Destinharbor saidThere's no secret to being fit. A healthy diet with portion control plus a sufficiently vigorous exercise program. Sure, guys' metabolisms can be faster or slower making it all easier or harder but truthfully, it is hard for everyone. So if you're not achieving the level of "fit" you desire in a partner, it's because they're working harder and not cheating. As much. Because they think it's worth the pain and effort and self-denial. The reason more fit guys don't usually date less fit guys is because they don't appreciate excuses that they consider self-serving and mentally lazy. It's going against an important value in their lives that they work hard to maintain. It isn't a snobbery thing.
So relax your target requirements or do the work to warrant their appreciation.
I call bullshit on this entire post. First off "do the work to warrant their appreciation" implies that you are not a worthwhile person unless you change to fit a certain perception. That's the perspective of a body nazi
Don't fall into that trap.
Second, everybody's metabolism and body is different. Some people do the work, and they look great. They have an excellent body feedback loop. Some people work just as hard and get much lesser results. This makes it hard to stay motivated and on track. You can get results if you stick with it long enough, and continue to try new things until you find the things that work for you.
Third, I have met and had relationships with men that were at far superior levels of fitness than I was. I'm a bear. I will always be a bear. The number of athletic looking guys that are into me is large, I can date quite a few of them. There are a lot of guys that like a stocky bear look. If you own your bearish nature, you can start to attract guys that like bears, which include quite a few athletic fellas.
So many times when I meet that kind of guy in a bar, guys with six packs, the first thing they want to do is put their hands on my belly and rub it. There are more guys like this than you think.
It's true though that Real Jock is probably not your best demographic, many of the guys are looking for the same kind of guy, and most guys on this site are not really LOOKING for anybody.
"The reason more fit guys don't usually date less fit guys is because they don't appreciate excuses that they consider self-serving and mentally lazy. It's going against an important value in their lives that they work hard to maintain. It isn't a snobbery thing. "
For the love of god stay away from any asshole that has this kind of opinion. They lack empathy, they lack the ability to see different peoples challenges and accept them. I dated a guy like this once. He thought I was lazy and ate too much and he was really fit. Turns out he only hit the gym once a week, and swam a couple of times a week. And guess what he was born with the perfect body. I worked out harder than he did, ate better, got more sleep, but he could just coast. He assumed everybody was like him and anybody else was just lazy. He was actually a nice guy in other areas, but in this one area, he had the world handed to him on a silver platter and he could not imagine that the world might treat others differently.