Are you in love?

  • ZakSayWhat

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    Apr 20, 2015 8:00 PM GMT
    How does it make you feel? What does it feel like?

    I just wanna know lol
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 20, 2015 9:01 PM GMT
    Madly! It makes you feel great, but a little bit crazy. icon_wink.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 20, 2015 9:16 PM GMT
    I assume you mean romantic, since everyone loves family members and/or best/close friends.

    Yes. My second time being in love. This time is just over 2 years.

    Generally it feels very calming and peaceful, as if anything could happen and you'd still be calm. When I'm single I feel wound-up and like I'm on a short fuse.

    When disagreements happen, which they inevitably do in any meaningful relationship, it hurts a lot. But since you know the person loves you back, it makes it bearable. And within 5 minutes usually, or an hour at most, you're back to mending things and apologizing. And disagreements, for me at least, only happen about once a week or so. And most are minor issues (around what we're going to do on the weekend, or someone failing to tell the other they're out of town the next week, etc.).

    It's also really fun to take care of your guy (physically, sexually, emotionally, etc.). First you do what you know he likes (make his favorite dinner, buy tickets to his favorite genre movie, do his favorite sex position), then it's fun to try to surprise him every now and then with something you think he'll like.

    Me and my b/f "talk shit" about each other and zing each other all the time. Not in a mean way, but we're pretty no holds barred. We have several "repeating" jokes and it's fun to make those.

    I can't describe it, you just have to feel and experience it. It's worth all the trouble in finding a mate. And anyone who says they're just as happy single is, in my opinion, lying or lying to themselves. I love being single, I'm happy and balanced when I'm single, but I'm so much MORE happy when I'm pair bonded.

    Never trust a person who says being single is better than a good relationship, or a person who says they prefer cats to dogs. Both are suspect.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 20, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    That's sweet SVNW^^^. And I totally agree with your points. First and foremost the thing about cats and dogs. Cats suck. Dogs rock. My partner and I had dinner with a friend of mine recently that had just partnered up with a really good guy and we were really happy for them both. Good match. But I was somewhat surprised that there was no back and forth needling between them. My guy and I are always pushing each other a bit just for fun. We'd certainly never go to one of the dark places that everyone has and only your partner knows, not even in a serious fight. So there's also that aspect of being in love-- accepting and giving total trust to the other. That isn't always fairy tale goopy love. It carries responsibility. But the longer you're together, the more history you have, the more you treasure this guy for carrying your flag, so-to-speak. And the happier you are to carry his.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 20, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    ^^@DestinHarbor Agreed. Whenever I see new or old couples that don't needle each other a bit, it always raises my suspicions a bit. The bottom line to me is that (1) nobody is perfect and (2) therefore no relationship is perfect. So when it's all smiles, all good times, perfect this, perfect that, alarm bells go off in my head.

    If they're close enough to me, I level and say "so what's the most annoying thing XYZ does?" Of course if I don't know them that well, or if it's a larger setting, I bite my tongue. icon_cool.gif
  • jeep334

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    Apr 20, 2015 10:39 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidWe'd certainly never go to one of the dark places that everyone has and only your partner knows, not even in a serious fight. So there's also that aspect of being in love-- accepting and giving total trust to the other.


    Well said. With true love, there is the reality that there is nothing -- nothing -- that will ever make you feel as complete. As it is written in song: 'You will walk both sides of every street through all kinds of windy weather. That will not be your defeat becuase you will walk together.' It lasted for us for almost 39 years until death took us apart, yet we're really not alone. If you can even imagine the term 'soul-mate' and what it truly means, then you will be able to understand that that experience, with another human being, is love.

    Dogs are wonderful and as a child I grew up with one that even saved my life once while swimming. But my love loved cats more, so there was simply no decision to make when finding a companion to bring into our home. Cats rule in this house. icon_cool.gif

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  • Svnw688

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    Apr 20, 2015 10:47 PM GMT
    To be fair, Dave Franco is a cat lover and Dave seems fairly emotionally well-balanced, but I still maintain that people who prefer cats are suspect icon_cool.gif

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  • jeep334

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    Apr 20, 2015 11:52 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidTo be fair, Dave Franco is a cat lover and Dave seems fairly emotionally well-balanced, but I still maintain that people who prefer cats are suspect icon_cool.gif

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    Suspect of brilliance! Dave has a tortiseshell girl just like me. icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 21, 2015 12:54 AM GMT
    Nope. Wish I were...
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    Apr 21, 2015 1:10 AM GMT
    I was madly in love with my late partner, my first. Every time I came home from the university I would call out "Hello, my love!" as I opened the front door. I had never done anything like that before in my life. It just popped out of me, I was so in love with him.

