Can't cum from fucking alone

  • TheRealDeal99

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    Apr 10, 2015 10:10 PM GMT
    hey guys. i'm new to gay sex and ive been seeing a guy for awhile now and im finding it difficult to reach an orgasm through fucking alone. i usually have to pull out and finish with my hand and it's just not as sexy or fun as cumming from fucking him.

    does anyone else have this problem?
    can anyone give me some advice on how to get better at cumming from fucking alone?

    thanks
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    Apr 11, 2015 5:08 AM GMT
    I had this problem for a long time man and I found it would get to a point where it's been 45 minutes of me fucking and I'm so tired I can't even keep hard anymore. I found that if I take red ill or something that gives me a lot of energy before and get the guy in the right position I can get there but I still feel completely dead after haha
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    Apr 11, 2015 5:08 AM GMT
    Redbull**
  • Buddha

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    Apr 11, 2015 7:01 AM GMT
    Can't you cum in the condom?
  • djacobs

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    Apr 11, 2015 7:57 AM GMT
    The problem is very common among men.
    It is usually divided into two:
    1. physical problem, men who are used to masturbate a lot, force of habit.
    2. a psychological problem, men who are ashamed to cum near other people (perhaps sexuality shame).

    stop masturbat so that the body will get used to cum during penetration and not by the touch of your hand or start to accept who you are. icon_biggrin.gif
  • TheRealDeal99

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    Apr 11, 2015 10:54 PM GMT
    djacobs saidThe problem is very common among men.
    It is usually divided into two:
    1. physical problem, men who are used to masturbate a lot, force of habit.
    2. a psychological problem, men who are ashamed to cum near other people (perhaps sexuality shame).

    stop masturbat so that the body will get used to cum during penetration and not by the touch of your hand or start to accept who you are. icon_biggrin.gif



    stop masturbating? icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
    easier said than done my friend..

    if anyone else has had this problem and found a solution to it, i'm all ears!
  • Shaq01

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    Apr 12, 2015 12:22 AM GMT
    TheRealDeal99 said
    djacobs saidThe problem is very common among men.
    It is usually divided into two:
    1. physical problem, men who are used to masturbate a lot, force of habit.
    2. a psychological problem, men who are ashamed to cum near other people (perhaps sexuality shame).

    stop masturbat so that the body will get used to cum during penetration and not by the touch of your hand or start to accept who you are. icon_biggrin.gif



    stop masturbating? icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
    easier said than done my friend..

    if anyone else has had this problem and found a solution to it, i'm all ears!


    Djacob may be right on the spot with this one to be honest. Easier said than done but wouldnt hurt to try.
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    Apr 12, 2015 1:29 AM GMT
    TheRealDeal99 said
    hey guys. i'm new to gay sex and ive been seeing a guy for awhile now and im finding it difficult to reach an orgasm through fucking alone. i usually have to pull out and finish with my hand and it's just not as sexy or fun as cumming from fucking him.

    does anyone else have this problem?
    can anyone give me some advice on how to get better at cumming from fucking alone?

    thanks

    I have, but learned how to solve it. But first I gotta ask, do you stay hard inside the guy? That's kinda a key to a good orgasm. If you don't, you might consider Viagra or Cialis.

    The specific thing that helped me was using the best position as a top. And that sometimes varied by the bottom. Some bottoms are tighter than others, and more tight in certain positions than others.

    So try doggie, and missionary, see what feels best to you, and of course that he also likes. Oddly, a position that works really well for me is spooning from the rear, on our sides. Seems to make some bottoms snugger. And I can still reach around and play with his stuff, a real turn-on for me.

    Of course be sure to use a good amount of lube, for his sake and yours. And "big boys" can be stifled by a regular size condom. If you're a little large try an "XL" size, like a Trojan Magnum.

    Or the newer flared designs, that only grip the lower shaft - the rest of the condom is loose, and you slide around inside it, feels very much like barebacking. Make sure to add a couple drops of latex-safe lube inside before you put it on.

    And finally, be aware that lots of tops have this same issue. It's not you alone. But first try these different approaches, and if you still have to use your own hand to finish, it's not the end of the world. Focus on giving your guy a great fuck, and be content with that. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 12, 2015 3:23 AM GMT
    I found that I had a difficult time staying hard with a condom on before I realized it was too tight and it was putting too much pressure on my dick. See if a larger condom helps.
  • djacobs

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    Apr 12, 2015 3:39 AM GMT
    TheRealDeal99 said
    djacobs saidThe problem is very common among men.
    It is usually divided into two:
    1. physical problem, men who are used to masturbate a lot, force of habit.
    2. a psychological problem, men who are ashamed to cum near other people (perhaps sexuality shame).

    stop masturbat so that the body will get used to cum during penetration and not by the touch of your hand or start to accept who you are. icon_biggrin.gif



    stop masturbating? icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
    easier said than done my friend..

    if anyone else has had this problem and found a solution to it, i'm all ears!


    Each of us masturbates a little bit different. What if someone will say to you to change the way you masturbate ( your hand moves)? probably you won't be able to cum. basically that's what happen to many men during sex.
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    Apr 13, 2015 4:55 PM GMT
    Your penis is now conditioned to your masturbatory style, and you may engage in stimulation cues you're not even aware of. Take note of your style -- for instance, if you have a GI Joe kung-fu grip on your penis and/or you're aggressive in your technique, then you're likely to be disappointed with a mouth or an anus.

    Take note of your style and try changing it up. You should also think about buying a masturbatory sleeve like a Fleshjack https://www.fleshjack.com/ -- that way you get used to something other than your own hand stimulating you.

  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 13, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
    I knew a guy with the exact same issue. He really had just never had much sex other than with his hand. And he'd conditioned his body and brain to want just exactly what his hand provided. Even applied to hand jobs and blow jobs. I understand the frustration and yes, it is great to come while fucking but don't worry too much about it. A good partner will find plenty along the way to stay entertained.