Do you ever get attached to guys you hookup with?

  • dextersima

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    Apr 14, 2015 2:45 AM GMT
    Sometimes I feel like I'm being a girl about it. Especially if the sex is really good. Can sex just be sex?
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    Apr 14, 2015 3:07 AM GMT
    Yes. It happens to me from time to time. I eventually get over it though...icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 14, 2015 3:10 AM GMT
    I dated a hookup for a year and a half. Thought he was the one for the first year and a bit. Was to stubborn to call it quits for the last 4 or 5 months but it was over.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 14, 2015 3:19 AM GMT
    I never hooked up ... unfortunately some of the guys I went out with were hooking up, they just forgot to let me know icon_cool.gif
  • Webster666

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    Apr 14, 2015 3:21 AM GMT
    I tend to fall WAY too quickly.
  • rnch

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    Apr 14, 2015 3:26 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidI tend to fall WAY too quickly.



    Yup! One turned into a seven year friendship.
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    Apr 14, 2015 5:53 AM GMT
    There have been a few overly clingy ones. I try not to let myself be that.
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    Apr 14, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
    Never did hook-up but I imagine I would be attached if I did. I'm easily attached to someone. icon_redface.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 14, 2015 6:33 AM GMT
    I don't hookup much but with the few I have, I got attached to one but we were seeing each other for quite some time. Unfortunately, things didn't workout but yeah it has happened.
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    Apr 14, 2015 7:42 AM GMT
    for sure it happens… lower your standards for hookups, then you have less of a chance to fall for them… lol…
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    Apr 14, 2015 12:22 PM GMT
    That's one of the reasons I stopped doing one-night-stands, in the pre-hook-up days. By the time I was in bed with someone, after having met in a bar and talked/flirted for hours, I was well on my way to fall for him.
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    Apr 14, 2015 4:06 PM GMT
    first comes SEX then comes Marriage...

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  • HottJoe

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    Apr 14, 2015 4:15 PM GMT
    I guess if you ever want to get married you'll have to be a big girl about it...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 14, 2015 4:31 PM GMT
    Do you ever get attached to guys you hookup with?

    No, never, I don't even know what you are talking about
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    Only once that I recall, well, outside of my late teens--young dumb and full of cum--when I "fell in love" with everyone, before I recognized that my bod is not my mind, that I might love dick but that doesn't mean dick is love. I had that mostly sorted out by 19 or 20.

    The guy was obviously just a trick to me and I was just a trick to him but I thought something clicked. We both seemed to think the sex was really good as we went at it for a long time. Talking a break and talking in between and going back to town at each other. Hanging by the pool, then more sex, lather rinse repeat. I thought we had a real connection there. We exchanged numbers before parting after probably about 1/2 a day with each other, but he never returned my call.

    I did later see a mutual acquaintance, well, an acquaintance of mine but I think a friend of his though I don't know how close (they could have been lovers screwing with me for all I knew), I inquired about him and I don't recall just what was said but I remember thinking it bullshit. So, whatever. It was a fun night well into the morning and then a week or two of unfulfilled expectation. And that was the only time as a maturing (though then still young) man that I recall that being an issue.

    I've not made that mistake again. I learned that sex can express love but so can breakfast. Sex is not love. A good cup of coffee is.
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    Apr 14, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    No. Only humans experience that kind of thing.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 14, 2015 5:58 PM GMT
    Sure sex can be just sex. But it can also be an introduction to a really nice guy. I presume you think of yourself as a nice guy deserving of love, don't you? And you're hooking up. Why would you think everyone on the other end of the "date" isn't possibly someone you could really like? Sex can certainly be just sex and you laugh and enjoy it and go on about your way. I have good friends of 10 years or longer that I met for just sex and while not a partnership match, we liked each other and remained friends sometimes long after they settled down into monogamous relationships. And my parter and I met for sex and immediately went monogamous and knew we'd found our match. I've also had one-offs just for sex that I remember with great pleasure though I can't even remember his name.

    Don't think that you have any reason to put yourself in some box. Just be natural and loving and laughing. That will make for a happy life. It sounds to me like you take the time to get to know a guy a bit even if it's just casual. That's a good thing! And the sex will amplify your feelings of happiness and well-being. Naturally!
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    Apr 14, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    This is an oldie already...

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  • Antarktis

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    Apr 14, 2015 9:01 PM GMT
    my dog has to O.K. them first.
  • Android17

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    Apr 14, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    I like turtles
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    Apr 14, 2015 10:52 PM GMT
    That has happened to me. The guy even told me "I love you" when we were together once, but I read nothing into it and shrugged it off. I did start to feel for him, though and felt good being around him. Eventually, he stopped returning my texts and didn't text me to come over to see him. I saw him in person when I was out and about, and I waved at him, and he looked at me sort of with a sad face. He texted me later on that he had started seeing someone and I was pretty hurt by it, but I wished him the best.
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    Apr 14, 2015 11:02 PM GMT
    I like to attach myself prior to sex . When I hooked up with some1 i felt dirty . When he text me wanting to tap it again it really bothered me
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    Apr 15, 2015 12:10 AM GMT
    A. I don't hook up.

    B. Getting attached to hookup sounds like something chicks do after getting dickmatized.

    C. Getting attached to a hookup is some Stage 5 clinger nonsense.
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    Apr 15, 2015 5:03 AM GMT
    ^ If you don't hook up, how could you possibly know?
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    Apr 15, 2015 8:08 AM GMT
    I had a totally inappropriate workplace hookup once. We let it happen, and it was good, and we swore it wouldn't happen again...

    A few months later, it happened again, and it was even better then the last time. This went on and we became pretty regular fuck-buddies while we were both still in the closet at work, and he was still closeted at with his family...

    Today, we're both out 100%, different jobs so there's no more 'inappropriateness', and living together.

    So, getting "attached" to a hookup is a bit of an understatement for us... ;-)
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    Apr 15, 2015 9:51 AM GMT
    Yes, happened to me a couple time when I was younger. I realized that maybe really deep down, I'm not the hook up type and do have feelings for guys I like. I don't know, there's always that possibility of something might work out. I don't do HU anymore. But yeah, I don't keep in touch with most of them, only in touch with some friends and exes.