I left a note in a guy's gym locker today #awkward

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    Mar 28, 2015 3:05 AM GMT
    So there's this really attractive guy at the gym. I've seen him several times, and idk at times I thought we made eye contact?!?!

    He came into the locker room and there were tons of empty lockers, but he decides to shut my locker door (mine was open and in the corner and I was getting ready to leave, because I pulled my shoulder; my coat and stuff were still inside it) and then he apologizes for closing it and smiles ^_^ to use the locker right next to mine...

    Anyway, he didn't leave a lock on his locker so I left a note with my FB and email on it... I know the gym closed and he saw the letter and I feel totally stupid.

    I basically said in the letter.

    Hey man,

    This is the guy who was to the left of your locker. You have a great build and if you want add me on FB or if you wouldn't mind emailing me your split/routine...

    Best,

    My name

    P.S. Sorry if this is awkward and if it is completely ignore this letter.


    Okay I feel really stupid right now and I think I "imagined" that this guy was interested in me.

    Does anyone have advice or a similar story?
  • mystery905

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    Mar 28, 2015 3:11 AM GMT
    Don't feel bad.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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    Mar 28, 2015 4:14 AM GMT
    mystery905 saidDon't feel bad.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.



    Thanks I know you're right... I just feel stupid like he's probably straight or idk I just feel dumb >_<

    When I see him I'll just act like nothing happened and idk I feel stupid.
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    Mar 28, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    Leaving a note in his locker shows initiative. People like that. But to reduce awkwardness and misspellings next time, have preprinted and at the ready some gentleman's calling cards to sneak one into his back pocket while he's distracted. It's all a matter of finesse. Never cup while you slide. If he catches you in the act, just act like you've no idea what's going on.

    They come in different styles or you can make your own

    I'd start with something subdued like this
    callingcard2.jpg

    and if that didn't work, then the next time I'd try one of these
    TERRAPIN_BITCH_large.jpg?10007

    But even the note is definitely more personal than grindr. So you're one up on that. Hope for you that it worked.
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    Mar 28, 2015 5:09 AM GMT
    theantijock saidLeaving a note in his locker shows initiative. People like that. But to reduce awkwardness and misspellings next time, have preprinted and at the ready some gentleman's calling cards to sneak one into his back pocket while he's distracted. It's all a matter of finesse. Never cup while you slide. If he catches you in the act, just act like you've no idea what's going on.

    They come in different styles or you can make your own

    I'd start with something subdued like this
    callingcard2.jpg

    and if that didn't work, then the next time I'd try one of these
    TERRAPIN_BITCH_large.jpg?10007

    But even the note is definitely more personal than grindr. So you're one up on that. Hope for you that it worked.


    Thanks you're the best man :-)

    My barber shop has the picture below on their wall; your first card reminded me of something my barber would tell me to do to pick up a hot chick lol.

    photo image_zps4xxmkwwv.jpg
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    Mar 28, 2015 5:15 AM GMT
    pazzy saiduhhh.... why did you do that? icon_neutral.gif

    you should have just said what's up to him if that was the case. does he know that you're gay?


    Like mystery905 said nothing ventured nothing gained... I refuse to live with regrets and yeah I felt a little dumb about it, but I know I'm worthy of love and I have faith I'll find someone with similar values.

    I never asked him out I asked him for workout tips and although that's cheesy and transparent -- once I had a feel for his personality I would've asked him to grab coffee etc.
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    Mar 28, 2015 5:21 AM GMT
    I've come to the conclusion that guy is SO HOT that it can't be the first time a guy has hit on him -- so I forgive myself.

    #LifeBeginsAtTheEndOfYourComfortZone
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    Mar 28, 2015 5:38 AM GMT
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    mystery905 saidDon't feel bad.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.



    Thanks I know you're right... I just feel stupid like he's probably straight or idk I just feel dumb >_<

    When I see him I'll just act like nothing happened and idk I feel stupid.


    So what if he is?

    I'm 61 and still crazily forward. I'm still alive. Fuck, I'll meet anyone I want and do.

    Don't fret about it. I bet you hear from him.
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:10 AM GMT
    If I found something like that in my locker I'd be like "Who's this needy passive-aggressive fool?" Just sayin'.
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:11 AM GMT
    freedomisntfree said
    AnOriginal said
    mystery905 saidDon't feel bad.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.



