Finding a guy....

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    Apr 08, 2015 7:00 PM GMT
    Well, i admit i was wrong.... It's possible to find a few on here... but am i fucking up somewhere if another guy thinks i'm the "one" for him?
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 08, 2015 7:11 PM GMT
    Maybe it's not you. Maybe it's Fort Dodge, Iowa.
  • wesv

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    Apr 08, 2015 7:25 PM GMT
    The gay dating pool is the most competitive. That explains why most gay men are just single. Other factors can play a role in your situation. Iowa is generally a rural state. It's harder to find other [out] gays in that type of area.
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    Apr 08, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    SamuelL3viPi3rc3 saidWhat the hell is wrong with me? Why can't i seem to find the "ONE" guy for me? Am i fuckin up somwhere or what? icon_cry.gif


    I ask myself the same question !? icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 08, 2015 7:59 PM GMT
    Location, location, location. ...

    And I know because I live in a crappy location for meeting quality, single gay men. (I love the place otherwise. How pathetic is that?)
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 08, 2015 8:26 PM GMT
    duluthrunner saidLocation, location, location. ...

    And I know because I live in a crappy location for meeting quality, single gay men. (I love the place otherwise. How pathetic is that?)

    No, I don't see that as pathetic at all. Different guys put different values on their sense of place. I've lived in some cities with bigger gay populations and better restaurants and more nightlife. But I prefer the beach, water, gulls. I like that everything I need is within 15 minutes. I think we all become hardwired to certain visuals as a baby and child and it takes some of the same stuff to make you feel at home, even if it isn't actually the same place. And though we may experiment, we're always drawn back to those early images to truly feel at peace. The trick is finding someone to enjoy it with you. But from what I've read here, big cities don't really help much in finding a partner.
  • Suetonius

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    Apr 08, 2015 8:39 PM GMT
    OP - Nothing is "wrong" with you. You are 21. It is very rare for guys your age to find "the one" - at least a "one" that lasts very long. Youth doesn't last forever - enjoy it while you have it. (Most gay guys don't fall into lasting relationships until 30ish, although they may have briefer ones in the meantime.