bullying

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    Mar 26, 2015 3:46 PM GMT
    I realize that bullying can be a real danger, but do we sometimes over react? What ever happened to "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?
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    Mar 26, 2015 4:04 PM GMT
    curiousgeorge saidI realize that bullying can be a real danger, but do we sometimes over react?
    Yes, suicide could be considered as an overreaction.

    curiousgeorge saidWhat ever happened to "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"?
    Words do more damage than sticks and stones. In fact, words cause the sticks and stones to be used.
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    Mar 26, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    hmmmm... look who the OP is:
    Curiousgeorge, with 2 mighty posts and a headless pic and on realjock no less.

    what are you afraid of C. George
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    Mar 26, 2015 4:57 PM GMT
    And whatever happened to fighting back? Everyone's a victim these days.
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    Mar 26, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    pellaz saidhmmmm... look who the OP is:
    Curiousgeorge, with 2 mighty posts and a headless pic and on realjock no less.

    what are you afraid of C. George


    What was the topic? Oh yeah, bullying
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    Mar 26, 2015 5:17 PM GMT
    I have been bullied.

    At 14 in the 80's - that's a time when your parents had acne...

    I came out.

    People were dying of aids.

    But I said Fuck It.

    I do that a lot.

    I was threatened with death.

    I was told I deserverved it because I asked for it.

    Try walking home when the boys want to hurt you and their Fathers think its ok.

    Now, if you tell a "dude" to do something with His hair, Yer a Bulley.

    Enuff already

    We are Men not baby geese...
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    Mar 26, 2015 5:22 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidAnd whatever happened to fighting back? Everyone's a victim these days.

    unless when they are not...
    ppl are not victims if "they let themselfs be one", you only a victim when you "fight back"...
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    Mar 27, 2015 12:53 PM GMT
    Physical bullying and emotional bullying are definitely on par when it comes to the level of harms; just because there isn't any visible wounds like its physical counterpart, it doesn't make the latter one less serious. On the contrary, they aren't more or less of the one another.

    The worst case scenario of emotional bullying can lead the victim commit suicide, deal with anxiety, emotional traumized, etc.
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    Mar 28, 2015 7:57 AM GMT
    We might overreact to a joke or an offhand comment, but bullying and joking around should not be regarded as the same thing.
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    Mar 28, 2015 8:28 AM GMT
    Cash saidI have been bullied.

    At 14 in the 80's - that's a time when your parents had acne...

    I came out.

    People were dying of aids.

    But I said Fuck It.

    I do that a lot.

    I was threatened with death.

    I was told I deserverved it because I asked for it.

    Try walking home when the boys want to hurt you and their Fathers think its ok.

    Now, if you tell a "dude" to do something with His hair, Yer a Bulley.

    Enuff already

    We are Men not baby geese...


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    Mar 28, 2015 8:34 AM GMT
    People kill others who unfriend them on Facebook these days. True bullying is reprehensible, but honestly, a lot is blown out of proportion. Young people have been so coddled and praised for nothing that they cannot take constructive criticism, or reality for that matter. I see this at work all the time. Telling someone they need to shape up on the job is now "disrespecting" them.
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    Mar 28, 2015 11:01 AM GMT
    I don't remember ever being bullied while I was growing up. Even before I took up wrestling when I was 12. icon_wink.gif

    In fact the most shit I've ever had to take from people has been on THIS SITE. But there's a difference between one-time harassment and bullying. One-time harassment happens, you guessed it, once. Bullying is the harassment perpetrated over and over again. And usually it gets worse as time goes on until a stop is put to it.

    Just this morning I've already been skinny-shamed twice.

    My accent's been made fun of. When I asked a guy in a message if they said "y'all" in his part of Virginia, like they do around Louisville where I am, he said they did. And that they also kept moonshine stills in their back yards the way Kentuckians do. Yer killin' me, dude.

    I live with my parents to save money. They are Southern Baptist to the core - taking the need for sex into your own hand is "self-pollution." Needless to say they're rabidly homophobic as well. So some guy here calls me a coward for not coming out to them.

    I don't consider myself a victim in those cases. The offenders are victims of their own projected inferiority complexes, I think:
    Men who are insecure will sometimes turn to weight lifting and/or bodybuilding to compensate. Then once they're "swole" or whatever they feel threatened by a guy who's comfortable in his own skin. Skinny-shaming happens.
    A lot of people demand for me to repeat words a second time or "just think of something to say" so they can get off on listening to my drawl (which is actually very weak compared to, say, Mississippi. lol) It's far greater than the number who pretend to not understand me or say they can't stand Southern accents. So the douche in Virginia may have actually been jealous of how I sound.

    Finally: Random man, it must have really been rough to have your sister find the vibrating dildo under your bed when you were 15. Or to have your dad catch you and a buddy rubbing one out. I sympathize. Honestly I do. But why would I want to repeat your traumatic experience if I can help it? How would that make me "courageous"?

    I stay here because the good people far outnumber the bad. You don't notice because the bad ones are harassing or insulting others a lot more loudly. Bullying? I don't think so.
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    Mar 28, 2015 12:03 PM GMT
    Tell some kid who's being bullied - very big part of life for him or her. A major problem as we have seen
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    Mar 28, 2015 2:46 PM GMT
    GoCardinalsGo said...

    Just this morning I've already been skinny-shamed twice.

    ...
    I get that every once in a while...especially in places that aren't very fitness conscious (ie. the deep south).

    I just respond with "yeah I lost ~80 lbs and am way happier with my looks, and glad I'm not as fat as you anymore." That shuts them up quick. icon_lol.gif