After anal?

  • dyldo

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    Mar 23, 2015 1:48 PM GMT
    So Sunday, the 15th, I bottomed for the first time. It was uncomfortable, but not painful. I decided to do it again the Tuesday after that, the 17th. Once again, not painful. However, since that experience, my anus has been feeling raw, and altogether not normal. It doesn't hurt, but it's like a slight burning feeling you would have when something is raw. It happens during bowel movements but subtly all the time. There's never been any blood, so I don't think it could be a tear or anything. I've checked, and there's nothing wrong with the outside except it's maybe slightly red, but that could be a normal color since I've never really inspected it. So I'm really clueless, especially with my inexperience bottoming. Any ideas?
    Tomorrow will have been a week since Tuesday.
    (also condoms and lube were used both times FYI)
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    Mar 23, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
    Were lubricant used during the intercourse? Kinda wondering if your partner was too big down there.

    I don't think it's STDs or HIV, but I could be wrong. Since it's gonna be a week already, I strongly suggest you to see a doctor. I know it's embarassing but it really is for the best.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 23, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    That sensation is normal for a while after sex. You describe it perfectly. It actually can become something you look forward to as a private reminder of the fun you just were having. But a week is pretty long. Usually it goes away after a few hours or a day. It might just be because you're new and the second time was only two days after the first. The anus is a muscle and not used to being opened that way for that long. You've got muscle strain, I bet. Don't worry too much unless you see blood or other signs of a problem. Give it a few more days and it should stop feeling and go back to normal.

    Congrats on your first. And second. It sounds like your Top knew what he was doing and was a considerate, patient lover.
  • Rhi_Bran

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    Mar 24, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    My bet is on anal fissure. And if it's that, don't worry - they heal in time. However, an anal fissure means you are much more vulnerable to STD's while it persists.
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    May 08, 2015 12:29 AM GMT
    Did he jam it in there like in porn? If so, perhaps increase the foreplay and constantly use lube.

    After you have anal, increase your fiber and water intake. This makes your bowel movements less painful.
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    May 10, 2015 2:30 AM GMT
    Using the wrong lube can be a real issue. What brand were you using? Also, there's no such thing as too much lube (well, sorta.) Another question.....did you clean yourself out properly beforehand?
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    May 13, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    A good bottom is almost impossible to find.
  • sethfr

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    May 19, 2015 8:23 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidA good bottom is almost impossible to find.


    Not if you're a good top
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    May 19, 2015 9:24 AM GMT
    The interval between the episodes may have been too brief for an anal virgin, the amount of lube not enough, the sex too fast & rough. Now the rectum is extra sore. The lack of blood is a good sign.

    Each day the discomfort should lessen, although it may take 2 weeks to lose it totally. If not then see a doctor. Taking an oral stool softener, drinking lots of liquids, and avoiding spicy foods during this period may further reduce the discomfort. Afterwards anal sex should occur no more frequently than at 2-week intervals, until the act becomes more comfortable, since it appears you've already hurt yourself once. Gradully the frequency may be increased. Until then take it slow & easy.
  • venue35

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    May 20, 2015 11:15 PM GMT
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    Sep 20, 2015 12:14 PM GMT
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    Sep 20, 2015 7:30 PM GMT
    I can understand you. You are absolutely fine. But do visit a doctor. Do some yoga and zen exercises, it will help to open up the chakras and reduce the pain.
    You should have taken olive oil or sunflower oil as lubricant. But anyway, these experiences will make you a wiser bottom.icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 21, 2015 12:58 AM GMT
    musclesbuilder said
    You should have taken olive oil or sunflower oil as lubricant.



    Although he wants his salad tossed, I don't think he means literally.
  • Julemar

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    Nov 06, 2015 8:51 AM GMT
    I also experience that before ...its your first time, it will probably adjust after couple of weeks..
  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 25, 2016 3:32 PM GMT
    What kind of lube are you using? I found that I have some kind of allergic reaction to some lubes that sounds pretty similar to what you're describing. Try a different kind. Might change your life!
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    Jan 26, 2016 11:02 PM GMT
    I'd give it a week or two to see if your "natural comfort" comes back.

    Also, a good tip for preparing before anal sex, after you douche/wash out your hole, soap etc.. you should lubricate your hole immediately after drying yourself off, rather than waiting until you engage in anal sex.

    Reason being, your natural mucus lining is washed away and it takes the body about an hour to naturally re-moisturize the rectum.

    To prevent any tears or damage to your rectal lining during anal sex, this is a good tip to add to the routine.

    Happy Bottoming ;)