Heights and what attracts you to them

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    Jan 24, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    i am sure this has been posted before but i was wondering what everyone else thinks about a guys height. I think that the taller a guy is the more attractive he is, even if he isnt, and wonder what tall guys think about average sized guys like myself. I have gotten down with some taller guys and its the same as a guy my height. guess its an insecurity of mine but i would like to know what tall guys think about fooling with a guy smaller than themselves.

    genetics... why cant I be taller FUCK!
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    Jan 24, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    You are right a similar thread was on a while back.
    I am 6'2" and a Volleyball player like yourself so I identify!

    Throughout my life i have dated guys as short as 5'3" and as tall as 6' 4"
    and honestly, as most taller guys will tell you it is NOT about height but everything else first. Five foot eleven would be perfect for me in terms of how we look together but again, height is far down the list of qualifying characteristics of attraction.
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    Jan 24, 2009 5:39 AM GMT
    I don't think a guy's height is a measure of attractiveness. I tend to prefer guys around my height, but that doesn't mean I would exclude taller guys either. If a guy is hot, then he's hot regardless of height.
  • DCEric

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    Jan 24, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    I'm actually attracted to guys shorter than me... and at 5'9" that is a tall order.
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    Jan 24, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    As far as I'm aware, a guys height matters a lot to women, but far less to gay men. Obviously, having never been a woman, I can't say for sure. icon_smile.gif

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    Jan 24, 2009 4:24 PM GMT
    Personally, I like guys of all ages & heights.But I really find a shorter (under 5' 6") guy who has a great build especially attractive....a "pocket gay" to quote Will & Grace. LOL
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    Jan 24, 2009 4:32 PM GMT
    I read a scientific article once correlating general good health and longevity with long legs. I can't find it though. I think there was also another which disputes that study.

    Height is essentially an easy way to determine good nutrition and thus higher status, hence why it seems to be hardwired for females (and some gay males) to like taller men. It's evolution I think. icon_razz.gif Unless it has certain environmental consequences (like in forest living tribes, notably the Mbuti Pygmy tribes of Congo), where height has an adverse effect on survivability and lower stature probably means a higher chance of finding food, evading predators and enemies, and living long enough to procreate. Hence the pressure to be shorter.

    It also has an indirect effect on self-esteem, if your height is much lower (or way higher) than the average in your region. I hesitate to use this term... but... the so-called Napoleon Complex, probably exaggerated of course, but there is a definite correlation between height and social perception. Not because of genetic factors or whatnot, but because of social pressure to conform and the inability to do so. Taller people are shown to get better jobs... icon_eek.gif Not to mention sports and the military, most of which have minimum height requirements. Both of which can affect a man's sense of masculinity greatly.

    I'm short by western standards (5'6") but actually taller than the average 5'4" of the Philippines, so I didn't have height issues growing up. I do wish I was taller sometimes. But meh. icon_razz.gif I think I'm alright with my height. I do like taller (and bigger) guys generally, but far from exclusively. I dunno. I just like the protector image taller guys evoke. icon_confused.gif

    DISCLAIMER: The above psuedoscientific mumbo-jumbo is mostly composed of my own opinions and not based on actual scientific studies nor informed psychological evaluations, except where cited explicitly.
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    Jan 24, 2009 4:46 PM GMT
    I am 6'4"/6'5" (varies lol), and I tend to date guys shorter than I am. The shortest guy I dated was around 5'6, and height had nothing to do with why we didn't date longer than we did (I moved), and he was one of my favorites.

    Like some others have said in reply to your post, height isn't something that I heavily weigh when deciding whether or not to date a guy. A guy really can't be held accountable for the genes his parents donated to him, after all. Personality, intelligence/wittiness, health/nutrition, hobbies, general attractiveness, and how you "click" are more important qualities to consider, in my opinion.

    At 5'11", you are not short, by definition. You're at or above average height, I believe. Hold your head up high, stand to your full 5'11", and smile, and you'll be well on your way to turning heads of guys of any height. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 24, 2009 4:47 PM GMT
    I think the characteristic of height is like any other characteristic in terms of attractiveness. It depends on the individual. For some it will be a big deal and for others, they couldnt care less.

    For me, height is almost paramount importance for a long term sexual relationship. The man has to be short. 5'6 and below. Or another way that I express it is: My attraction to a man is inversely proportional to his height.

    Now that doest mean that I cant have a one off with a tall guy. Stick your dick out, I'll suck it. Nor does it mean that I can't have a friendship with a tall guy. But I have learned that I only stay sexually interested in short men....and the cuter the better.

