dtbro saidSo I commission tomorrow morning. I'm super stoked, but I want to get advice on things I need to avoid. I've done quite a bit of research online, but I could only find much about fraternization. My understanding of that is no romance, no hanky-panky with any enlisted members of any branch. Other than that it tends to be very general 'conduct unbecoming of a military officer' type wording. I'll probably put a shirt on when taking profile pictures, I guess. Any anecdotal advice from you guys? I know in the end it's up to my command, but I'm having difficulty finding guidance.
I went my entire enlisted "career" (~6 years, 1.5 Navy - where I spent most of my time in an IA slot, and ~5.5 years in the Army) without a relationship or anything else (until almost the end of my ETS).
Think about it as a job. What you have to do on duty is be a professional. You have a job, everything else is miscelaneous. Off duty, that's when you can have your personal life, and nobody really cares what you do. Just don't make the service look bad. That's all they really care about. They're not looking into your personal life like the Gestapo. Until they hear of a problem, there really isn't any problem.
When you're deployed, it's not that different. Sure we do lots of random stuff to pass the time, like "who's hotter, Jessica Alba or ...", and off-duty you're hanging out with friends. But I prefered to keep it professional.
If you do meet someone, keep it out of your direct chain of command; even out of your unit is preferable.
I was in a unit with fraternization, in our case it was an SSG with a PFC. Everybody knew, and that guy looked like a shitbag. At that unit, I had a lesbian SSG, and nobody gave her any shit. She kept it very professional.
In officers, I preferred seeing those who used "transformational" leadership - those that would inspire me to follow them, and I followed orders not because I was supposed to, but because they made me *want* to.
I've had a brand new 1LT take us 15K in the wrong direction, ignoring the advice of NCO-infantry people, because he thought he was high speed.
Remember, as long as your prefix is LT, you're basically a PFC/SNR/airman basic. Decisions are your job, but take the advice of your NCO's. When they do good, make them look good.
Also, praise in public, reprimand in private.