How Do You Know You're Gay?

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    Apr 22, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    I got the following message from the one and only member who is on my ignore list. Because he tends to be nasty without cause in the forums to other members I will post this here rather than get into a private argument defending myself.

    "Are you sure that you are GAY?. If you are open to do threesomes where women are included or having sex with trans men with vaginas. I dont think you are totally gay maybe you are bisexual. Gay men like dick andass"

    There is so much arrogance and ignorance wrapped up in that offensive message I hardly know where to start.
    Wait, how about I start with

    FUCK YOU.
    1- you don't get to define me.
    2- who cares what label I give myself? I am a man who is on love (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually) with another man. Yes I consider myself gay. I don't care what you think I am.
    3- so I have fantasies about watching my man fuck some chic. that has no bearing on my orientation. Anymore than a man who wants some other man to fuck his wife makes him gay.
    4- trans men are men. Some have had a meatoplasty and have a bigger cock than you. Some haven't had that surgery. I'm not transphobic and don't limit love. If I met a man and fell in love I'd find a way to get off with him regardless of what his genitals looked like.
    5- you don't get to decide who is gay and who is bi. it's my sex life. I will decide who I fuck.
    6- gay men like dick and ass huh? You are gifted with a particularly stunted imagination. my guy has a gorgeous ass and a big dick. He also has the deepest blue eyes, the handsomest face, the most infectious smile and laugh, amazing arms and sexy chest hair.

    Who elected you king of Gayville and arbiter of other people's sexuality?!???
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    Apr 22, 2015 5:47 PM GMT
    -are we talking about the same member who hypocritically fetishists men who have had sex with women, because they are the only ones that know how to make his "man pussy wet"?
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    Apr 22, 2015 5:50 PM GMT
    How do I know I'm gay:
    tumblr_nlsun83jpl1qkgbfeo1_400.jpg
    any question???
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    Apr 22, 2015 5:50 PM GMT
    I don't think so. This one viciously attacks men who didn't figure out until later in life they were gay. especially if they married and divorced women prior to coming out.
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    Apr 22, 2015 6:37 PM GMT
    When I put someone on the forums on ignore I also (site) block them so that I don't get any private messages from them.

    (Yet another forum bonehead design; it should automatically block them from sending you private messages when you forum block them.)
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    Apr 22, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    Wynd: So you finally received the "private message" from Juan. You are now official! Everyone receives them at some point. Don't sweat.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 22, 2015 7:02 PM GMT
    It's Juan and he's nuts. I don't even open his emails anymore. DELETE it.
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    Apr 22, 2015 7:04 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidIt's Juan and he's nuts. I don't even open his emails anymore. DELETE it.

    I don't why people don't put him on ignore.
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    Apr 22, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    If you go out on dates with gay guys instead of girls, you can be sure you are gay. lol If you just want to be blown by a guy once in awhile, but have no interest in having a relationship with a guy, then you may not be gay at all, but just bi curious about what it feels like to have a guy suck your dick or fuck you or maybe you just want to be laid and don't care who does it because you are so horny for a blow job or a fuck.
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    Apr 22, 2015 9:10 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidI don't think so. This one viciously attacks men who didn't figure out until later in life they were gay. especially if they married and divorced women prior to coming out.



    Well, that was easy to figure out who you meant, lol.
  • madsexy

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    Apr 22, 2015 11:56 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidWhen I put someone on the forums on ignore I also (site) block them so that I don't get any private messages from them.

    (Yet another forum bonehead design; it should automatically block them from sending you private messages when you forum block them.)

    AGREED - ADD MY VOTE for this enhancement to go on the list! icon_biggrin.gif

    On the OP's topic - this may be one asshole's bullying of the OP - but it is also way too common in our LGBT world. I continue asking - don't we get enough harassment from our attempt to just be able to be ourselves from outside our own population? WHY we have so many LGBTs who put down each other is just sad. icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 23, 2015 12:56 AM GMT
    Ohhh... I remember this guy...

    He tried asking me my opinions on bisexuality, then told me how wrong all my opinions were...

    Totally blocked and ignored... To the point that i forgot all about him until just now.
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    Apr 23, 2015 12:58 AM GMT
    don't let it get to you man. just be yourself.
  • kingcaleb80

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    Apr 23, 2015 1:37 AM GMT
    He's wrong. I'm gay and I don't like ass and dick. Just ass. But I wouldnt knock aanyone for whatever gets them off .
  • WorkItOut

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    Apr 23, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    We get enough shit from our enemies, we certainly don't need to be giving our own family a hard time. We're here to support each other that's why we have these kinds of communities. Not to tear our selves down based on a very stupid opinion that is just another label in the land of labels that we are trying so hard to shed.

    Be who you want to be, think of your self how you like and never let anyone dictate their values on you. Our pride flag has many colors for a reason. None of us are the same and we celebrate our diversity through mutual respect, care, and love for one another.

    That's my gay hippy speech. "Let it go, Let it go!"

    Now just make sure that guy is good and cock blocked. icon_smile.gif
  • monet

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    Apr 23, 2015 3:01 AM GMT
    I think that everyone is bisexual.

