hey guys. i'm new to gay sex and ive been seeing a guy for awhile now and im finding it difficult to reach an orgasm through fucking alone. i usually have to pull out and finish with my hand and it's just not as sexy or fun as cumming from fucking him.
does anyone else have this problem?
can anyone give me some advice on how to get better at cumming from fucking alone?
I have, but learned how to solve it. But first I gotta ask, do you stay hard inside the guy? That's kinda a key to a good orgasm. If you don't, you might consider Viagra or Cialis.
The specific thing that helped me was using the best position as a top. And that sometimes varied by the bottom. Some bottoms are tighter than others, and more tight in certain positions than others.
So try doggie, and missionary, see what feels best to you, and of course that he also likes. Oddly, a position that works really well for me is spooning from the rear, on our sides. Seems to make some bottoms snugger. And I can still reach around and play with his stuff, a real turn-on for me.
Of course be sure to use a good amount of lube, for his sake and yours. And "big boys" can be stifled by a regular size condom. If you're a little large try an "XL" size, like a Trojan Magnum.
Or the newer flared designs, that only grip the lower shaft - the rest of the condom is loose, and you slide around inside it, feels very much like barebacking. Make sure to add a couple drops of latex-safe lube inside before you put it on.
And finally, be aware that lots of tops have this same issue. It's not you alone. But first try these different approaches, and if you still have to use your own hand to finish, it's not the end of the world. Focus on giving your guy a great fuck, and be content with that.