    I have never tested this out with a dwarf to see if there is a lower limit to my height attractiveness.
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    Jan 24, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    i like guys taller then me, because i like to kiss "up" if that makes sense lol (when standing)
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    Jan 24, 2009 5:37 PM GMT
    Taller guys have more acreage to peruse.
  • HorrorHound

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    Jan 24, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    Yea....TAKE IT FROM ME....As a tall guy, I don't get much play icon_confused.gif Ehhh, Oh well.
  • Sparkycat

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    Jan 24, 2009 6:27 PM GMT
    taller guy, bigger dick
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    Jan 24, 2009 6:43 PM GMT
    ^ to the guy above this... WRONG

    for the most part i am fine with my height but for the sports that i play a few extra inches wouldnt hurt lol. and personally though i am a top i always feel that i should be the bottom with a taller guy. mabye thats just something thats embedded into my brain but still true. i love taller guys but when he is considerably (3-5in) taller than myself i feel overshadowed... idk mabye i should just grow up lol

    and yeah if they are hot it doesnt really matter does it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 24, 2009 6:58 PM GMT
    Well, I'm 6'2" and I don't really care about a guy's height. Most guys I've dated though tended to be my height or under. My current bf is an inch shorter. It doesn't matter to me. Brains, personality, education, interests, curiosity about life, consideration, like interests and his degree of hawtness! do it for me instead of height!
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    Jan 24, 2009 7:02 PM GMT
    Sedative saidI read a scientific article once correlating general good health and longevity with long legs. I can't find it though. I think there was also another which disputes that study.


    well considering that most of your bone marrow is stored in the long bones, I think that theory would make sense.
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    Jan 24, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    personally, I'd prefer if he were a few or 6 inches taller than me. would allow him to boink me from more positions comfortably
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    Jan 24, 2009 7:37 PM GMT
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    ssshhh... I have a little boy butt....

    I'm JUST saying...
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    I have no height preferences. My only LTR was the same height. Most of the guys I've dated recently we're taller. Just the way it worked out.

  • NiceFit

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    Jan 24, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    At 5/10, I'm kind of at the tall end of average height and prefer guys who are short. Why? Less travelling time. All the good bits are closer together! icon_lol.gif

    With that said, I can also enjoy guys up to about 6/2. Taller than that gets to be unmanageable for me.
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    Jan 24, 2009 7:46 PM GMT
    NiceFit saidAt 5/10, I'm kind of at the tall end of average height and prefer guys who are short. Why? Less travelling time. All the good bits are closer together! icon_lol.gif

    With that said, I can also enjoy guys up to about 6/2. Taller than that gets to be unmanageable for me.


    I never thought of it like that. Interesting...
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    Jan 24, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    dont get me wrong guys. i am in no way knocking a smaller or taller guy just curious is all. the point of the whole post was to bitch about my own height haha. although its easy to feel inferior to a 6'6 middle hitter on the court its even more fun to suprise them when i get a kill over them haha
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    Jan 24, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    I used to get really hot for tall guys, if they were taller, my arse screamed to be topped hahaha, I think its the whole protection thing ya know, curl up in there arms, they are bigger so your all safe sort of thing...

    Now though, I'm actually turning around and finding shorter guys sexy, well, at least to topping them, there cute lil arses just make me do really really bad things to them icon_biggrin.gif

    but I don't specifically look for hights, last long termer was an inch shorter then me, so, meh, I don't personally care if the next one is the same, taller, shorter or what ever..
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    Jan 24, 2009 9:08 PM GMT
    LOL I LOOOOOOVE BEING 6'5!!

    HAHAHA U SHORT!
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    Jan 24, 2009 9:26 PM GMT
    5' 9...

    I'd kill for an extra 2 or 3 inches. I suppose I should be happy. My farther and brother are close to 5' 7.

    I get turned on by the idea of taller guys but then in practical terms. I've probably been more slightly dominant than most the guys I've been with and there's some kind of intimidating sense of inadequacy for them, when you're the short l guy holding down a taller, more built guy. then they fight back and I love it because it makes me feel like slightly dominated and were on a level playing field.

    But usually they say something along the lines of Oh I'm hurting you, arn't I?


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    Jan 24, 2009 11:01 PM GMT
    I'm 5'7 and I'd love to be a few inches taller.

    As for guys, I've dated guys taller and shorter than but strangely I have trouble dating people my height.

    Guess I like looking down or looking up at someone. Make of it what you will.