How do I stop being gay?

  • infinitefrien...

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    Mar 19, 2015 9:45 AM GMT
    I am never happy as a gay man. Life just sucks. I don't want to be attracted to men sexually anymore.
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    Mar 19, 2015 11:13 AM GMT
    Okay everyone. Click on "Ignore His Posts."

    Have a good day.
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    Mar 19, 2015 11:46 AM GMT
    get a hobby or volunteer for medical trials, I am sure there is some use for your body amd brain....it just isn't here... yawn.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 19, 2015 1:47 PM GMT
    I hope you're not saying it just because you don't have any "luck" with guys. If you are then that's pretty selfish and a really narrow perspective.

    “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
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  • Antarktis

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    Mar 19, 2015 1:50 PM GMT
    Close your eyes and tap your heels together three times. And think to yourself,'there's no place like homo.'
  • Edepic

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    Mar 19, 2015 2:10 PM GMT
    Consider psychotherapy, not to change your sexual orientation, although sometimes,very rarely, that happens,but to appreciate you and all of your desires. In your other posting someone mentioned codependency. This too could be explored in therapy. Best, Ed
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    Mar 19, 2015 3:28 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidI am never happy as a gay man. Life just sucks. I don't want to be attracted to men sexually anymore.

    To reply to your statement in a less brutish way then what i'm seeing, if depression is affecting you should seek psychological help since you don't want it to get out of hand, secondly you can't really stop being attracted to what you are attracted to, it might change over time but it's not something you can just switch off, I know the feeling and I'm guessing mostly due to either familial circumstances or a relationship with a loved one, in either situation I can see how the pressure to both be true to yourself as well as still being able to keep your loved one's connections is a hard thing to weigh and depending on your upbringing and personality family and loved ones will usually take center stage, just try to fight through and as you age you will decide what you will lean towards, in the meantime find help because outing those feelings can be very good for you and the psychologist can't out you so no worries.

    And for everyone bullying him especially for americans you might not be familiar with someone else's culture or collective values and although I can only speak for myself since I don't know his specific situation, being true to yourself is usually something that should be swept under the rug for a collective good since individualism can infringe on others as well not to mention the families who are tightly intertwined but would not accept you as gay it can be a very difficult struggle to asses if being "free" is worth losing all your loved ones. And don't say "if they love you they will accept you" let's be honest here, society doesn't work like that icon_razz.gif
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 19, 2015 4:33 PM GMT
    Go live in Iran
  • metta

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    Mar 19, 2015 5:08 PM GMT
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    Mar 19, 2015 5:16 PM GMT
    There is only one way...

    Unfortunately, the lasting effects are permanent.
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    Mar 19, 2015 5:18 PM GMT
    or search here:

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  • mizu5

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    Mar 19, 2015 8:50 PM GMT
    Eat pussy. Eat that shit like it's going out of style.

    Make it sound like wet fucking macaroni and eat it. Ears deep in a bitch. DO it.
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    Mar 19, 2015 9:12 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidEat pussy. Eat that shit like it's going out of style.

    Make it sound like wet fucking macaroni and eat it. Ears deep in a bitch. DO it.



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    Mar 19, 2015 9:37 PM GMT
    infinitefriend9 saidI am never happy as a gay man. Life just sucks. I don't want to be attracted to men sexually anymore.

    Then maybe you never were.

    I don't mean to be harsh or nasty, just realistic. This may be a good moment to pause for a personal reevaluation.

    My own reevaluation came when I realized I wasn't straight, as I had assumed for much of my life, but that I'm actually gay. Maybe in your case you are not actually gay, but straight or bi.

    It's all good, the important thing being to correctly identify what you really are.

    Straight is good, gay is good, bi is good, and everything in between is good. The only bad thing is to misidentify what you really are, as I did for so long, and to live the wrong life.

    I wish you the best, and hope you discover your true orientation. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2015 10:40 PM GMT
    Whether you can change your orientation or not, I really don't know - maybe you can, maybe you can't.

    But actually sleeping with another bloke is a matter of choice. You can choose to or choose not to.

    I feel turned on by the sight of other men, tall and slim in particular. But at the end of the day it's down to me to turn and walk away, even if I was invited into his bedroom - and that has happened quite a number of times during my younger days.

    I have found this to be a good desire-killer:- If you see a guy you fancy, but wish to cool your urge, imagine yourself walking into the same WC as he walks out, with the flushed cistern still refilling itself. The lingering odour is enough to kill any sexual desire.

    Or at least it works for me...
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 19, 2015 11:53 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    infinitefriend9 saidI am never happy as a gay man. Life just sucks. I don't want to be attracted to men sexually anymore.

    Then maybe you never were.

    I don't mean to be harsh or nasty, just realistic. This may be a good moment to pause for a personal reevaluation.

    My own reevaluation came when I realized I wasn't straight, as I had assumed for much of my life, but that I'm actually gay. Maybe in your case you are not actually gay, but straight or bi.

    It's all good, the important thing being to correctly identify what you really are.

    Straight is good, gay is good, bi is good, and everything in between is good. The only bad thing is to misidentify what you really are, as I did for so long, and to live the wrong life.

    I wish you the best, and hope you discover your true orientation. icon_biggrin.gif
    Good, valid points. Finally something that Art and I agree on. Wishing the OP all the very best in finding out his true orientation and identity.
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    Mar 20, 2015 1:10 AM GMT
    Liberal Democrats have the answer for you:

    Obama already stated in his Glozell interview that being gay is a "Lifestyle Choice".

    Liberal Mayor DeBlasio of NYC already converted his wife from Lesbian to Hetero.
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    Mar 20, 2015 6:22 AM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidI hope you're not saying it just because you don't have any "luck" with guys. If you are then that's pretty selfish and a really narrow perspective.

    “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
    ― RuPaul


    Agree.

    Being gay is much more than having sex with guys. It's about being able to see life in a unique way.

    I used to think like that, now even if I had the choice I wouldn't change it, it's part of who I am and I love me :p.
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    Mar 20, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    You probably won't be happy as a straight man either. Being gay isn't the source of your problem. Go see a therapist.
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    Mar 20, 2015 5:53 PM GMT
    I don't think the problem is you being gay. I think it's the associations , the way you relate to being gay, maybe even the company you keep in the gay scene.

    It's not written anywhere that you have to be in the bars and sleeping with three hundred people a week to be gay.

    It's possible to meet healthy sane people . Look at MeetUp and join some groups, maybe a mediation one or something that will help .

    And do NOT ever go toward the ex gay stuff. It doesn't work and will only damage you further . See a qualified therapist with loads of letters to his or her name .
  • monet

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    Mar 20, 2015 5:55 PM GMT
    Q: How do I stop being gay?

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    Mar 20, 2015 9:12 PM GMT
    Obviously the OP has some "guy" issue. Dude just posted another forum titled "What is the psychology behind wanting a partner?"

    Post: "Why do I want a boyfriend so much? I want to understand my incessant desire from a psychological point of view.

    How do I start being less 'desperate' to be in a relationship? "


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4023007/

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    I'll be glad to repeat myself.

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    Mar 20, 2015 10:37 PM GMT
    mx5guynj saidLiberal Democrats have the answer for you:

    Obama already stated in his Glozell interview that being gay is a "Lifestyle Choice".

    Liberal Mayor DeBlasio of NYC already converted his wife from Lesbian to Hetero.


    Is this why you're single? Don't fret, I'm sure there's a niche market for raging asshat.
  • wesv

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    Mar 21, 2015 12:20 AM GMT
    In other posts you said you were bi. Just act out on girls. We don't want you.