Apr 06, 2015 9:47 PM GMT
I’m a soldier in love with another soldier and I need advice. I met this soldier two years ago at a meeting. We deployed that year to Afghanistan in 2013-2014. We started looking at each other while deployed. Then throughout the deployment he started feeling on my back, my arm, my side and stomach. Holding my hand or wrist when we shake hands. I always resisted my urges, but all of a sudden I fell hard for him. I started bringing him gifts worth hundreds of dollars on multiple occasions; I bought food to his bed and other snacks when he asked. I started returning the touching. I began touching him on his stomach, chest, the back of his arm while we passed or was just talking. Finally I would rest my hands on the back of his head and neck and he didn't mind. When we landed in the States and departed to our homes for what was supposed to be the last time together he placed his hand on my chest and moved it towards my ribs. Even through our deployment ended last year and we live far away we still message each other. I messaged him on face book telling him I loved him and missed him. I even sent him a present on his birthday. I also came to visit him unexpectedly which surprised him. When I tried to leave he wanted me to come hang with him but I was unable. However, He says he love women and he does show attraction to women. Both of us are masculine and from the inner city. We are tough men. Is his actions normal straight behavior? Does he just like the attention? What is your experience? Is he gay or bi?