was an enticement to read the thread. But I quickly identified my real meaning.

    And BTW, in our circle of gay friends, 20-year relationships are rather common. A number have reached 30 years, and quite a bit beyond.

    My husband almost made it to 20 but his partner died. And my first first partner died, too. Not to be insensitive, but I suspect an important element with LTRs is just managing to stay alive long enough. icon_eek.gif Because if you love the guy, the rest is relatively easy. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2015 12:18 AM GMT
    Congrats. A very special day for you today with lots of good memories. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2015 12:19 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidCongrats on your anniversary. Hasn't life been incredible ever since? icon_biggrin.gif

    The best years of my life, yes! I've never been happier!

    Sure, I don't like presiding over the recent decay of my body, and all the natural aging problems I never had to face before. But mentally, emotionally, this is the place where I belong. My only regret is that is took too long for me to get here to this place of self-awareness. I hate thinking about all those misused years, caused by my own ignorance and lack of self-understanding.

    But I finally got it right, so that's all that matters now. And to fade off into that gay sunset, that has a big rainbow across it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2015 5:37 PM GMT
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    HelloPeople saidLOL

    For a second there I thought you meant 20th anniversary of your relationship. I was even gonna ask how to maintain a relationship for that long. XD

    Anyway congratulations. Hope you had a blast.

    Thanks! Yeah, I confess the "banner" was an enticement to read the thread. But I quickly identified my real meaning.

    And BTW, in our circle of gay friends, 20-year relationships are rather common. A number have reached 30 years, and quite a bit beyond.

    My husband almost made it to 20 but his partner died. And my first first partner died, too. Not to be insensitive, but I suspect an important element with LTRs is just managing to stay alive long enough. icon_eek.gif Because if you love the guy, the rest is relatively easy. icon_biggrin.gif


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    Thanks for that pal. I might send you private messages someday, since you are experienced at life and obviously that means I can learn more about same-sex relationships from you. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 18, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
    Congrats, man. Life is too short to live in anyone's closet.
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    Mar 18, 2015 7:01 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidCongrats, man. Life is too short to live in anyone's closet.

    +1

    A lot of guys here accuse me of having been in the closet. I never was for a day. I was in deep, deep denial, actually believing myself that I was straight.

    But once I realized the truth, I wasted no time in fixing that mistake. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2015 7:06 PM GMT
    Was a good move. Now if only all the young closeted guys on RJ would come out.
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    Mar 19, 2015 12:49 AM GMT
    JuanPablomv89 said
    Art_Deco said
    Destinharbor saidCongrats, man. Life is too short to live in anyone's closet.

    +1

    A lot of guys here accuse me of having been in the closet. I never was for a day. I was in deep, deep denial, actually believing myself that I was straight.

    But once I realized the truth, I wasted no time in fixing that mistake. icon_biggrin.gif


    If you say so....

    I do, I do! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2015 12:54 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidWas a good move. Now if only all the young closeted guys on RJ would come out.

    Well, actually I don't urge other guys to come out until their individual circumstances are favorable. No need to wreck your life based on pro-gay ideology, that everyone must come out RIGHT NOW.

    Come out, yes, but only when all the conditions are right for you. Why harm yourself? I was able to come out immediately, but all guys aren't like me when I first realized I was gay.

    There are issues of family, employment, friends, general social standing, all kinds of considerations. So I'm not a fanatic about having to come out today, this minute.

    Come out eventually, I think that's how you'll be happiest. But YOU control the timing, to suit YOU best. I've always taken the realistic & individual approach.
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    Mar 19, 2015 4:06 AM GMT
    Congratulations!