    Thanks I know you're right... I just feel stupid like he's probably straight or idk I just feel dumb >_<

    When I see him I'll just act like nothing happened and idk I feel stupid.


    So what if he is?

    I'm 61 and still crazily forward. I'm still alive. Fuck, I'll meet anyone I want and do.

    Don't fret about it. I bet you hear from him.


    Thanks man... I think the most important part in embracing being forward is to not let anyone get you down or bitter... If it works, awesome; if it doesn't that's cool too, it just wasn't meant to be...

    I guess you have to look at being forward like winning a prize. Don't have any expectations and if you do get a date etc. it's just the cherry on top of an already amazing life :-)

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    Mar 28, 2015 6:15 AM GMT
    GoCardinalsGo saidIf I found something like that in my locker I'd be like "Who's this needy passive-aggressive fool?" Just sayin'.


    Yeah don't worry I don't think you'll ever have that problem lmao... This guy is hotter than hot -- you have no idea how attractive this guy is... He flaunts it; he's probably straight and flirts with guys to boost his ego -- he basically stripped in the locker room and smirked in the mirror as I glanced at his rear one time icon_redface.gif

    But yeah no offense GoCardinalsGo but you're nowhere near this guys level -- so I doubt this will ever be an issue for you -- jusy sayin'. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:21 AM GMT
    Do you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. Plus you didn't say anything that particular shows your interest. If anything you could just say "I was only interested in exchanging contact for fitness related purposes."
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:27 AM GMT
    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. There were times when I've mistaken straight guys as gay. So embarrassing.


    I honestly don't know, but he does seem like a flirt... I heard him once complimenting this guys build non-stop once in the locker room. And he has purposely stood in front of a mirror to strip down to his briefs. I usually pick a locker near the mirror to make sure my headphones are even. And looking back I think he's a straight tease... icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:31 AM GMT
    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. Plus you didn't say anything that particular shows your interest. If anything you could just say "I was only interested in exchanging contact for fitness related purposes."



    No NO NO. Don't pussy out on him. Tell him exactly what you're up to. Tell him that you think he's hot .... really hot and would he like to get together sometime outside of the gym?
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:33 AM GMT
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    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. There were times when I've mistaken straight guys as gay. So embarrassing.


    I honestly don't know, but he does seem like a flirt... I heard him once complimenting this guys build non-stop once in the locker room. And he has purposely stood in front of a mirror to strip down to his briefs. I usually pick a locker near the mirror to make sure my headphones are even. And looking back I think he's a straight tease... icon_redface.gif


    Ok, if you want to meet folks, that's the first thing to go. Get rid of the damn headphones. Make yourself approachable.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Mar 28, 2015 6:35 AM GMT
    The OP did well.

    Showing some initiative without being too intense about it is a good thing.

    If the dude is not interested, he'll simply disregard the note. No harm done, no expense/effort wasted. Nada.

    I would not spend any time thinking about the sexual orientation of this dude. Quite a few very str8 guys will gladly mess around with another dude these days if the circumstances are right. They may not want to be your BF, and live openly with you but would be happy to have a little sideshow going on for their benefit.

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    Mar 28, 2015 6:38 AM GMT
    AnOriginal said
    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. There were times when I've mistaken straight guys as gay. So embarrassing.


    I honestly don't know, but he does seem like a flirt... I heard him once complimenting this guys build non-stop once in the locker room. And he has purposely stood in front of a mirror to strip down to his briefs. I usually pick a locker near the mirror to make sure my headphones are even. And looking back I think he's a straight tease... icon_redface.gif


    That's make me want to wonder even more. How did he compliment the other guy's build? Because from my experience, straight guys have complimented my built and there was no sexual content or signs of interest. But from gay guys, they have complimented my built in a way I can tell they are sexually interested.
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:41 AM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidThe OP did well.

    Showing some initiative without being too intense about it is a good thing.

    If the dude is not interested, he'll simply disregard the note. No harm done, no expense/effort wasted. Nada.

    I would not spend any time thinking about the sexual orientation of this dude. Quite a few very str8 guys will gladly mess around with another dude these days if the circumstances are right. They may not want to be your BF, and live openly with you but would be happy to have a little sideshow going on for their benefit.

    SC


    Way back when .... I had much better luck in straight bars than I did gay ones. It was just so easy.
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:50 AM GMT
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    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. Plus you didn't say anything that particular shows your interest. If anything you could just say "I was only interested in exchanging contact for fitness related purposes."



