Mulignan saidI'm going to sound like a total dick, but I'm going to ask anyway.
You are in or near DC, possibly the biggest black gay mecca in the country, and yet you are dating a white guy who is not even half as attractive as you are. So my question is, have you tried dating black men in DC? If so, what was it like, and if not, why?
EDIT: Also, what is it like dating a white guy? I'm just curious.
Well I disagree with you. I found him very attractive with a contagiously positive personality. He is many of the things I looked for in a mate. I'm attracted to tall, masculine, and stable men. He is all three plus much more. With that being said he is not the only boyfriend I've had. The other two serious relationships I was in before him were with black guys. My other relationships ended because both of them were in the closet and I knew eventually I wanted to get married, have kids, the whole nine. My first BF told me straight up he is never planning on coming out. The second told me he would when the time was right. I started getting the feeling he never would and he never did. When we broke up, he started telling me if I got back with him he would but I was tired of the back and fourth. Obviously there was other issues with my past relationships but openness was the main deal breakers for me in both cases.
Dating a white guy is the same as dating any other guy. I've been on plenty of dates with white and black guys and as far as I'm convened a guy is a guy. If I'm attracted to him then I give him a shot. I would say the only real difference is the reactions from people outside of the relationship. Most people are pleasant but there are some that hit on me aggressively and try to get me to hook up with them, using race as a motive. The same happens to him. Sure it happens to other couples the go out together as well.