    Bisexuality is just a big continuum that goes from the far, far right to the far, far left and everyone just fits into that giant continuum at their own particular spot.

    As far as I am concerned nobody is "gay" or "straight". People who claim they are one or the other are just forcing themselves into a tight little box of duality when they could be enjoying a broader position on the spectrum of human sexuality.
  • Antarktis

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    Apr 23, 2015 4:15 AM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidI got the following message from the one and only member who is on my ignore list. Because he tends to be nasty without cause in the forums to other members I will post this here rather than get into a private argument defending myself.

    "Are you sure that you are GAY?. If you are open to do threesomes where women are included or having sex with trans men with vaginas. I dont think you are totally gay maybe you are bisexual. Gay men like dick andass"

    There is so much arrogance and ignorance wrapped up in that offensive message I hardly know where to start.
    Wait, how about I start with

    How about not.

    I am as cowboy as you get. You offend me. We raise the beef you eat, and fuck you.




    FUCK YOU.
    1- you don't get to define me.
    2- who cares what label I give myself? I am a man who is on love (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually) with another man. Yes I consider myself gay. I don't care what you think I am.
    3- so I have fantasies about watching my man fuck some chic. that has no bearing on my orientation. Anymore than a man who wants some other man to fuck his wife makes him gay.
    4- trans men are men. Some have had a meatoplasty and have a bigger cock than you. Some haven't had that surgery. I'm not transphobic and don't limit love. If I met a man and fell in love I'd find a way to get off with him regardless of what his genitals looked like.
    5- you don't get to decide who is gay and who is bi. it's my sex life. I will decide who I fuck.
    6- gay men like dick and ass huh? You are gifted with a particularly stunted imagination. my guy has a gorgeous ass and a big dick. He also has the deepest blue eyes, the handsomest face, the most infectious smile and laugh, amazing arms and sexy chest hair.

    Who elected you king of Gayville and arbiter of other people's sexuality?!???
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    Apr 23, 2015 4:54 AM GMT
    He's not worth your time. Forget about the negative people, don't let the idiotic ones affect you.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Apr 23, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
    Bored zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
  • jeepguySD

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    Apr 23, 2015 10:53 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidHow do I know I'm gay:
    tumblr_nlsun83jpl1qkgbfeo1_400.jpg
    any question???


    Very concise! A picture is still worth a thousand words.
  • mwolverine

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    Apr 23, 2015 1:02 PM GMT
    A few sweet nothings are worth even more. icon_smile.gif
  • Relajado

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    Apr 23, 2015 4:31 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidHow do I know I'm gay:
    tumblr_nlsun83jpl1qkgbfeo1_400.jpg
    any question???


    He's hella handsome!
  • Farmboy8

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    Apr 23, 2015 5:39 PM GMT
    Interesting.....here I thought I was the only one who that dude harrassed. I finally asked him why he wastes his time with all of his repeated questions and my refusal to get wrapped up in his bullshit, he answered with " Because I want to be friends". Yikes.... I don't get it!!
    Best advice has already been offered, just ignore him and don't let it get to you.
  • jeep334

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    Apr 23, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi said

    Who elected you king of Gayville and arbiter of other people's sexuality?!???



    This is so true. +100. The human race is so difficult to figure out it's sometimes better not to even try because it might end up a waste of time. Even Dr. Phil lost big points on this matter when he described what an interview would be like with Bruce Jenner after the first 30 seconds:

    "Dr. Phil McGraw joked about not getting an exclusive interview with Bruce Jenner while appearing on "Jimmy Kimmel Live" on Wednesday. "It would be boring to talk to me about that," McGraw said. "First off, I would just say, 'Look, if it's what you want to do, do it. What the hell does it matter what anybody else thinks?"

    "That'd be the first thirty seconds," McGraw continued. "I guess we'd spend the next hour and 59 minutes saying, 'You're almost 80. What's the point?'"


    I wish he had stopped after the first 30 seconds. What's the point or anybody knowing the point? There are valid discussions to be had I'm sure, especially when speaking with someone of the stature of Jenner. But you and me? It's nobody's business. Why should it be? Part of the support we can offer to each other is to allow each of us our own space and lives.

    Placing some people on ignore is the best way. Sort of like a huge spam folder. It works. icon_cool.gif







  • Peterluke

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    Apr 23, 2015 11:04 PM GMT
    You orientation does not matter. Sexuality is pretty much flexible . Sadly, people put labels on people. You can check this web site for the type of sexuality http://amplifyyourvoice.org/u/kevz/2013/05/31/seven-types-of-sexuality

    But I know gay people can be often hurtful. It is a really trashy community. They are not inclusive at all but they want inclusivity from heterosexuals. It is a lot contradictory. So don't listen to the gays that want to fit in. Just be yourself. I'm all for the lgbt rights, but the community is just bad. They are often snubbish, elitist, alcoholics, drug addicts, addicted to sex. So don't be offend by them really.

    Have sex or have your boyfriend, but don't expect anything from the community. They really don't care unless you are attractive to them. Just telling my opinion.