Hmmmm...I have mixed feelings about this video. While I totally support this guy's journey, and I can't even imagine the difficulties associated with being transgender, him saying he doesn't have a vagina doesn't make it true. It's really nothing more than a video of his own denial. He admitted to having a vagina, but doesn't want to call it that. He wants us to call it a "penis". Well, that's all fine and good, but the bottomline is IT'S NOT A PENIS. It's like a big elephant in the room that no one wants to admit is really a vagina.
I watched just a few moments of that and would watch more but a neighbor just came by asking me to lunch which I'm now looking forward to, so the last thing I want to think about is vagina.
But I agree mostly with your metaphorical penis though I'm not sure by what little I watched that it was a case of denial or more accurately a matter of surviving something as best you can, given what you've got.
An amputee wearing a prosthetic is not in denial. So while on the surface, as presented, the guy's words certainly do deny, somehow it seems different to me than, say, a homophobic parent denying their child's sexuality. This person does not seem in that type of denial. And not that I mean this is any less bullshit but maybe less damaging because it's really not a denial of reality as surely the guy knows there's no cock there (whereas a homophobe's denial might include that the reality actually doesn't exist). So to me, this is less of a denial of dick than it is a reinforcing of the rest of him.
I actually did get into a situation one drunken evening of some public heaving petting with a very hot trans guy but when reaching down and finding what was missing, my interest immediately went missing too. I regret that was probably hurtful to the guy but I really didn't know what I was getting into until I got there. There's a mistake I'll try not to make again. Though my eye might still be drawn to some trans guys by the rest of them. They can be quite hot.