    No NO NO. Don't pussy out on him. Tell him exactly what you're up to. Tell him that you think he's hot .... really hot and would he like to get together sometime outside of the gym?


    Haha omg you need to become the male version of a Dear Abby column. I like the way you think, although my personality is kind of shy when it comes to meeting guys... I can be assertive in other areas, but why is it so scary to tell a dude you're into them? I mean no one likes rejection, but idk I've never been crazy forward.

    I actually had a girl in HS (I never had a class with her) and she wrote me a crazy long love letter. It was really sweet, looking back, I wish I have her a hug -- then again I once gave a quick kiss on the lips (no tongue) because this guy LIED and said he never had a a kiss in his life, he felt ugly, and it would mean the world if someone like me kissed him... Well I thought WTH if I can mean that much to someone why not give him a kiss... After that I took him to a botanical garden, because he seemed depressed. BUT I made it clear we were only friends -- well he fell "head over heels" and I lost a friendship, because he was furious I wouldn't give him a chance (he was not my type and way too needy) BUT here's the kicker he had a freaking boyfriend SO HE LIED... He obviously had a kiss if he's been dating and living with this guy for 1+ years... It broke my heart when he said he never loved his bf; I felt so bad for that guy. His bf basically took him in and it's f'd up to try and cheat on him.

    Anyway that was months ago and I'm glad I'm not dealing with that nonsense anymore... I need to avoid guys for awhile; they're too much trouble lol.
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:51 AM GMT
    No matter how many of you mirror kissing, skinny-shaming big-city bitches think this guy "grew a pair" the fact is he did the exact opposite. Slipping little notes into somebody's locker when his back is turned screams needy and passive-aggressive. It's so pathetic it's hilarious. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 28, 2015 6:59 AM GMT
    GoCardinalsGo saidNo matter how many of you mirror kissing, skinny-shaming big-city bitches think this guy "grew a pair" the fact is he did the exact opposite. Slipping little notes into somebody's locker when his back is turned screams needy and passive-aggressive. It's so pathetic it's hilarious. icon_razz.gif


    Yawns... Go away you have a weird pear shaped body and you're annoying as hell. (the latter is what makes me dislike you so much)... Did your parents ever teach you manners and not to be that annoying family member who sticks his nose where it doesn't belong... Go back to your silly conservative community and stop hating on people who are proud of growing up and living in a blue state icon_wink.gif

    Actually this is a great way to note the fact that I would never have been able to do this in a state or community that wasn't progressive. If the guy is straight he'll be able to blow it off, but having family in Alabama, and visiting Mississippi (to watch an Ole Miss vs. Auburn game) I can assure you this could have never been done comfortably in a red state...

    Shockingly I agree with this turd -- I should've just asked him if he wanted to possibly grab coffee instead of leaving a note. I obviously wasn't going to seek him out on the gym floor to ask him out for coffee and waiting for him would've just been stalker-like. I told him if it was awkward (aka he's straight or not into me -- to just ignore this note)... So all in all there was no harm done and if anything I boosted his already healthy ego haha.
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    Mar 28, 2015 7:17 AM GMT
    wesv saidDo you know if this guy is even gay? If he is, then I wouldn't make it seem like it's that big of a deal. Plus you didn't say anything that particular shows your interest. If anything you could just say "I was only interested in exchanging contact for fitness related purposes."


    dude read the OP. He asked him for working out tips, not asking him out for a date. As OP mentioned, he had to start somewhere before he even make the decision to ask him out for coffee.


    sheesh
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    Mar 28, 2015 7:22 AM GMT
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    SilverRRCloud saidThe OP did well.

    Showing some initiative without being too intense about it is a good thing.

    If the dude is not interested, he'll simply disregard the note. No harm done, no expense/effort wasted. Nada.

    I would not spend any time thinking about the sexual orientation of this dude. Quite a few very str8 guys will gladly mess around with another dude these days if the circumstances are right. They may not want to be your BF, and live openly with you but would be happy to have a little sideshow going on for their benefit.

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    Way back when .... I had much better luck in straight bars than I did gay ones. It was just so easy.


    With guys?
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    Mar 28, 2015 7:24 AM GMT
    Thanks Sirandy, you obviously took the time to read this thread -- instead of just posting something based on the title.
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    Mar 28, 2015 8:56 AM GMT
    I like the story so far, keep us updated icon_smile.gif