This soldier says two dudes kissing is nasty but we groping each other. What is really going on? Am I looking to much into it?

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    Apr 06, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
    I’m a soldier in love with another soldier and I need advice. I met this soldier two years ago at a meeting. We deployed that year to Afghanistan in 2013-2014. We started looking at each other while deployed. Then throughout the deployment he started feeling on my back, my arm, my side and stomach. Holding my hand or wrist when we shake hands. I always resisted my urges, but all of a sudden I fell hard for him. I started bringing him gifts worth hundreds of dollars on multiple occasions; I bought food to his bed and other snacks when he asked. I started returning the touching. I began touching him on his stomach, chest, the back of his arm while we passed or was just talking. Finally I would rest my hands on the back of his head and neck and he didn't mind. When we landed in the States and departed to our homes for what was supposed to be the last time together he placed his hand on my chest and moved it towards my ribs. Even through our deployment ended last year and we live far away we still message each other. I messaged him on face book telling him I loved him and missed him. I even sent him a present on his birthday. I also came to visit him unexpectedly which surprised him. When I tried to leave he wanted me to come hang with him but I was unable. However, He says he love women and he does show attraction to women. Both of us are masculine and from the inner city. We are tough men. Is his actions normal straight behavior? Does he just like the attention? What is your experience? Is he gay or bi?
  • Tooji

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    Apr 07, 2015 12:38 AM GMT
    This whole situation is very confusing, but in the millitary there is always too much "Bromance"...
    Did you talk to him about that subject exactly? Since there is never a way to know...
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    Apr 07, 2015 4:08 PM GMT
    even tho it took you your whole life to be the person you are, every one is different. If he is just not there respect that and move on.
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    Apr 07, 2015 4:21 PM GMT


    Hmmm..Jason, I take it you did not like my reply yesterday, so you cancelled the topic and started it again?
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 07, 2015 11:54 PM GMT
    JuanPablomv89 said
    meninlove said

    Hmmm..Jason, I take it you did not like my reply yesterday, so you cancelled the topic and started it again?


    Hmmmm. So you think you are right in everything smart ass?


    Juan, you are vile.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 07, 2015 11:55 PM GMT
    OP, you're being USED and you like it. You're either a damn fool or a sadist.

    This isn't love. And the type of puppy love this might theoretically describe would have ended around your 15th birthday. Get real.
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    Apr 08, 2015 3:11 PM GMT
    Svnw688 said
    JuanPablomv89 said
    meninlove said

    Hmmm..Jason, I take it you did not like my reply yesterday, so you cancelled the topic and started it again?


    Hmmmm. So you think you are right in everything smart ass?


    Juan, you are vile.


    lol, business as usual with JuanPablo. icon_lol.gif

    Has no idea what my original post said, but decided to slag it anyway.