6 Things I Need My (Gay) Son to Understand

  • metta

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    Mar 19, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    6 Things I Need My (Gay) Son to Understand

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/patrick-roth/6-things-i-need-my-gay-son-to-understand_b_6882884.html
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    Mar 19, 2015 10:27 PM GMT
    That is great and inspirational. One day I'm telling those stuff to my own kids. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2015 10:36 PM GMT
    I wish all parents could be like this! Sadly, we're not there yet.
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    Mar 19, 2015 10:42 PM GMT
    thank you for this post
  • FRE0

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    Mar 19, 2015 11:14 PM GMT
    Very good.
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    Mar 19, 2015 11:20 PM GMT
    The one thing I didn't like was dad's pressuring his son for grand kids. Your children, straight or gay, are under no obligation to fulfill your desires for grand children.
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    Mar 20, 2015 8:09 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidThe one thing I didn't like was dad's pressuring his son for grand kids. Your children, straight or gay, are under no obligation to fulfill your desires for grand children.


    This could not be more true!!! I had to tell my mother constantly for almost 20 years that I was not going to be having children before she finally stopped hinting about it.

    I have 2 wonderful god-children that I love and adore, and now that they're adults, I will be absolutely thrilled if they have children. But, if they have children is completely up to them, and I don't think one of them ever will have them, and the other doesn't seem to be in a hurry.
  • basnik

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    Mar 20, 2015 10:59 AM GMT
    thanks for posting
  • Buddha

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    Mar 20, 2015 6:15 PM GMT
    That was sweet.

    I have to ask though, do people still die of HIV in Western countries? Like, say I'd be diagnosed with HIV tomorrow, I thought the treatments nowadays were so good that I wouldn't develop AIDS? I'm not saying that people shouldn't practise safer sex because HIV isn't that fatal anymore, I'm just asking about the author's statement.
  • metta

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    Mar 20, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    ^
    yes, people still die of AIDS. Remember, a big chunk of the people who are HIV+ are not even aware of it. Some people don't get the treatments they need or take care of themselves as well as they should. And the rates of success for treatments are not 100%


    http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/basics/ataglance.html


    2013 data:

    Deaths per 100,000 population: 2.2

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/aids-hiv.htm

    It is probably not a totally accurate number but it is the best that I could find. Some of those may have died for other reasons.


    An estimated 13,712 people with an AIDS diagnosis died in 2012, and approximately 658,507 people in the United States with an AIDS diagnosis have died overalll3. The deaths of persons with an AIDS diagnosis can be due to any cause—that is, the death may or may not be related to AIDS.

    http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/basics/ataglance.html
  • bobbobbob

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    Mar 20, 2015 6:30 PM GMT
    Thanks for finding and posting that Metta. I forwarded to local PFLAG chapters and churches who can use it in helping parents adjust to having gay children.
  • Buddha

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    Mar 21, 2015 7:20 AM GMT
    metta8 said^
    yes, people still die of AIDS. Remember, a big chunk of the people who are HIV+ are not even aware of it. Some people don't get the treatments they need or take care of themselves as well as they should. And the rates of success for treatments are not 100%


    http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/basics/ataglance.html


    2013 data:

    Deaths per 100,000 population: 2.2

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/aids-hiv.htm

    It is probably not a totally accurate number but it is the best that I could find. Some of those may have died for other reasons.


    An estimated 13,712 people with an AIDS diagnosis died in 2012, and approximately 658,507 people in the United States with an AIDS diagnosis have died overalll3. The deaths of persons with an AIDS diagnosis can be due to any cause—that is, the death may or may not be related to AIDS.

    http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/basics/ataglance.html


    That's really interesting. I've been told that living with HIV is nowadays completely lets you live a normal life, and I get that it's told to get rid of the stigmatization of HIV, but it's a bit sad that this fact has been hidden for that cause.