Dealing with rejection-everyone should learn

  • Goodluckyman

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    Apr 14, 2015 9:49 PM GMT
    As long as you are not capable of inventing 10000 versions of yourself, you will have to deal with rejection of some kind. It is part of life skills to be able to handle rejection effectively.

    It is naive to want to be loved and approved of by It's unfair to want someone who doesn't like you to stick around you.
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    Apr 15, 2015 12:17 AM GMT
    If it weren't for rejection, acceptance would be unappreciated.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 15, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    Nope, only if u're rejected. If not u don't
  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 15, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidNope, only if u're rejected. If not u don't

    Right, because that never happens to you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    The arrogance.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 15, 2015 3:06 AM GMT
    Sometimes rejection is just a way of dodging a bullet ... don't dwell on something that wasn't meant to be ... there is an opportunity around every corner
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    Apr 15, 2015 5:30 AM GMT
    Rejection hurts. I couldn't deal with it for most of my life. icon_cry.gif

    Growing a bit older, and it's become a bit more manageable. icon_neutral.gif But I'm not there yet.
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    Apr 15, 2015 5:56 AM GMT
    pazzy saidsometimes, you just gotta ignore everybody and do what feels good to you. i actually prefer to be alone instead of being around people constantly. nowadays, folks don't believe in personal space or boundaries. they want to invade that shit. you can't even be anonymous on the internet anymore because you have people that want to invade your space. they want to invade your thoughts.

    as far as i know, rejection has always been a common theme in regards to dealing with people. never really fitted in with people whether it was the classroom or the club or any social settings dealing with people. always have felt like the oddball or like i never belonged. it's been like that from the moment i was a toddler. it used to bother me as a kid because that would come along with bullying and teasing from other people. it ultimately damaged my self esteem and self confidence where i really looked and still look at myself in a negative way. nowadays, i'm cool with it because i actually value my alone time away from people. feel like i can be myself without worrying about other people judging me. it's a whole lot better than to have someone all up in my space, wondering what i'm doing, ready to criticize me or point out my flaws and whatever else. i'm good. i feel that most of the time when i do extend my hand to reach out to people to be social, they burn me or play me out. unfortunately, i'm the hypersensitive type. i try to control the hypersensitive side by being insensitive and cold blooded. that's the story of my life so in order to protect myself from being disappointed or getting really angry where i want to hurt or kill whoever, i just fall back and simply don't bother. i don't expect much good from people. hate to say that but that's just how i feel.

    i've been told how i should change the way i think and etc by others. they're right. however, i'll be honest by saying that all the past has affected me to the point where i don't even want to try or am scared to do so because the damage is burnt into my head. like honestly, i afraid that if someone really plays me out again, i might have to do something to them that i don't want to do or might act out on my anger so to avoid such, i think it's best to change at a later date.

    Can't you find some other web forum to throw your pity party at? You are a played out record. Please take your anger out on a job application or something. N1curr!!!!
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    Apr 15, 2015 6:43 AM GMT
    pazzy saidthey want to invade your thoughts.

    That's why the tin foil hat was invented. An aluminum foil hat won't work; it must be made of tin foil.
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    Apr 15, 2015 8:17 AM GMT
    I am way past the getting hurt part of rejection.
    It can be developed if you feel good about yourself. If you're going to use the rejection as a parameter for your self-worth, it can really bring you down.
  • Goodluckyman

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    Apr 15, 2015 5:01 PM GMT
    Yes, as we grow older we get better at responding to rejection. I feel it may not be rejection as such, its just somebody saying they like something else more...and that us true everyone has preferences.
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    Apr 15, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    I am such an expert on this subject....
  • Zigs_01

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    Apr 15, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    So what happened exactly?
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    Apr 17, 2015 12:31 AM GMT
    Been there, not fun. It can be a downer at first, all you can do is move on and keep trying.
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    Apr 17, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    It seems to increase with age. It comes as quite a shock if you're used to getting with pretty much every guy you ever wanted. I don't know which might be worse, having lived most of life not getting rejected and then having to deal with it, or having always been rejected and building up an immunity to it.

    I rarely if ever got rejected when I was younger, well, at least not sexually, you know, that part that counts. Seriously very few times and I watched those that did: each time the guy went home to bump fugly. No offense. I figured some sort of fetish or he just wanted to be the pretty one. That happened a few times.

    Other than that I didn't really know rejection until I was into my mid and now late 50s. Even early 50s wasn't a problem but by then I was dealing with so much death that maybe I just didn't notice if someone had rejected me. It seemed my life was rejecting me.


    I'm starting to get used to it but I don't like it one bit. And I think I'm in a bit of denial about it because if someone doesn't want to have sex with me, I don't take it as rejection; I just think they're being rude.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Apr 17, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    Feeling of rejection is similar to that of regret or of breaking your favorite glasses, it can be unpleasant depending on the value you put on the next person as well as how you value yourself.It is temporary after all. I never feel badly rejected because I am happy of being the person that I am. And people will not always click or like each other, all you have to do is to be comfortable in your own skin and forget psychology or the social norms. People admire people who are true to themselves. Just take care of yourself and work on being your better self, you don't have control on how people react to you but at least you can minimize the sting of rejection if you value yourself enough.