    I rarely get to do that today with my second partner, we almost always go out together, and return together. We go everywhere together. It's rare I go out by myself.

    But I love him no less. I never knew what love was until I came out, and had a gay guy of my own. All my life is focused on him. And every night we fall asleep holding hands. Whether that's love or not you can debate, but he's my whole life. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    Yes, I'm in love and it makes me feel like I can burst. Everything is new and wonderful. Life seems full of possibilities. In an effort to release what I feel inside I want to sing, I want to dance, I want to write poetry. Unfortunately I don't do those things well at all. Lol

    We are getting married soon!
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 21, 2015 4:22 PM GMT
    ^^Congratulations!
  • Olympus1991

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    Apr 21, 2015 4:28 PM GMT
    Yes,

    He's about 13 hours flying away. That bothers the hell out of me. Im gonna visit him in september though. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2015 5:18 PM GMT
    I am.
    I had pretty much given up on fairytale happily ever after goosebumps love. I thought being with a man was going to be some kind of permanent friends with benefits kind of thing. That's what I had with my ex and I thought it was all there was.
    But then I met him...
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    Apr 21, 2015 5:22 PM GMT
    I don't know what that feel like. Hope it would happen someday.. I mean a person can dream right? icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 22, 2015 12:36 AM GMT
    Svnw688 said^^Congratulations!


    Thanks man. It's been hard. His family is in Mexico. My mom seems embarrassed. I can't tell many friends because of issues with my ex. We have to fly to Washington because it's not legal in Louisiana so no family and friends will be with us to celebrate. But in spite of all that we are flying high on cloud nine!
  • collegedude12

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    Apr 22, 2015 1:16 AM GMT
    We've only been dating for about a month but it feels like love. I've known him since middle school and we would always joke about hot girls we'd see and all that shit and it's funny now cos we're both gay lol. But idk how to really explain the feeling. I don't think I've ever been happier with my life than I am right now. I still live with my mom and he lives with his parents so when I know i'm gonna see him soon my heart kinda flutters a little and I just start smiling lmao its weird but its a good weird. My mom says she knows when I'm texting him and not someone else cos I have this blissful look on my face lol it's embarrassing. But there have been days where I just wanna lay in my bed with him and not even have sex but just like hold each other and shit lol. I wasn't really the mushy type and neither was he but i guess when youre with someone you really like, it just feels like everything is perfect and you never want it to end
  • Tig3r

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    Apr 22, 2015 3:38 AM GMT
    I am currently in love with someone I cannot have, it's depressing. I think about him everyday, even when i'm with someone else.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Apr 22, 2015 3:48 AM GMT
    Yes. It is fantastic. The security of it is what is so incredible.
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    Apr 22, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    Been there. Done that. Bad idea. Lust is the better, safer emotion, trust me. It's hard to get hurt when you keep it just physical.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Apr 22, 2015 5:20 AM GMT
    No too much stress.
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 22, 2015 5:34 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early saidBeen there. Done that. Bad idea. Lust is the better, safer emotion, trust me. It's hard to get hurt when you keep it just physical.

    "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

    I never seem to agree with that either, but for different reasons.
    But once you fall in love again, that previous hurt stops stinging.
    To get there, though, you have to let go a bit.
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 22, 2015 5:38 AM GMT
    collegedude12 saidWI don't think I've ever been happier with my life than I am right now. ...when I know i'm gonna see him soon my heart kinda flutters a little and I just start smiling lmao its weird but its a good weird.

    Yup. When suddenly you see yourself as a star-struck teenage girl, giggle about it and don't care who sees this... you're in love.
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    Apr 22, 2015 11:02 AM GMT
    my man thinks I'm back at work in Montreal and he's flying into Toronto from Las Vegas. he's been gone 3 weeks. I am barely able to stand still, keep grinning like a fool, and feel butterflies. I spent 2 hours at the florist yesterday picking flowers.
    If this isn't love then I don't know what is.
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    Apr 22, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    yes I am meh ;p