Mulignan saidMaybe the way gay males think overall has changed? I thought gay marriage would make us more conservative (thankfully it hasn't), but it has only been a decade. It seems like open relationships are common these days in gay men. But maybe they have always been common, I wouldn't know.
So is it unrealistic to expect to be with one man and one man only in a long term relationship? Of course, there are exceptions, but are we expected to be more "evolved" and open to sexual and/or emotional relationships outside of the "couple" dynamic?
Yes, open relationships have always been rather common. At least since I came out in 1975. Not for me thanks. Nor Bill.
NO, it is not unrealistic at all to expect you'll be in a monogamous relationship one day.
Open relationships are not a more evolved kind of relationship, lol. They are merely an alternative kind of relationship.
Good take on it. You will hear a lot of homos mock heteros for their antiquated and normative views on sex/relationships though. Some homos do think we are more "evolved" than those "breeders", lol
Oh aye, I've heard that talk. lol, we were in a bar having a drink for our 7th year anniv, long ago, and were invited by a group of 5 guys to an after hours party. We were promised lots of random sex. Bill explained we're monogamous and someone in the group, very concerned, said, " Oh no, what's wrong?"
I belly laughed until they all got mad and huffed off.
BTW, the gay people saying that straights don't swing
don't know much about straights - that's a dead giveaway. Heck my parents (also monogamous) were invited to swingers parties back in the early 60s in Winnipeg of all places, lol. The men all; put their housekeys in a bowl and after lots of drinking, the wives each selected a set of keys at random and the man owning them went home with the woman that picked his keys. Then you'd see them all at church on Sunday, lol.