Did you have a happy childhood? Are you happy now?

  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 21, 2015 9:09 AM GMT
    Your thoughts.
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    Mar 21, 2015 9:24 AM GMT
    No.
    Yes.
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    Mar 21, 2015 10:38 AM GMT
    Yes I did.

    Yes I am.

    Sharkie, You deserve the BEST.

    I am glad You got it.

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  • BlackCoach

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    Mar 21, 2015 1:36 PM GMT
    Yes and was happy until both died 2 years ago. Nobody understands me like they did
  • Breeman

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    Mar 21, 2015 1:42 PM GMT
    Mostly yes. I had, and still have great parents that I'm very thankful for. Got some ass whoopin' from my Dad along the way, but looking back most of it was well deserved for the stupid shit my brother and I got into.
  • stratavos

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    Mar 21, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    no, and that's followed by... most of the time content
  • bobbobbob

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    Mar 21, 2015 1:45 PM GMT
    Childhood was great for me.

    The first few years of being an adult were tough, first as a married college student discovering I was gay, then as a single father trying to be gay. Now I look back at it all and smile. As for life now, I can't imagine it being better.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Mar 21, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    My childhood for the most part was good. It would have been better if I didn't have to grow up in the isolated, rural exurb of Sanborn, New York where you needed a car to go anywhere.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 21, 2015 2:05 PM GMT
    The best and yes
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    Mar 21, 2015 3:32 PM GMT
    I was blessed with the best parents !
    Yes , i am happy and content the way my life turned out .
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    Mar 21, 2015 3:46 PM GMT
    No/no.
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    Mar 21, 2015 3:56 PM GMT
    Yes & Yes

    Not always 100% happy at all times, of course, some very tragic moments. But on balance more happy than not.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 21, 2015 4:12 PM GMT
    BlackCoach saidYes and was happy until both died 2 years ago. Nobody understands me like they did

    Yes, very happy childhood. Yes, very happy now. But I wanted to comment on this.

    When I lost both parents, kind of a strange thing happened. My parents were very fair and forgiving and understanding. They had high expectations but they also provided every opportunity for me to reach the goals they set yet also understood if I fell short and continued to love and support. So this isn't about any failure on their part. When they were gone, all of a sudden I felt a freedom to simply determine my own destination, reinvent myself or some piece of myself as I chose. Not much changed but it was invigorating and liberating and also a milestone in maturity that I hadn't expected. My folks treated me like an adult when I became an adult but it really wasn't until they were gone that I totally felt like an adult. Anyone else feel this?
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Mar 21, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    No
    Yes
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Mar 21, 2015 4:45 PM GMT
    Yes. I view my childhood as a very happy time of my life.

    Fortunately, I realized very early that I was facing quite some odds in life. Being gay was quietly tolerated but I knew that I was far more vulnerable than the next guy.

    I made sure that I aced through all the challenges of my young life. By the age of 18, I was completely independent, and was calling all the shots.

    I also learnt that calling the shots was making me very happy. Sure, my folks continued to be very supportive in every conceivable way. But that was a secondary show.

    I grew into a no nonsense dude. This sure, helped a lot.

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    Mar 21, 2015 5:13 PM GMT
    No. I was bullied all the time for my ways of doing things. I dint fit into the typical "boys". It was a hard time. I still have self esteem issues due to that.
  • Svnw688

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    Mar 21, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    Yes
    Yes

    Thankfully.
  • BloodFlame

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    Mar 21, 2015 7:31 PM GMT
    For the most part yes. Sure, I did go through some bullying but I'm happy I did because it made me who I am today. But back on childhood, while my dad worked a lot and I hardly saw him, he was the best step-dad ever. I can't remember much about my first step-mom since she died pretty early but I remember her being strict but caring. And while I didn't have many friends, the small few I did have were great and we always had our little "adventure" games. Even when I found out that my "mom" and "dad" weren't my biological real parents, my feelings never changed though I won't lie, I was curious who my real parents were lol.

    So yeah, I think for the most part, my childhood was positive. Am I happy now? Eh... Honestly, "happy" wouldn't be the best word. Just neutral.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 21, 2015 7:46 PM GMT
    I spent the first 10 years of my life in a small municipality of Toronto, and yes I was very happy.

    At 10, my mother moved us six kids to New York after our house had some kind of electrical fire, and things went downhill fast from there.

    Rest of my childhood was spent in foster care (13-21) after which I was promptly booted out into those mean streets.

    That's when I said screw it and came back to New York (cause this is where things happen, apparently). I've been mostly miserable but I have moments of clarity and bliss. I make things happen for myself, and I (mostly) don't complain. Things could have been A LOT worse for me.

    I live a life of solitude, I do everything alone. The friends I do have I push away. Le sigh. Solitude gives me peace, but distance from family and friends - lack of connections, relationships - makes me very miserable. That catch 22.
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    Mar 21, 2015 8:25 PM GMT
    My childhood wasn't too peaceful (parents constantly fighting), but I'm happier now. Sometimes, I think that I'd be happier with someone special in my life.
  • FRE0

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    Mar 21, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    Actually, my siblings and I did not have happy childhoods. Many people use an unhappy childhood for bad behavior, but I don't see that as an excuse. We can learn to behave responsibly and kindly even if we have had an unhappy childhood.

    Our parents never quarreled with each other and we could never turn one against the other; that was good. But we were constantly being put down; it seemed that we could never do anything right and were never good enough. We could not take problems home since if anything bad happened, it was assumed that we had done something wrong to cause it. Basically, there was no emotional support. The effect on all three of us was similar; we had trust issues. To a considerable degree one can recover from that sort of thing, but there is always a residual.

    When visiting other homes, I noticed the contrast. By comparison, they were very peaceful and the parents were not constantly putting down their kids.

    When I was 20, I was disowned after being outed. The shock was to some extent mitigated by my never having trusted them in the first place, but even so, it was still a horrible experience.
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    Mar 21, 2015 9:26 PM GMT
    My childhood was kinda okay, dormant. I'm working toward being more happy in my life. SO I'd say yes, happy childhood then not so much and now Yes.
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    Mar 21, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    Yes and Yes.

    Big family. Lots of siblings. Parents still married. Lots of great memories.
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    Mar 21, 2015 10:32 PM GMT
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    Mar 21, 2015 10:32 PM GMT
    I was well cared for when it came to food, shelter, clothing, education. It was the compassion, understanding, and nurturing that was lacking. My parents were strict disciplinarians that rarely tempered their justice with mercy. They fought constantly as both has short fuses. My home was loud and chaotic.
    My father rarely showed affection. I don't remember him ever hugging and kissing me. My mom wasn't touchy freely either. Somehow or another they managed to give birth to a child (me) who was very sensitive. I felt I was being raised by wolves in people clothing.

    I guess the answer to your first question for me is No.

    However, I have managed to build a happy life inspite of my upbringing and am nothing like them. Well, maybe a little like them but you can't come out of your upbringing completely unscathed.