Is it practical to insist on testing for every hookup?

  • Goodluckyman

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    Apr 16, 2015 9:57 PM GMT
    Is this practical or over exaggerating safety....approaching sex like a war with great measure (protective) and not love affair.
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    Apr 16, 2015 10:07 PM GMT
    No
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    Apr 16, 2015 10:37 PM GMT
    Overkill.

    STDs are a lot less common than Abstinence education makes you believe. And most are curable, which I think they fail to mention.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Apr 16, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    it is for those who are just starting out and it can be a turnoff.If you cant deep kiss and swallow the guy's saliva then don't hookup. Asking someone you just met to test is rude. That's what I did on my first ever hookup,I am still laughing about it even today, the guy was kinda spooked. And guess what, we just kissed and wanked. If he looks clean and you like him, protection protection.
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    Apr 16, 2015 11:25 PM GMT
    No
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    Apr 16, 2015 11:28 PM GMT
    Of course not. But if you cruise and meet a guy at the VD clinic, it's a subject worth discussing.
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    Apr 18, 2015 5:16 AM GMT
    Every human activity carries some risk. Driving a car is inherently dangerous. Yet you probably get in and out of a car daily. Using condoms greatly reduces the risk of transition of many but not all sexually transmitted diseases. One can make sex safer just as one can make riding a car safer. One cannot eliminate all risks.
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    Apr 18, 2015 8:10 AM GMT
    Well is it practical to drive with a seat belt every time you get in the car?
    Right now there are some who always do that might never get into an accident. You can speed when driving everyday and on most days you get home fine. There will be times where some just get a fine, and there will be times where some actually die from a crash, but all it takes is that one time.
    The point is there is NOTHING WRONG or obsessive with being safe and safety is NEVER ever a bad thing in any perspective.

    When your life or someone else's is at risk in any way, is being safe really that much of a hassle?

    I mean yes there are some STD's that can be cured but there are also a good number that can't.
    Is that a gamble you want to take?

    Trust me I've worked as a phlebotomist and the AMOUNT of people whose stories were how they were MOSTLY safe until that one time...
    It's like buying a car that you just saw with no information and given no warranty. Just not worth it in my opinion.
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    Apr 18, 2015 9:07 AM GMT
    It's not practical at all to insist on testing for every hook up. You should protect yourself, always use a condom and go easy, don't break the condom I guess. Lol, There was this one instance when this guy wanted to do bareback with me, I told him no, it was like 4 am in the morning, I fell asleep at his hotel. He went out and got condom, lol, we sorta cuddled the next morning and got down to business safely! It was sorta normal vanilla stuff, nothing kinky! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2015 1:03 PM GMT
    Testing for a hookup takes the spontaneity out of hooking up... that said, you still need to play safe.

    Unless the terminology has changed, I thought "hooking up" would mean meeting, maybe some kissing, and if you're really lucky a nice handjob. The thing is to limit your bodily fluid exchange...

    If you're going to progress into BJs and banging, testing should be discussed.

    STD Free since forever here... So I've got some empirical and anecdotal evidence that my plan works. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 18, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    No, that's ridiculous. Sounds like you've developed a phobia.

    Even if you followed the guy to the clinic and saw he tested negative for everything, he could still be harboring HIV because there's a dormancy period. Just be safe and you're good. HIV is not easy to catch and all the rest are very curable or treatable. Sex is one of the great pleasures of life so stop obsessing over this.
  • Goodluckyman

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    Apr 18, 2015 8:54 PM GMT
    You could be right. Must be a phobia. It has kept me quiet....like seriously. I trust condoms Bt still feel testing should happen even if you are going to use them. Simply stupid phobia.
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    Apr 18, 2015 9:23 PM GMT
    Goodluckyman saidYou could be right. Must be a phobia. It has kept me quiet....like seriously. I trust condoms Bt still feel testing should happen even if you are going to use them. Simply stupid phobia.


    Phobias can be easily treated through exposure therapy and immersing yourself with facts. In your case, I would suggest using Google Scholar and reading about how STI's are transmitted and how to safely engage in sex. It might also be helpful to address your fear of death because I get the feeling you might be terrified of it which is leading to this phobia.
  • ai82

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    Apr 19, 2015 4:26 AM GMT
    Is it practical...no....is it worthy...yes. If you're meeting a new guy every night, it's impossible logistically. If you're meeting guys and getting to know them over a longer time before moving forward, it's worth it. The thing about STD's is that more and more are becoming resistant to medications, and some are lifelong. What's the risk, what's the benefit.
  • david_lane

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    Apr 27, 2015 10:57 PM GMT
    Radd saidNo, that's ridiculous. Sounds like you've developed a phobia.

    Even if you followed the guy to the clinic and saw he tested negative for everything, he could still be harboring HIV because there's a dormancy period. Just be safe and you're good. HIV is not easy to catch and all the rest are very curable or treatable. Sex is one of the great pleasures of life so stop obsessing over this.


    I would let you nail my ass any day of the week. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 28, 2015 10:59 PM GMT
    Only if you're sexually indiscriminate and/or you're hooking up with guys who're sexually indiscriminate (i.e., "hos").