MGINSD saidI've got a theory about anal sex, which is not nearly as many guys are into it as purported, and many of those who say they are only are because they think its one of the requirements to be gay. Thoughts? (No "feelings," please.)
I think that terms like "gay", "straight", "bi", etc. are simple, broad categorizations of a very complicated and highly individualized, fusion of mental, physical, emotional, cultural, spiritual or other components, to make up "sexuality"...and sexuality is a lot more than "part A goes into part B"....
RESPECT...plays into the makeup and type of sex. If there is no respect for the "boundaries" of the partners, it leads to either no sex or a rape situation, because it was not consensual.
The expectation of certain sexual positions doesn't define your orientation.....are "straight guys" that like to be pegged by their girlfriends, wives or swapped partners "gay"?....there isn't another guy with them, but they are being penetrated... it is simply a physical stimulus of the prostate along with the thoughts of their woman.....they have no intention or interest in another guy, but it just feels GREAT and she is directing the ride for BOTH of them at the same time.....Is he "gay"? Open-minded YES!.....gay?..not really. So, as always, the devil is in the details....sexuality is not B&W, nor is it even a simple single axis shaded scale like Kinsey suggested....but MULTIPLE axis, with "fuzzy" boundaries.
Why do you think there are so many more "terms" for descriptors of sexuality?...ever hear of Asexual, Multi-sexual, queer, transsexual....and others....because these terms start to account for the additional components in a persons sexuality.
Anal sex isn't a requirement for being gay, any more than eating rice at every meal defines you as Asian, for example.TO the OP.....if you don't want or like anal sex....that is up to you. If the other guy insists on anal sex after you have said NO......there is no respect of your boundaries and I would not feel bad about breaking it off right there and then.....If you don't respect and honor yourself, why would anyone else give you more than you want for yourself?