glowstik saidEver considered that "love" may be a fleeting and false emotion. It may be more imporant to "like" someone in the end.
Love is not normally fleeting and is not a false emotion. It is possible to fall out of love with someone though.
eg: A child's love of their parent or visa versa is not a false emotion.
I didn't know what real love was until my first gay partner.
I thought I knew what love was before, a kind of affection & attraction. But that was with women, when I was still deluding myself that I was straight. It never really worked, and the women themselves told me it didn't, despite my best efforts. My heart just wasn't in it, I was merely copying the examples I saw around me, and not very convincingly.
Then I lived with Tom. Finally I discovered what love can really be. I assume because it was my proper orientation, not something alien to my nature, forced upon me by family and career.
Every day when I came home from the University I'd call out at the front door: "Hello, my love!" I'd never done anything like that before in my life, and here I was in my 50s. But it just came out of me spontaneously, I have no idea from where. My love for him was so great, I guess, I just thrilled to come home to him.
Love is a powerful emotion. But most powerful with the right person, of the right sexual orientation to your own. I sadly learned the consequences of a mismatch.
When you find your guy, you'll know it. You won't want to take your eyes off him. I actually got criticized for that on one occasion, for staring too much at him everywhere he went. Nor will you want to be separated from him, or do anything without him.
When that happens, then you will have discovered love.