Radd saidDoes it really even matter? The only healthy option is to be yourself and hope that people who like your mannerisms will be attracted to you. That's all any of us can hope for.
See the thing is, what you said would be great if people could just respectfully leave it at that.
The reality is there are so many gay men who actually HATE effeminate mannerisms and effeminate men and verbally bash them for being different.
I really hate it when gay men say spiteful things about other gay men because they're a different type of gay, not realising that there are people in the world saying the same vitriol about them simply because they are gay, regardless of how masculine they are.
Countless stories about the U.S. having anti-gay proposals in the government arise so often now and what gay men have to understand is that there isn't going to be an exemption for those who are straight acting.
They don't give a shit, they just hate you because you're gay.
You could be the most masculine man ever on the planet and the fact that you are gay would still in their minds mean that you don't deserve rights to service or equality.
GAY men need to get over the fact that there are other kinds of gay men out there, effeminate, masculine, transgender or whatever.
Too often people yell and scream demanding respect; the same respect that they often lack in giving others.
Sorry this wasn't aimed at you personally, I was just saying this in general.